Word for not changing your mind

My dad told me he would buy me a laptop, but when he saw the price in the shop he changed his mind. He said he has never said that. Because he saw that the price is too high and the laptop is too expensive.

Is there a word for this, i.e. for not doing what you agreed to?

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There are several ways to say that:

  • X went back on his promise/word
  • X reneged on his promise

The one I love is:

  • X back-pedalled (on his promise)

answered Jan 24, 2021 at 11:43

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Your father balked at the price.

per Dictionary.com: to stop, as at an obstacle, and refuse to proceed or to do something specified (usually followed by at):

When applied to horses, the word means to stop in the middle of a path and refuse to go on. For humans, it often means to refuse to participate in a transaction once the full details have been made clear.

Example:

House Democrats on Monday night balked at President Trump’s proposed payroll tax cut designed to help shore up the economy. The Hill

answered Jan 25, 2021 at 1:35

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If you need a single word you could say reconsider (WordHippo)

To alter one’s opinion about something

  • The episode had made him reconsider, like a great sickness or a bereavement.

if a phrase is acceptable, you could say that your dad broke his promise. «To break a promise» means

to not do what one said one would definitely do (Merriam-Webster)

There is also
break (one’s) word

To fail to act as one has promised.

  • Tom said he’d help us move, but he
    broke his word and failed to show. (Free dictionary)

answered Jan 24, 2021 at 21:44

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«Sticker shock» describes the phenomenon of looking into buying something, and being surprised about how much it actually costs.

answered Jan 24, 2021 at 22:04

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He said he has never said that.

We might also say, in this case, that he has a «selective memory», as he has conveniently forgotten what his earlier promise was. It would be even more applicable if he said he didn’t remember making that promise.

Also, if he didn’t actually use the word promise, then we could say something similar about you!

Try negotiating down the i7.

answered Jan 24, 2021 at 21:36

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Another possibility, which is a fairly informal US usage, is *he walked back on his promise».

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I’m surprised no one has said «bailed» yet.

He bailed on me.

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Значит, ты не передумаешь?

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Ты не собираешься передумать.

So you’re not gonna

change your mind

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Но ты же не передумаешь меня усыновлять?

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больно, но ты не передумаешь?

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“The cooling-off period allows you to change your mind and cancel the contract without any reason.”…What is another word for change your mind?

move budge
change backtrack
reconsider reverse
alter backpedal
modify reappraise

Why changing your mind is good?

But in the scheme of things, changing your mind says more good things about your personality than it does bad. It shows you have a sense of awareness and curiosity, and that you can admit and reflect when decisions have been flawed or mistakes have been made.

Can you change your mind?

Neuroplasticity is the mind’s ability to change the brain. Yes, you read that right. Neuroplasticity radically reverses ages of scientific dogma which held that mental experiences result only from physical goings-on in the brain, and we can’t do much about it. So, when you change your mind, you change your brain.

Is changing your mind considered lying?

Something that is said that is believed at the time and is later found to be incorrect is not a lie. Changing your mind is generally not considered a lie as long as you stated what you believed or planned at the time it was said.

How do I change my mind?

Here are 7 effective ways you can upgrade your mindset:

  1. Change your Self-Talk.
  2. Change your Language.
  3. Determine the mindset you need and act as if.
  4. Learn & Apply.
  5. Surround yourself with people that match your desired mindset.
  6. Create new habits to support your mindset change.
  7. Jump out of your comfort zone.

Is it okay to change who you are?

It’s okay to replace your identity with the new one that you are proud of. This is your journey and you can change what you don’t like about yourself without giving so many explanations to the world. You can evolve anytime that you want and not have to wait for the perfect time. You shouldn’t feel guilty for changing.4

Can a man change because of love?

Did you know that according to Broadly, “studies show heterosexual men tend to fall in love, or believe they have fallen in love, much faster” than their female partners? Men want and need love too. And if you’ve ever asked, “will a man change for a woman he loves?” the answer is a resounding yes.16

What to do if love is fading away?

When Love Fades Away: Renewing The Romantic Attraction In Relationships

  1. Signs You Might Need to Take Action.
  2. First Things First: Understanding the Science of Romance.
  3. Bring Back Date Night.
  4. Start a Hobby Together.
  5. Kiss More Often.
  6. Do Something Spontaneous.
  7. Don’t be Afraid to be Naughty.
  8. Renew Your Vows.

Can your feelings for someone change?

Having or feeling an emotional connection with someone is not easy to explain. But feelings do change. Feelings change for many reasons and is a natural progression of any relationship. Some reasons include having children, a stressful job, growing as an individual person or going down separate paths.18

How do you regain feelings for someone?

9 ways to reconnect to your loving feelings.

  1. Resist entering a critical mode.
  2. Treat your partner with kindness.
  3. Take advantage of what you love about your partner.
  4. Share lively, non-routine experiences.
  5. Maintain and support your and your partner’s individual interests.
  6. Talk personally.
  7. Don’t give up intimacy.

How do you emotionally detach from someone?

How to Detach?

  1. Ask yourself if you’re in reality or denial.
  2. Examine whether your expectations of the other person reasonable.
  3. Honestly examine your motivations.
  4. Practice allowing and accepting reality in all aspects of your life.
  5. Allow your feelings.
  6. Practice meditation to be more attached and less reactive.

How do you get over someone you love deeply?

How To Get Over Someone You Deeply Love

  1. Remember There’s No Time Limit.
  2. Let Yourself Feel Your Emotions.
  3. Remove Your Ex From Social Media and Your Phone.
  4. Remember To Love Yourself.
  5. Write Down How You Feel.
  6. Turn Your Energy Into Something Positive.
  7. Don’t Hold On To Anger And Blame.
  8. Don’t Torture Yourself.

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What is the meaning of the word stubbron?

Someone who is stubborn is strong-willed and cannot be persuaded
to change his or her mind easily. The dictionary gives the
definition of stubborn as «a tenacious unwillingness to yield.»


What is the root word for mind?

The root word for mind is ment. For instance, mental means to
the mind.


What is the past participle of the word mind?

The past participle for the word mind is minded


What is another word for sharpness of mind?

Mind wrenching


When you hear the word change what comes to mind?

Car wash money !!
The jingle in my front pocket .
Just what are you looking for ? a Presidential statement ?

change  — изменение, смена, замена, изменяться, изменять, разменный
mind  — разум, ум, внимание, взгляд, возражать, помнить, мягкий, слабый

She changed her mind.

Она изменила своё мнение. / Она передумала.

What caused you to change your mind?

Что заставило вас передумать?

Beelzebub himself could not change her mind.

Сам Вельзевул не мог заставить его передумать.

He hoped secretly she would change her mind.

Втайне он надеялся на то, что она передумает.

Bit by bit, I was starting to change my mind.

Постепенно я начал менять своё мнение.

By late afternoon, Micky had changed his mind.

К вечеру, Микки передумал.

Her father tried to get her to change her mind.

Её отец попытался заставить её передумать.

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Bonnie: Why are you doing this?
Kate: Yes, I'd like to know that too. You set this up -- why?
The Doctor: Because it's not a game, Kate. This is a scale model of war. Every war ever fought right there in front of you. Because it's always the same. When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die. You don't know who's children are going to scream and burn. How many hearts will be broken! How many lives shattered! How much blood will spill until everybody does what they're always going to have to do from the very beginning -- sit down and talk! Listen to me, listen. I just -- I just want you to think. Do you know what thinking is? It's just a fancy word for changing your mind.
Bonnie: I will not change my mind.
The Doctor: Then you will die stupid. Alternatively, you could step away from that box. You could walk right out of that door, and you could stand your revolution down.
Bonnie: No, I'm not stopping this, Doctor. I started it. I will not stop it. You think they'll let me go after what I've done?
The Doctor: You're all the same, you screaming kids, you know that? "Look at me, I'm unforgivable." Well here's the unforeseeable, I forgive you. After all you've done. I forgive you.
Bonnie: You don't understand. You will never understand.
The Doctor: I don't understand? Are you kidding? Me? Of course I understand. I mean, do you call this a war, this funny little thing? This is not a war. I fought in a bigger war than you will ever know. I did worse things than you could ever imagine, and when I close my eyes... I hear more screams than anyone could ever be able to count! And do you know what you do with all that pain? Shall I tell you where you put it? You hold it tight... Til it burns your hand. And you say this -- no one else will ever have to live like this. No one else will ever have to feel this pain. Not on my watch.
[Kate closes her box.]
The Doctor: Thank you. Thank you.
Kate: I'm sorry.
The Doctor: I know. I know, thank you.

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change your mind about — перевод на русский

— Did Susan change her mind about the name?

— Сьюзан передумала…

I was almost finished with the dinner prep, and then I changed my mind about two of the appetizers.

Я почти закончила готовить обед, а потом передумала и решила поменять две закуски.

Did you change your mind about having love, making sex, penis, vagina.

Ты передумала. С тобой можно переспать? Потрахаться?

Hi, Dad, um, changed my mind about coming over.

Привет, пап. Я передумала и решила к тебе зайти.

You thought if you helped her with her work, she might change her mind about advising you.

Вы подумали, что если бы вы помогли ей в работе, она, возможно, передумала и стала бы вашим консультантом.

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— You’ve changed your mind about him?

— Кажеться, ты изменил свое мнение о нем?

Now he’s changed his mind about his route, different cameras might come up trumps.

Теперь он изменил свое мнение о маршруте, разные камеры могут дать нам козыри.

Change your mind about Tracy Strauss?

Изменил свое мнение о Трейси Штраус?

You’re changing your mind about Jim?

Ты изменил свое мнение о Джиме?

I told him you changed your mind about us coming.

Я сказал ему, что ты изменил своё мнение о нашей поездке.

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You haven’t changed your mind about King, have you?

Ты же не передумала на счёт Кинга, так ведь?

I’ve changed my mind about the operation.

Я… я передумала на счет операции.

I think that’s why she changed her mind about the operation.

Думаю, поэтому она передумала на счет операции.

Sure you won’t change your mind about this?

Точно не передумаешь на счёт этого?

Please, um, let me know if you change your mind about the weekend.

Пожалуйста, дай мне знать если ты передумаешь на счет этих выходных.

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That’s why he changed his mind about the guns.

Вот почему он поменял свое мнение насчет оружия.

I changed my mind about that.

Я поменял свое мнение насчет этого.

You changed his mind about the case?

Ты поменял своё мнение о том деле?

Folks in western Colorado had four chances to change their minds about Bob Russell, and they haven’t.

Люди в Западном Колорадо четыре раза могли поменять своё мнение о Бобе Расселе, но они этого не сделали.

The president hasn’t changed his mind about coming?

Президент не поменял мнения относительно своего прихода сюда?

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Not too late to change your mind about leaving.

Еще не поздно, чтобы изменить ваше решение и уйти.

But it’s not too late to change your mind about leaving.

Но ещё не слишком поздно, чтобы изменить ваше решение и уйти.

I guess you changed your mind about that proposal I made.

Полагаю, ты изменил решение насчет моего предложения.

Because he’s the reason I decided to change my mind about doing this whole thing.

Потому что из-за него я изменил решение насчет всего этого.

Mr Kane has changed his mind about Glitz’s spacecraft.

Мистер Кейн изменил свое решение относительно корабля Глейтца.

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Hey, hey, listen, Elaine, I changed my mind about the whole coma thing.

Эй, послушай, Элейн. Я изменил мнение по поводу комы.

If Roy changed his mind about using him, it’s gotta be for a good reason.

Если Рой изменил мнение по поводу него, то должна быть причина.

Changed his mind about your situation.

Изменил мнение по поводу твоей ситуации.

But, it wasn’t too long before my parents changed their minds about my job at the cabstand.

Hо очень скоро мои родители изменили своё мнение по поводу моей работы.

I may just have changed my mind about that.

Я, возможно, уже изменил мнение по этому поводу.

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She changed her mind about my son.

Она передумала по поводу моего сына.

You change your mind about my offer?

Передумала по поводу моего предложения?

Showed up for the deposition, then suddenly changed her mind about the whole thing.

Пришла на дачу показаний, а затем внезапно передумала по поводу этого.

It’s not late for you to change your mind about revisiting the old alma mater.

Еще не поздно передумать по поводу поездки в твою старую Альма Матер.

I might have changed my mind about having sex right away.

Я могу передумать по поводу занятий сексом прямо сейчас.

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The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things and see that there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown.

Родина (Сезон 6 ) Серия 3 «Завет» Первая революция — это когда ты меняешь свой взгляд на происходящее и видишь, что есть другая точка зрения, которую тебе не показывали.

The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things and see there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown.

Первая революция — это когда ты меняешь свой взгляд на происходящее и видишь, что есть другая точка зрения, которую тебе не показывали.

The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things and see that there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown.

Первая революция — это когда ты меняешь свой взгляд на происходящее и видишь, что есть другая точка зрения, которую тебе не показывали.

The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things and see there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown.

Родина (Сезон 6 ) Серия 7 «Неизбежный риск» Первая революция — это когда ты меняешь свой взгляд на происходящее и видишь, что есть другая точка зрения, которую тебе не показывали.

The first revolution is when you change your mind about how you look at things and see that there might be another way to look at it that you have not been shown.

Родина (Сезон 6 ) Серия 9 «Марионетки» Первая революция — это когда ты меняешь свой взгляд на происходящее и видишь, что есть другая точка зрения, которую тебе не показывали.

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What’s made you change your mind about Tibbs?

Что заставило тебя изменить отношение к Тиббсу?

So, what made you change your mind about Stella?

Так, что заставило тебя изменить своё отношение к Стелле?

You already said whatever’s in the suitcase won’t change your mind about Amanda.

Ты ведь уже сказал, что содержимое чемодана не изменит твоё отношение к Аманде.

Because I’m going to change his mind about dragons.

Потому что я изменю его отношение к драконам.

Thinking rationally, she’ll see her maternal urges as the short-sighted instincts that they really are and change her mind about keeping the child.

Нужно найти способ изменить отношение Макса и Томми к музыке. Да! Превосходно!

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I’ll come back to see you. I you expect to change my mind about the kid, I can already tell you it won’t happen.

Если вы рассчитываете переубедить меня, говорю вам сразу — зря стараетесь.

Did you change his mind about the rules?

Ты переубедил его относительно условий?

No one can change my mind about this. Not you, not the media, not anyone.

Никто меня не переубедит насчёт того — ни ты, ни пресса, никто.

Changed your mind about anything. — she’s my daughter.

— Она моя дочь. Если я хочу увидеть ее, ты меня не переубедишь.

I want you to change his mind about the stadium site.

Я хочу, чтобы ты переубедила его насчет места стадиона.

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The economist J.K. Galbraith once wrote, “Faced with a choice between changing one’s mind and proving there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy with the proof.”

Leo Tolstoy was even bolder: “The most difficult subjects can be explained to the most slow-witted man if he has not formed any idea of them already; but the simplest thing cannot be made clear to the most intelligent man if he is firmly persuaded that he knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before him.”

What’s going on here? Why don’t facts change our minds? And why would someone continue to believe a false or inaccurate idea anyway? How do such behaviors serve us?

The Logic of False Beliefs

Humans need a reasonably accurate view of the world in order to survive. If your model of reality is wildly different from the actual world, then you struggle to take effective actions each day. 1

However, truth and accuracy are not the only things that matter to the human mind. Humans also seem to have a deep desire to belong.

In Atomic Habits, I wrote, “Humans are herd animals. We want to fit in, to bond with others, and to earn the respect and approval of our peers. Such inclinations are essential to our survival. For most of our evolutionary history, our ancestors lived in tribes. Becoming separated from the tribe—or worse, being cast out—was a death sentence.”

Understanding the truth of a situation is important, but so is remaining part of a tribe. While these two desires often work well together, they occasionally come into conflict.

In many circumstances, social connection is actually more helpful to your daily life than understanding the truth of a particular fact or idea. The Harvard psychologist Steven Pinker put it this way, “People are embraced or condemned according to their beliefs, so one function of the mind may be to hold beliefs that bring the belief-holder the greatest number of allies, protectors, or disciples, rather than beliefs that are most likely to be true.” 2

We don’t always believe things because they are correct. Sometimes we believe things because they make us look good to the people we care about.

I thought Kevin Simler put it well when he wrote, “If a brain anticipates that it will be rewarded for adopting a particular belief, it’s perfectly happy to do so, and doesn’t much care where the reward comes from — whether it’s pragmatic (better outcomes resulting from better decisions), social (better treatment from one’s peers), or some mix of the two.” 3

False beliefs can be useful in a social sense even if they are not useful in a factual sense. For lack of a better phrase, we might call this approach “factually false, but socially accurate.” 4 When we have to choose between the two, people often select friends and family over facts.

This insight not only explains why we might hold our tongue at a dinner party or look the other way when our parents say something offensive, but also reveals a better way to change the minds of others.

Facts Don’t Change Our Minds. Friendship Does.

Convincing someone to change their mind is really the process of convincing them to change their tribe. If they abandon their beliefs, they run the risk of losing social ties. You can’t expect someone to change their mind if you take away their community too. You have to give them somewhere to go. Nobody wants their worldview torn apart if loneliness is the outcome.

The way to change people’s minds is to become friends with them, to integrate them into your tribe, to bring them into your circle. Now, they can change their beliefs without the risk of being abandoned socially.

The British philosopher Alain de Botton suggests that we simply share meals with those who disagree with us:

“Sitting down at a table with a group of strangers has the incomparable and odd benefit of making it a little more difficult to hate them with impunity. Prejudice and ethnic strife feed off abstraction. However, the proximity required by a meal – something about handing dishes around, unfurling napkins at the same moment, even asking a stranger to pass the salt – disrupts our ability to cling to the belief that the outsiders who wear unusual clothes and speak in distinctive accents deserve to be sent home or assaulted. For all the large-scale political solutions which have been proposed to salve ethnic conflict, there are few more effective ways to promote tolerance between suspicious neighbours than to force them to eat supper together.” 5

Perhaps it is not difference, but distance that breeds tribalism and hostility. As proximity increases, so does understanding. I am reminded of Abraham Lincoln’s quote, “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”

Facts don’t change our minds. Friendship does.

The Spectrum of Beliefs

Years ago, Ben Casnocha mentioned an idea to me that I haven’t been able to shake: The people who are most likely to change our minds are the ones we agree with on 98 percent of topics.

If someone you know, like, and trust believes a radical idea, you are more likely to give it merit, weight, or consideration. You already agree with them in most areas of life. Maybe you should change your mind on this one too. But if someone wildly different than you proposes the same radical idea, well, it’s easy to dismiss them as a crackpot.

One way to visualize this distinction is by mapping beliefs on a spectrum. If you divide this spectrum into 10 units and you find yourself at Position 7, then there is little sense in trying to convince someone at Position 1. The gap is too wide. When you’re at Position 7, your time is better spent connecting with people who are at Positions 6 and 8, gradually pulling them in your direction.

The most heated arguments often occur between people on opposite ends of the spectrum, but the most frequent learning occurs from people who are nearby. The closer you are to someone, the more likely it becomes that the one or two beliefs you don’t share will bleed over into your own mind and shape your thinking. The further away an idea is from your current position, the more likely you are to reject it outright.

When it comes to changing people’s minds, it is very difficult to jump from one side to another. You can’t jump down the spectrum. You have to slide down it.

Any idea that is sufficiently different from your current worldview will feel threatening. And the best place to ponder a threatening idea is in a non-threatening environment. As a result, books are often a better vehicle for transforming beliefs than conversations or debates.

In conversation, people have to carefully consider their status and appearance. They want to save face and avoid looking stupid. When confronted with an uncomfortable set of facts, the tendency is often to double down on their current position rather than publicly admit to being wrong.

Books resolve this tension. With a book, the conversation takes place inside someone’s head and without the risk of being judged by others. It’s easier to be open-minded when you aren’t feeling defensive.

Arguments are like a full frontal attack on a person’s identity. Reading a book is like slipping the seed of an idea into a person’s brain and letting it grow on their own terms. There’s enough wrestling going on in someone’s head when they are overcoming a pre-existing belief. They don’t need to wrestle with you too.

Why False Ideas Persist

There is another reason bad ideas continue to live on, which is that people continue to talk about them.

Silence is death for any idea. An idea that is never spoken or written down dies with the person who conceived it. Ideas can only be remembered when they are repeated. They can only be believed when they are repeated.

I have already pointed out that people repeat ideas to signal they are part of the same social group. But here’s a crucial point most people miss:

People also repeat bad ideas when they complain about them. Before you can criticize an idea, you have to reference that idea. You end up repeating the ideas you’re hoping people will forget—but, of course, people can’t forget them because you keep talking about them. The more you repeat a bad idea, the more likely people are to believe it. 6

Let’s call this phenomenon Clear’s Law of Recurrence: The number of people who believe an idea is directly proportional to the number of times it has been repeated during the last year—even if the idea is false. 7

Each time you attack a bad idea, you are feeding the very monster you are trying to destroy. As one Twitter employee wrote, “Every time you retweet or quote tweet someone you’re angry with, it helps them. It disseminates their BS. Hell for the ideas you deplore is silence. Have the discipline to give it to them.” 8

Your time is better spent championing good ideas than tearing down bad ones. Don’t waste time explaining why bad ideas are bad. You are simply fanning the flame of ignorance and stupidity.

The best thing that can happen to a bad idea is that it is forgotten. The best thing that can happen to a good idea is that it is shared. It makes me think of Tyler Cowen’s quote, “Spend as little time as possible talking about how other people are wrong.”

Feed the good ideas and let bad ideas die of starvation.

The Intellectual Soldier

I know what you might be thinking. “James, are you serious right now? I’m just supposed to let these idiots get away with this?”

Let me be clear. I’m not saying it’s never useful to point out an error or criticize a bad idea. But you have to ask yourself, “What is the goal?”

Why do you want to criticize bad ideas in the first place? Presumably, you want to criticize bad ideas because you think the world would be better off if fewer people believed them. In other words, you think the world would improve if people changed their minds on a few important topics.

If the goal is to actually change minds, then I don’t believe criticizing the other side is the best approach.

Most people argue to win, not to learn. As Julia Galef so aptly puts it: people often act like soldiers rather than scouts. Soldiers are on the intellectual attack, looking to defeat the people who differ from them. Victory is the operative emotion. Scouts, meanwhile, are like intellectual explorers, slowly trying to map the terrain with others. Curiosity is the driving force. 9

If you want people to adopt your beliefs, you need to act more like a scout and less like a soldier. At the center of this approach is a question Tiago Forte poses beautifully, “Are you willing to not win in order to keep the conversation going?”

Be Kind First, Be Right Later

The brilliant Japanese writer Haruki Murakami once wrote, “Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”10

When we are in the moment, we can easily forget that the goal is to connect with the other side, collaborate with them, befriend them, and integrate them into our tribe. We are so caught up in winning that we forget about connecting. It’s easy to spend your energy labeling people rather than working with them.

The word “kind” originated from the word “kin.” When you are kind to someone it means you are treating them like family. This, I think, is a good method for actually changing someone’s mind. Develop a friendship. Share a meal. Gift a book.

Be kind first, be right later. 11

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