I’m looking for a word with a positive undertone to describe a teenager who does her own thing and doesn’t cave in to peer pressure. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Question edited 1/30/16. Someone marked this question as a duplicate, but I think the other question is quite different from the one already posted. The other question is asking about a single word to describe someone who doesn’t follow the crowd for the single purpose of being contrary. A contrary state of mind has nothing to do with what I’m looking for. I’m writing a recommendation for a teenager who is polite, independent, confident, and doesn’t follow the crowd… NOT out of a sense of being different for the sake of being different, and not because she’s ornery and contrary, but because she’s her own person, and not swayed by what the other teens are doing. Can we re-open this discussion?
asked Jan 29, 2016 at 19:19
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In one word «independent», in two «independent minded».
answered Jan 29, 2016 at 22:25
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Consider Maverick:
A person who shows independence of thought and action, especially by refusing to adhere to the policies of a group to which he or she belongs. (TFD)
a person who refuses to follow the customs or rules of a group (M-W)
answered Jan 29, 2016 at 19:30
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lone wolf
a person who does not conform to generally accepted standards or customs
On the link, there are many good synonyms as well, including «counterculturist», and «individualist».
answered Jan 29, 2016 at 19:53
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free spirit
Google Definition:
noun
an independent or uninhibited person.
It’s synonymous with nonconformist, but IMO it doesn’t have the rebel without a cause undertone.
Google definition:
noun
a person who does not conform to prevailing ideas or practices in their behaviour or views.
answered Jan 29, 2016 at 19:26
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How about nonconformist? Or independent-minded?
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«Independent-minded» fits, but not «independent» because that could mean she doesn’t work well with others. Is she «self-actualized»?
answered Feb 1, 2016 at 16:19
One possibility is self-confident:
Confidence is a feeling of trust in someone or something. To be self-confident is to have confidence in yourself. Self-confident people don’t doubt themselves. This is usually a positive word: you can be self-confident without being cocky, arrogant, or overconfident. If you know what you’re doing, you have every reason to be self-confident.
Vocabulary.com
answered Jan 30, 2016 at 1:17
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eagle-spirited
He was the most dedicated, eagle-spirited, student-encouraging and highly moraled man there. Tributes
spirited: having a specified mood, disposition, or nature (used in combination): high-spirited; mean-spirited. Random House Kernerman Webster’s College Dictionary
answered Feb 1, 2016 at 17:44
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Try radical or contrarian, independent thinker who rejects majority opinion.
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Iconoclast
a destroyer of images used in religious worship, in particular
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Being a SMART follower is an important skill. You need to be able to listen, take instruction from others, and work well as a team. Being able to follow helps you become a better leader. Taking the leap from being a follower to a leader isn’t as easy you would think.
Becoming a SMART leader is about more than being in charge or just giving orders. You need to be able to lead by example, be self-aware of your strengths and weaknesses, and properly motivate your team. Here are some steps you need to take if you are ready to become the SMART leader you want to be!
Start by Being a Good Follower
SMART leaders are only ever as effective as their ability to engage their followers. You can’t be a leader without having followers, and that means knowing what it means to be a follower.
According to Harvard Business Research “People will be more effective leaders when their behaviors indicate that they are one of us, because they share our values, concerns and experiences, and are doing it for us, by looking to advance the interests of the group rather than own personal interests.”
In other words, distancing yourself from your followers is a recipe for failure. Adopting behaviors that people associate with leaders rather than followers can backfire. Those who want to lead are better served by first striving to follow.
Seek Out Opportunities to Be a Leader
Be proactive. Look for opportunities to lead and serve. This will help you prove your skillset and continuously improve. If you want to be a leader, you need to find, and sometimes create, opportunities for yourself.
If you take the opportunity to lead and work at levels above your current job or pay-level, when it comes time for promotion, you have already proven your abilities. Don’t take the attitude that you will do more if you are paid more, but take the attitude that you should be paid more because you are doing more.
Assess and Understand Your Strengths
Good leaders have a high degree of self-awareness. They know their impact on others and know what their weaknesses and know what their strengths are. This will help you understand what areas you need to work on, and what skills you can leverage the most to have the greatest impact.
Different leaders lead in different ways. There is no cookie-cutter recipe for being a great leader. Being a great leader means taking your personal skills into account. Think about the ways that you have used your strengths in the past and what skills differentiate you from other people. Once you have identified your strengths, you can find ways to grow and develop them.
Improve Your Professional Knowledge
While you can develop your leadership skills while on the job or by seeking other leadership opportunities, continue to develop your knowledge and skills through further education.
Formal education can help you gain more opportunities. If you don’t have the resources or time for a full-time degree, look to take classes in certain specialties or certifications that give you a leg-up. It can make it easier to find the opportunities that you want.
Continuing to develop your skills can positively impact any organization and amplify your career prospects. While there are plenty of tips for supporting teams that you can learn, the most important thing you can do is learn to listen.
By listening carefully, asking questions, and actively engaging in conversation, you can accumulate valuable knowledge that easily translates into being able to make informed decisions. It can help you direct teammates effectively and build strong relationships throughout all levels of an organization.
Choose a well-known certification for the field you are in. If you are in project management, the PMP Exam Certification can significantly augment your pay range and benefits. Continuing education can also help you stay ahead of the curve in today’s economy.
Focus on Your Communication Skills
Good communication is vital for any leader. You won’t get far if you’re unable to communicate with people who have different styles in different situations. You need to develop a wide range of communication skills, from negotiation skills, conflict management, public speaking, and even being able to craft a good email.
A good leader should be able to identify their message and adapt it for the audience that they’re communicating with. There are plenty of ways to improve your communication skills, so find opportunities that allow you to practice and learn.
Knowing How to Motivate and Inspire
Being a good leader means knowing when and how to give people the motivation and encouragement they need to get the job done. Leadership is about influencing others to do things they normally wouldn’t do. Being inspirational helps others to follow you, especially in difficult circumstances.
Motivating people means being able to identify what truly inspires loyal human beings to enthusiastically perform at a high level. You need to understand that emotions are at the root of human motivation. It’s how people “feel” that drive motivation. Learn to create the right atmosphere for motivating others.
Don’t Be Afraid to Try New Things
A good leader doesn’t get stuck in their ways. If you want to move from being a follower to a leader, you need to be prepared to move out of your comfort zone. Being a leader involves learning new skills and being willing to keep developing your leadership abilities.
Even if you are experienced and have been in leadership positions for a long time, we all still have plenty to learn. Things are changing all the time, and you can always discover new ways to approach your leadership role.
Be a Leader, Not a Boss
The one thing that many people hope for at work is to have a leader and not just a boss. A boss will tell you what to do. A leader will show you how and why to do it. There is a big difference. Many people equate a position with being a leader, but it is important to know that a title doesn’t make you a leader.
Bosses know the ins and outs of their field, while leaders know the ins and outs of how to deal with people. Bosses will focus on accomplishing a task, while a leader will focus on developing others. Leaders want to leave a legacy greater than themselves. Knowing these differences will help you grow as a true leader instead of just being a follower with a leadership title.
How to be a leader, not a follower comes naturally to some people, but to the majority of us, it seems easier to follow the crowd.
But research has shown that everyone can learn how to be a leader, not a follower, and use their influence, abilities, skills, and voice to impact the world in a positive way.
We may never be a CEO or President, but we can be a leader when it matters.
When I was in sixth grade, there was a small stream that ran behind my school. We were forbidden to walk by the stream because it was dangerous and isolated.
One day a friend suggested we walk home on the path beside the water. I knew it was wrong and didn’t really want to take that route, but followed the crowd.
Someone suggested it would be fun to walk through the water to get to the other side. Another bad idea.
Before I stepped into the chilly water, I tried to toss my shoes and mood ring across the stream. I watched helplessly as they plunged into the water, disappearing.
Why didn’t I speak up? Why is it so hard to go against the crowd? Why did I throw my shoes and favorite mood ring into the water?
It is hard for a 12-year-old to speak up and be a leader, not a follower but it’s not always easy for adults either.
Why do we do things that cost us because we are afraid to speak up or be different?
In order to be a leader, we have to feel strongly about our purpose and willing to stand alone. We have to be secure in our identity in Christ and willing to be rejected and face disapproval.
Wrestling with these deep convictions about ourselves can teach us how to be a leader, not a follower.
Why Do People Follow the Crowd?
Why do people follow the crowd? It’s just easier and causes less friction. When we follow the crowd, we validate each other and can get a lot done working in unity.
Sometimes following the crowd makes sense but other times we need to be the person willing to step up and lead.
Most of us struggle at times to lead and not follow the crowd. Even Jesus’ disciples struggled with how to be a leader, not a follower.
Prior to Jesus’ arrest and crucifixion, he went to the Garden of Gethsemane with his disciples:
“Now Judas, who was betraying Him, knew the place because Jesus had often met there with his disciples. So Judas having obtained the Roman cohort and some officers from the high priest and the Pharisees came there with lanterns and torches and weapons.
Then Jesus, knowing all that was about to happen to him, went out and asked them, who is it you want? Jesus of Nazareth, they replied. Jesus said, “I am He”. …. They drew back and fell to the ground.”
John 18:2-6 AMP
In this story, a group of Jewish leaders led approximately 600 men to confront Jesus and a few disciples. They approached at night with weapons but fell to the ground when Jesus identified who he was and were awed by his deity.
It is safe to say most of these men feared Jesus’ power, knew of his miraculous works but still proceeded to follow the crowd, arrest Jesus and bring Him to trial.
The crowd proceeded to condemn Jesus to murder because He claimed to be the Son of God and was performing miracles on the Sabbath. They brought Him before Annas and Caiaphas, the Jewish High Priests and Pilate.
The “trial” was conducted at night which was against Jewish law. The Jews did not enter the Gentile’s room because it was unclean and they did not want to miss their Passover.
Here we see men who were scrupulous about following Jewish laws but in a crowd lost their convictions and openly disregarded laws that might thwart their desire to carry out judicial murder.
How did each man in this group make the decision to pursue and arrest Jesus? Even after witnessing healings, they continued with the arrest. Who was calling the shots for them? How much thought did they put into their actions or did they put their minds on cruise control? Were they afraid of the ramifications of being a leader and speaking out?
We probably won’t face this type of pressure, but we all have to make choices.
Ultimately why do people follow the crowd? We are afraid to stand alone and go against the tide of a group. Whether choosing a restaurant, letting our teenagers go somewhere, or participating in an activity we are uncomfortable with it takes courage to be a leader and not follow the crowd.
Can Everyone Be a Leader?
Can everyone be a leader? Studies show that everyone can be a leader. We are not all born natural leaders but we can be situational leaders.
Approximately only 10 percent of the population are natural leaders who take charge. The rest of us can be situational leaders in our corner of the world.
When we are called to lead in a certain situation, we can ask for advice but ultimately make a decision by standing strong and not getting caught up in what others think we should do.
Groupthink is a term coined by social psychologist Irving James in 1972. It occurs when a person makes faulty decisions because of a group’s pressure. It leads to a deterioration of moral judgment.
“Groupthink is a phenomenon that occurs when a group of well-intentioned people makes irrational or non-optimal decisions spurred by the urge to conform or the belief that dissent is impossible.”
Psychology Today
When we engage in groupthink, we ignore our own convictions to feel accepted and tend to take irrational actions that dehumanize or discourage others.
We are particularly vulnerable when members are similar in background, insulated from outside opinions and there are no clear rules for decision making. Children are incredibly vulnerable to this type of thinking especially in high school and college, but many adults struggle too.
When my son was in elementary school, our family attended a school picnic. We noticed some of the boys gathered around a small hut in the park. As we approached, we noticed a homeless man sitting alone on the ground.
A group of boys began throwing sticks and stones at the shelter where he was seated and calling him a ‘hobo’. My son stood by looking tormented but did not throw anything and remained silent. When I asked him what made him not follow the crowd and engage in the harassment, he said, “I felt bad.”.
Not following the crowd that day was not easy for my young son, but the seeds of God’s love planted in his soul awakened his spirit and gave him the courage to know how to be a leader not a follower at that moment.
This is the root of how to be a leader, not a follower; a secure identity in Christ and a heart open to the Holy Spirit.
Everyone can be a leader when our desire to please God is stronger than our desire to please others.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.”
Romans 12:2 NLT
How to Be a Leader Not a Follower
No one is immune to poor choices, but we learn how to be a leader, not a follower by being independent thinkers, making independent choices even if they are not always the popular choices.
I had a friend whose daughter was a rule follower as a child and sought her mom’s advice and leading. When she hit the teenage years, she began making bad choices and experienced some life-changing consequences.
One day as we discussed her situation, my friend said, “we need to let our kids start to make their own choices so they can learn to fail, recover, adapt and ultimately lead and not follow the crowd.
Those wise words have stayed with me for many years and have helped me learn how to be a leader, not a follower, and pass tips onto others.
Here are 6 Helpful Truths:
Truth 1: Know your Identity in Christ
We must believe that we are wonderfully and uniquely made and loved by God. We must know our identity in Christ to become a Godly leader who is not afraid to step out when called.
“Believe God loves you and made you for His purpose. Believe you are not an accident. Believe you were made to last forever. Believe God has chosen you to have a relationship with Jesus, who died on the cross for you. Believe that no matter what you’ve done, God wants to forgive you.”
Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Psalm 139:14 NIV
Truth 2: Serve Others
When we serve others we grow in humility and generosity. We also grow in character and leadership abilities by serving others in different roles.
“Serve with a positive attitude, as to the Lord and not to men; knowing that whatever good each one does, this he will receive back from the Lord.“
Ephesians 6:7 TLV
Truth 3: Find your Purpose in Life
When my niece was a freshman in college, she was a great flutist and had an interest in a music degree, but decided against pursuing it. “A music degree would be a selfish choice for me; a life competing against people I admire would be difficult for me to do.”
Finding her purpose in life, led her to teach so that she could serve others. She figured out her purpose at a young age. When you find your purpose in life it breeds confidence and helps you be a leader.
“For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
Truth 4: Become More Decisive
When making decisions we can pause, think, and pray. Fight the pressure to do something if you don’t feel at peace about the decision. Sometimes following the crowd is the best action, but other times we need to be a leader not a follower.
When we become more decisive we learn it means going in another direction and other times it means doing nothing.
When I was 14 years old our church group visited a lake. It was April and the water was still chilly but everyone decided to jump in the water. I thought about it (and probably remembered the outcome of the last water event) but decided I did not want to be wet and cold the whole way home.
I made an independent, deliberate decision and still remember that day because I was empowered and free to say no.
Truth 5: Learn from your Mistakes
Our mistakes help us adapt, adjust and grow. Mistakes also can drive us into a meekness, afraid to make a decision, but if we look at mistakes as learning opportunities we learn to be a leader not a follower.
A friend’s son was going to law school and recently dropped out. His parents were upset but decided to let him work out the decision even though it cost him and them. He sat out for a year and figured out he did not want to study law. He made a mistake but was allowed to figure it out and adjust for himself.
Truth 6: Be a Leader, Not a Follower
We can all step out in faith and start to be a leader not a follower in small situations. Any opportunity to lead, helps us gain confidence regardless of the size of the job. Our influence is needed at all levels of life.
“Sometimes we want to wait until everything is perfect before we start to do anything, but I have found that if we simply start where we are, with what we have, when we can, then God in His bigness is well able to compensate for any of our smallness.”
Christine Caine
Examples of Godly Leaders in The Bible
The following examples of Godly leaders in the Bible are not people of fame, perfection, or natural-born leadership skills. They are imperfect people, just like us, who happen to pull away from the crowd to become a Godly leader.
Here are three examples of leaders in the Bible who were not in the limelight but had the courage to make a Godly decision and lead.
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Abraham’s servant Eliezer is a Godly leader in the Bible
Abraham commissioned his trusted servant, Eliezer, to travel and secure a wife for his son Isaac. Before approaching the village, Eliezer paused and prayed to God for wisdom in his decision.
“O Lord, God of my master, Abraham,” he prayed. “Please give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master, Abraham. See, I am standing here beside this spring, and the young women of the town are coming out to draw water. This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’—let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.”
Genesis 24:12-14 NLT
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Ruth is a Godly leader in the Bible
Ruth made the choice to leave her home and all she knew to follow her mother-in-law and set an example of leadership.
“Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” When Naomi saw that Ruth was determined to go with her, she said nothing more.”
Ruth 1:16-18 NLT
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Barnabas is a Godly leader in the Bible
Barnabas joins forces with Paul after his conversion to preach the good news about Jesus. Many were hesitant because Paul had once persecuted Jesus’ followers. Barnabas chooses to be a leader and makes the choice to speak up for Paul.
“When Saul arrived in Jerusalem, he tried to meet with the believers, but they were all afraid of him. They did not believe he had truly become a believer! Then Barnabas brought him to the apostles and told them how Saul had seen the Lord on the way to Damascus and how the Lord had spoken to Saul. He also told them that Saul had preached boldly in the name of Jesus in Damascus.”
Acts 9:26 NLT
What does the Bible say about being a leader?
Because Jesus calls us to serve others, it can lead to confusion on what does the Bible say about being a leader. But servanthood is not mutually exclusive from leadership.
We can learn how to be a leader, not a follower without sacrificing our ability to love and serve others.
“The scriptures do call Christians to follow. And those who claim to be followers of Christ are to serve others. I am simply suggesting that regardless of your spiritual position, as you mature, you will become a person of influence. Even Jesus said: “Follow Me and I will make you fishers of men (Matthew 4:19).”
This means a mature follower of Christ will eventually become a leader of people. The Apostle Paul wrote: “Therefore, knowing the fear of God, we persuade men (II Corinthians 5:11).” In Genesis 1:26, we are told that we’ve been made in the image of God: “And let Us make man in our image.”
Have you ever thought about what that means? I am sure it means many things, but a hint to its meaning is provided in the next phrase of that passage: “And let him rule.” Part of what it means to be made in God’s image is that people have the capacity to lead and to rule. You will always be following and you will also be leading.”
Tim Elmore
What about you? Is it easier to lead or follow the crowd? What have you learned about how to be a leader, not a follower? I hope you are inspired to try to be a leader! Would love to hear from you in the comments.
Some common synonyms of follower are adherent, disciple, and partisan. While all these words mean “one who gives full loyalty and support to another,” follower may apply to people who attach themselves either to the person or beliefs of another.
Simply so What is it called when you follow orders? comply, obey (verb) heed (verb) mind (verb)
What do you call someone that follows a leader? Adherent is defined as a person who follows something or someone, like an cause or a strong leader.
also What is the meaning of a worshiper? worshiper noun [C] (RELIGION)
someone who goes to a religious ceremony to worship God: At 11 a.m. on Sunday morning, worshipers began to stream out of the cathedral. someone who worships and performs religious ceremonies to a particular god or object: devil/idol worshipers. SMART Vocabulary: related words and phrases.
What is roller follower?
The Roller Follower is a compact and highly rigid bearing system. It contains needle bearings and is used as a guide roller for cam discs and straight motion. Since its outer ring rotates while keeping direct contact with the mating surface, this product is thick- walled and designed to bear an impact load.
What’s another word for not following orders? defy, disregard, resist, ignore, oppose.
What is the word for following instructions?
3 accompany, attend, bring up the rear, come after, come or go with, escort, tag along, tread on the heels of. 4 act in accordance with, be guided by, comply, conform, give allegiance to, heed, mind, note, obey, observe, regard, toe the line, watch.
What is the synonym of insubordination? In this page you can discover 15 synonyms, antonyms, idiomatic expressions, and related words for insubordination, like: defiance, noncompliance, rebelliousness, mutiny, revolution, disobedience, resist, subordination, cowardice, disloyalty and callousness.
What does smitten mean?
Definition of smitten
1 : deeply affected with or struck by strong feelings of attraction, affection, or infatuation Trillin leaves no doubt he was smitten with his wife, as were others.— Peter Stevenson Tatiana is smitten with Onegin and declares her love in a letter to him.—
What is conformer person? A conformist is a person who follows traditional standards of conduct. … Conformist can also be used as an adjective to describe something that follows convention and established customs.
What is a synonym for acolyte?
assistant, helper, attendant, retainer, servant, minion, underling, lackey, henchman. follower, disciple, supporter, votary, satellite, shadow. informal sidekick, girl Friday, man Friday, running dog, groupie, hanger-on. archaic liegeman, pursuivant.
Is it Worshipping or worshiping? Basically the spelling of ‘worshipping‘ with two ‘p’s is considered British English and the spelling of a single ‘p’ is American English.
What is the difference between worshiper and Worshipper?
As nouns the difference between worshiper and worshipper
is that worshiper is while worshipper is a person who worships, especially at a place of assembly for religious services.
What is another word for Worshipper?
In this page you can discover 26 synonyms, antonyms, idiomatic expressions, and related words for worshiper, like: pilgrim, worshipper, atheist, communicant, supplicant, devotionalist, disciple, votary, churchgoer, congregant and devotee.
What is the meaning of cam follower? Definition of cam follower
: the peg or roller which follows the curvature of a cam and to which the motion of the cam is thereby directly communicated.
What does a cam follower do? Crowned cam followers are used to keep the load evenly distributed if it deflects or if there is any misalignment between the follower and the followed surface. They are also used in turntable type applications to reduce skidding.
What is spherical follower?
Spherical faced followers:
In these followers the contacting surface is spherical in shape. … So to minimize the all these stresses the flat face of the follower is changed into the spherical shape, due to this changed shape the very less stresses will induced in the follower and it can be used in high speed engines.
What is the synonym of rebel? insurgent, revolutionary, mutinous, rebellious, mutinying. traitorous, renegade. rare insurrectionary, insurrectionist. 2’rebel MPs’ rebellious, defiant, disobedient, insubordinate, subversive, disaffected, malcontent, resistant, dissentient, recalcitrant, unmanageable, ungovernable.
What is the synonym of compliance?
acquiescence, agreement, assent, consent, concession, concurrence, acceptance. complaisance, tractability, malleability, biddableness, pliability, docility, meekness, submissiveness, submission, passivity. defiance.
What is a synonym for do not follow the rules? Disobedience and failure to cooperate – thesaurus.
What is the synonym of adherence?
In this page you can discover 17 synonyms, antonyms, idiomatic expressions, and related words for adherence, like: devotion, faithfulness, fidelity, obedience, attachment, conform, cohesion, adherance, bond, tolerance and loyalty.
How do you say follow instructions well? heed
- attend.
- baby-sit.
- be aware.
- be guided by.
- bear in mind.
- catch.
- consider.
- dig.
Letter 1: Apology
Letter to Friend for Being Rude
I am writing this letter seeking your forgiveness for my rude
behavior to you the other day. I feel extremely regretful about what happened.
You are one of my oldest and dearest friends and I can never imagine losing
you.
I take complete responsibility for my unacceptable behavior. Nevertheless, I would still request you to give me a chance to explain myself.
It has been a very stressful week for me with overdue office deadlines. My boss has been driving me crazy with huge piles of work while our clients have been constantly getting on my last nerve. I have been feeling really cranky the entire week. I finally lost my temper over that minor argument with you. I know there is still no excuse for me to shout at you and say mean things the way I did. I feel ashamed of myself. In fact, right after that moment of outburst, I realized my horrible mistake. However, you had already turned around and left before I could compose myself and apologize to you. I wish I could turn the time back and not let this unpleasant incident happen.
I cannot stress enough how remorseful I have been feeling. I am extremely sorry for hurting you. I request you to give me another chance and forget about what happened. I will never ever behave in such an outrageous way with you again. I hope we can move past this for the sake of our years old friendship.
You have always been a source of support to me during hard
times. This is one of those times with an over-demanding job and a stressful
routine. I need you today as I have always needed you to be there for me. I
anxiously await your response.
Letter 2: Apology
letter to Friend for not being in touch
I hope you are doing well and life is treating you good. It
has been a long time since we last met. I want to apologize for not being able
to stay in touch. Being a mother of 2 kids keeps me extremely busy. I have lost
touch with several of my good friends including you. But I really want to make
up for the lost time and catch up with you.
I can’t believe it has been almost 4 years since the last
time we got together. Our last telephone conversation took place a year back. You
have been asking me every now and then to come over to your place but I just
could not find the right time to meet you again or call you up. My youngest
daughter, Sarah is very demanding. She is 2 years old now and keeps me on my
toes. Managing all the housework and dealing with Sarah while carrying on with
my office job takes up all my time. I hardly get a chance to socialize or catch
up with old buddies. This is the reason why I haven’t been able to reply to
your messages or call you up all this time. I am sure you will understand and
forgive me.
I miss our college days when we used to see each other every
day. However, since our graduation, life changed rapidly. Job, marriage and
kids added loads to my list of responsibilities. As a result, it just kept
getting harder and harder for me to maintain contact with you or other friends.
I do want to stress that I have not become estranged with you for any reason.
In fact, you are always in my heart. I would love to catch up with you soon.
Let’s not waste more time and get together soon. I will try
to keep in touch more often this time. Hope to see you soon.
Letter 3: Apology Letter to a friend for not attending the party
I hope you had a wonderful time at your celebration party this Friday. Please accept my apology for not being able to attend the event. I missed the party due to an unannounced arrival of guests at my house. I hope you will understand and forgive me.
My wife’s cousin, Mike arrived with his wife and four kids
this Friday afternoon. I got busy settling them down in our guest room and had
to run to the supermarket to buy extra groceries. All this hustle and bustle
drove your party out of my mind. This is the reason I couldn’t even inform you
that I wouldn’t be able to come.
I wanted to celebrate your promotion with you at your party. However, I could not do so owing to the circumstances. In order to make it up to you, I would like to invite you and your family over dinner this Sunday. Please don’t refuse this invitation. Let’s celebrate together and enjoy some fun time.
Once again, please accept my sincere apologies for not being
able to show up to your party. I hope you forgive me and let me be your host
this Sunday.
Letter 4: Apology
letter to friend for not being there
Congratulations at your wedding. I hope the new phase of your life is going to be wonderful. I must state that I feel regretful for not being there for you on your big day. Please accept my sincere apology and forgive me for breaking your expectations. I can’t stress enough how sorry I feel for not being able to make it to the most special day of my best friend’s life.
Due to unforeseen circumstances, I got stuck with certain demanding commitments. I know I should have been there for you to help you with your wedding arrangements. You must have been expecting to see me at the pre-wedding functions as well. However, I ended up disappointing you badly by not even making it to the wedding day. Friends never leave each other in the lurch on important events. Please do not think that I turned my back on you or didn’t consider your wedding important enough. In fact, I have been feeling sorry for missing this special event. I resent the circumstances that prevented me from being there for you.
Please do let me know how I can make it up to you. I promise
to try my best to be there for you whenever you need me in future. I hope you
forgive me and give me another chance.
Letter 5: Apology
Letter to a Friend you Hurt
I feel lost for words as I write this letter to apologize to
you for what happened last week. I know there is no excuse for misbehavior. But
I also know that you are a very kind person and have always cherished our
friendship. So, please forgive me for hurting you and give me another chance. I
can’t explain how sorry I feel.
You are one of my dearest friends. We have been together
since college days and you have always been there for me through thick and
thin. I am sorry I have been taking you for granted lately. I didn’t realize
what I was saying before those hurtful words came out. I feel truly ashamed and
take complete responsibility for my behavior. Please trust me when I say that
this won’t ever happen again. I will always give you the respect that you
deserve.
It’s true that we never truly acknowledge the value of something till we have lost it. I haven’t seen you since last week and it makes me realize how important you are to me. It makes me feel upset that you haven’t been responding to my calls or messages. I really miss you. Please don’t punish me through this estrangement.
I know you are mad at me. After what I did, I don’t blame you for being angry at me. But please don’t ignore me. I request you to answer my phone calls and talk to me about how you feel. You may even shout at me; I deserve it. Let’s talk it over and resolve the issue. I would love to have my wonderful friend back.
Letter 6: Funny apology letter to a friend
I
want to apologize to you for embarrassing you in front of your fiancé the other
day. I must have left my brain at home before blurting out your embarrassing
childhood memories.
I am sure you must have hired a hitman for me after the mortifying incident. Well, that’s ok; I deserve it! But please ask him to use an alternative to shoot as I am just a tad bit scared of bullets.
On the other hand, if you can find it in your heart to forgive me and spare my life, I will do your chores for you for as long as you want. When you get married and have babies, I will babysit your kids, feed them, burp them and change their dirty diapers. So, think about it! Forgiveness is just a phone call away.
Letter 7: Apology Letter to Friend’s
Mom
I want to begin by thanking you
for everything you have done for me. Please accept my apologies for
creating any trouble I might have caused you during my stay at your house
this week.
I realize how my presence caused
an extra burden on you. You had to cook meals for two teenaged boys who are
almost always feeling famished. I am sorry we never lent you a hand for any
chores. I apologize for being so inconsiderate towards you while you worked all
day long for us without a frown on your face.
Thank you for being so kind and hospitable. I feel bad for making you overworked because of my stay. I promise when I come over next time, Eric and I will help you with your chores.
Once again, sorry for the hard
time I gave you this week. I hope you forgive me.
Letter 8: Apology
Letter to Friend for misunderstanding
I am writing this letter to apologize for the misunderstanding that led to the unpleasant incident last night. I feel awful for putting you in an awkward situation with your family. I am willing to come over any time you ask to explain to your wife what really happened. I promise if such a situation arises again in future, I would clarify things with you before jumping to any conclusions.
Please accept my sincere apologies. Let me treat you and your family to dinner this weekend to make up for all the bitterness of last night.
