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Kindness is a type of behavior marked by acts of generosity, consideration, rendering assistance or concern for others, without expecting praise or reward in return.
Kindness is a topic of interest in philosophy, religion, and psychology. Kindness was one of the main topics in the Bible. In Book II of Rhetoric, Aristotle defines kindness as «helpfulness towards someone in need, not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself, but for that of the person helped».[1] Nietzsche considered kindness and love to be the «most curative herbs and agents in human intercourse».[2] Kindness is considered to be one of the Knightly Virtues.[3] In Meher Baba’s teachings, God is synonymous with kindness: «God is so kind that it is impossible to imagine His unbounded kindness!»[4]
History[edit]
In English, the word kindness is from approximately 1300, though the word’s sense evolved to its current meanings in the late 1300s.[5]
Over time, it has acted in part of a personality trait as a long tradition of generosity through human cultures and family-friendly benefits in the concept of hospitality.
In society[edit]
In human mating choice, studies suggest that both men and women value kindness in their prospective mates, along with intelligence, physical appearance, attractiveness and age.[6][7]
In psychology[edit]
Based on experiments at Yale University using games with babies, some studies concluded that kindness is inherent to human beings.[8] There are similar studies about the root of empathy in infancy[9] – motor mirroring developing in the early months of life,[10] to lead (optimally) to the concern shown by children for their peers in distress.[11]
Barbara Taylor and Adam Phillips have stressed the element of necessary realism in adult kindness, as well as the way «real kindness changes people in the doing of it, often in unpredictable ways».[12]
2018 Women’s March in Missoula, Montana
Behaving kindly may improve a person’s measurable well-being. Many studies have tried to test the hypothesis that doing something kind makes a person better off. A meta-analysis of 27 such studies found that the interventions studied (usually measuring short-term effects after brief acts of kindness, in WEIRD research subjects) supported the hypothesis that acting more kind improves your well-being.[13]
Weaponized kindness[edit]
Some thinkers have suggested that kindness can be weaponized to discourage enemies:
- If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink; for by doing so thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head. ―Proverbs ⅹⅹⅴ 21–22
- You should respond with kindness toward evil done to you, and you will destroy in an evil person that pleasure which he derives from evil.” ―Leo Tolstoy[14]
In literature[edit]
- The Tirukkural, an ancient Indian work on ethics and morality, dedicates a chapter to kindness (chapter 8, verses 71–80), furthering the value in other chapters, such as hospitality (verses 81–90), uttering pleasant words (verses 91–100), compassion (verses 241–250), moral vegetarianism (verses 251–260), non-violence (verses 311–320), non-killing (verses 321–330), and benignity (verses 571–580), among others.[15][16]
- Mark Twain from a compassion point of view considered «Kindness [as a] language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.»[17]
- It has been suggested that «most of Shakespeare’s opus could be considered a study of human kindness».[18]
- Robert Louis Stevenson considered that ‘the essence of love is kindness; and indeed it may best be defined as passionate kindness: kindness, so to speak, run mad and become importunate and violent’.[19]
- The Christian apostle Paul lists kindness as one of the nine traits considered to be the «fruit of the Spirit» [20] in Galatians 5:22. In 1 Corinthians 13:4 he states, «Love is patient, love is kind.»[21]
In media[edit]
The motion picture Pay it Forward, based on the novel of the same name written in 1999 by the founder Catherine Ryan Hyde, which starred Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt, Haley Joel Osment and Jon Bon Jovi, illustrates the power one person can have to make an impact on a chain reaction of kind deeds. The philosophy of Pay It Forward is that through acts of kindness among strangers, we all foster a more caring society. In the book and film, Reuben St. Clair, a social studies teacher in Atascadero, California, challenges his students to «change the world». One of his students, Trevor, takes the challenge to heart. He starts by showing kindness to a stranger which ripples further than he could have ever imagined.
In October 2011, Life Vest Inside posted a video called «Kindness Boomerang».[22] It shows how one act of kindness passes seamlessly from one person to the next and boomerangs back to the person who set it into motion. Orly Wahba, Life Vest Inside Founder and Director of Kindness Boomerang explains that each scene was based on real-life experiences she personally went through; moments of kindness that left a lasting impression on her life. Within several months after its release, Kindness Boomerang went viral; reaching over 20 million people globally and eventually invadingWahba spot on TED2013[23] stage to speak about the power of kindness.
Singer-songwriter Harry Styles has been promoting kindness since at least 2017 with his slogan ‘Treat People with Kindness’, also abbreviated to ‘TPWK’.[24]
Teaching Kindness[edit]
Kindness is most often taught from parents to children and is learned through observation and some direct teaching. Studies have shown that through programs and interventions kindness can be taught and encouraged during the first 20 years of life.[25] Further studies show that kindness interventions can help improve wellbeing with comparable results as teaching gratitude.[26] Similar findings have shown that organizational level teaching of kindness can improve wellbeing of adults in college.[27] Numerous religions teach their members to be kind and religiosity is associated with greater wellbeing and longevity[citation needed].
See also[edit]
- Altruism
- Compassion
- Empathy
- Generosity
- Good
- Good faith
- Kindness Day UK
- Pay it forward
- Random act of kindness
- Random Acts of Kindness Day
- Moral character
- Moral emotions
- Reciprocity
- r/K selection theory
- The Kindness Offensive
- World Kindness Day
References[edit]
- ^ Aristotle (translated by Lee Honeycutt). «Kindness». Rhetoric, book 2, chapter 7. Archived from the original on December 13, 2004. Retrieved 2005-11-22.
- ^ Nietzsche, Friedrich Wilhelm. «On the History of Moral Feelings,» Human, all too human: a book for free spirits. Aphorism 48. [Original: Menschliches, Allzumenschiles, 1878.] Trans. Marion Faber with Stephen Lehman. University of Nebraska Press: First Printing, Bison Books, 1996.
- ^ Singla, Parvesh. «The Manual of Life — Character». Parvesh singla – via Google Books.
- ^ Kalchuri, Bhau (1986). Meher Prabhu: Lord Meher, 11, Myrtle Beach: Manifestation, Inc., p. 3918.
- ^ «Kindness | Etymology, origin and meaning of kindness by etymonline».
- ^ Buss, David M., et al. «Sex differences in jealousy: Evolution, physiology, and psychology.» Psychological science 3.4 (1992): 251-255
- ^ Gleitman, Henry; Gross, James; Reisberg, Daniel. Psychology (8th ed.).
- ^ Can Babies Tell Right From Wrong?, Babies at Yale University’s Infant Cognition Center respond to «naughty» and «nice» puppets., May 5, 2010
- ^ Researchers Trace Empathy’s Roots to Infancy, Daniel Goleman, 1989
- ^ D Goleman, Emotional Intelligence (London 1996) p. 98-9
- ^ A Phillips/B Taylor, On Kindness (London 2009) p. 112
- ^ A Phillips/B Taylor, On Kindness (London 2009) p. 96 and p. 12
- ^ Oliver Scott Curry, Lee A. Rowland, Caspar J. Van Lissa, Sally Zlotowitz, John McAlaney, & Harvey Whitehouse, “Happy to help? A systematic review and meta-analysis of the effects of performing acts of kindness on the well-being of the actor” Journal of Experimental Social Psychology (2018)
- ^ Leo Tolstoy, A Calendar of Wisdom (~1910) January 30
- ^ TirukkuṛaḷArchived 2014-12-16 at the Wayback Machine verses 71-80
- ^ Pope, George Uglow (1886). The Sacred Kurral of Tiruvalluva Nayanar (PDF) (First ed.). New Delhi: Asian Educational Services. ISBN 8120600223.
- ^ Lorette M. Enochs (21 November 2016). Seeds of Recovery: A Journal of 101 Mental Health Reflections. AuthorHouse. p. 76. ISBN 978-1-5246-5181-7.
- ^ Lagrette Tallent Lenker, Fathers and Daughters in Shakespeare and Shaw (2001) p. 107
- ^ robert Louis Stevenson, Virginibus Puerisque (London 1909) p. 35
- ^ Galatians 5:22, New International Version
- ^ 1 Corinthians 13:4, New International Version
- ^ Archived at Ghostarchive and the Wayback Machine: «Kindness Boomerang». YouTube/Life Vest Inside. Retrieved 14 January 2016.
- ^ «TED Talk — Kindness — Orly Wahba», YouTube/TED Conferences. Retrieved January 14, 2016.
- ^ «‘Small changes make a big difference’: Harry Styles tells the story of Treat People with Kindness».
- ^ Malti, Tina (2021-09-03). «Kindness: a perspective from developmental psychology». European Journal of Developmental Psychology. 18 (5): 629–657. doi:10.1080/17405629.2020.1837617. ISSN 1740-5629. S2CID 228970189.
- ^ Datu, Jesus Alfonso D.; Valdez, Jana Patricia M.; McInerney, Dennis M.; Cayubit, Ryan Francis (May 2022). «The effects of gratitude and kindness on life satisfaction, positive emotions, negative emotions, and COVID‐19 anxiety: An online pilot experimental study». Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being. 14 (2): 347–361. doi:10.1111/aphw.12306. ISSN 1758-0846. PMC 8652666. PMID 34668323.
- ^ Datu, Jesus Alfonso D.; Lin, Xunyi (June 2022). «The Mental Health Benefits of kind University Climate: Perception of Kindness at University Relates to Longitudinal Increases in Well-Being». Applied Research in Quality of Life. 17 (3): 1663–1680. doi:10.1007/s11482-021-09981-z. ISSN 1871-2584. S2CID 255275797.
Further reading[edit]
- RABBI-UL-AWWAL (July 1998). «What is Kindness to Parents?». Islamic Voice. 12–07 (139).
- El-Sayed M. Amin. «Kindness to a Non-Muslim Neighbor: Tips for Interaction». Society. Islam Online. Archived from the original on 2005-08-28. Retrieved 2005-11-22.
- Forget Survival of the Fittest: It Is Kindness That Counts (January 2017), Scientific American. «A psychologist probes how altruism, Darwinism, and neurobiology mean that we can succeed by not being cutthroat.»
External links[edit]
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- Random Acts of Kindness Foundation
- Video with quotes about Kindness, from Wikiquote
The dictionary definition of kindness at Wiktionary— Question —
What is kindness? I mean, what is kindness really?
How can I understand kindness better?
Kindness is — and always will be — one of the most beautiful and powerful forces for good that exists in the entire world.
Why?
It’s because kindness is love:
Kindness Is Love In Action.
Kindness is all the different ways — both big and small — we express care, concern, and consideration for ourselves and those with whom we share the world.
Kindness shows up as a supportive smile, a comforting embrace, and a helping hand when we need it the most — but may expect it the least.
It exists as heartfelt words of encouragement, thoughtful gestures of affection, and compassionate acts of generosity so many of us witness, perform, and receive as we move through life.
In a world filled with struggle and pain, kindness is like a deep cleansing breath that rejuvenates us with its purity, refreshes us with its goodness, and gives us the strength to persevere despite our troubles.
Kindness is a reminder of why we’re here and how we can each use our lives to help others.
Kindness is a source of some of man’s greatest joys and a reason why life is beautiful, even though it’s challenging.
Join Me In Taking A Closer Look At Kindness
Together, let’s explore the following:
- The definition of kindness and why kindness involves choice;
- A list of kindness synonyms and the universal theme that unites these related words; and
- The best way to understand the true meaning of kindness and the wonderful ways kindness can change the world and us.
Ready? Let’s jump right in!
First, Let’s Look At A Kindness Definition
Quick question — Have you ever tried to look up “kindness” in an official dictionary?
If you have, you might have found a formal definition of kindness that looked a little something like this:
- “The quality of being kind.”
While that may be an accurate definition of kindness, it can feel a bit disappointing because it doesn’t seem to do the word “kindness” justice.
Perhaps partly due to its brevity, the above kindness definition fails to convey kindness’ immensity. In addition, it creates the follow-up question of “well, then, what is the definition of kind?”
Another Way To Define Kindness
It isn’t easy to define something as significant as kindness, so it’s understandable different people may define kindness in different ways.
Here’s one way to define kindness:
Kindness is the sincere and voluntary use of one’s time, talent, and resources to better the lives of others, one’s own life, and the world through genuine acts of love, compassion, generosity, and service.
Moreover, kindness involves choice.
Kindness involves choice because there are many alternatives to kindness that will tempt us through life — including, of course, apathy and anger.
Circumstances may test us. People may try us. News may trouble us. Yet, despite these obstacles, we each have the beautiful ability to actively choose to be kind.
In addition, kindness involves choice because there are so many different ways to be kind.
Every time each of us performs an act of kindness, we each get to choose fun answers to great questions such as the following:
- Who can I be kind to?
- How kind can I be?
- What acts of kindness can I do?
Choice doesn’t have to create complexity. In the case of kindness, it creates convenience.
Since there are always opportunities and great ways to be kind, kindness will forever have a place in our lives and in our world as long as people continue to intentionally choose it.
Next, Let’s Turn Our Attention To Kindness Synonyms
When we view words that are similar to “kindness”, we gain additional perspective about what kindness means.
In addition, we might be able to spot a common theme that unites these related words.
Here’s a List of Kindness Synonyms:
- warmheartedness
- helpfulness
- thoughtfulness
- compassion
- generosity
- friendliness
- goodness
- sweetness
- courtesy
- benevolence
Click here for more kindness synonyms.
A Couple Of Observations
First, as you can see based on its synonyms, kindness is in great company.
Second, a common theme kindness seems to share with the synonyms of kindness listed above appears to be love.
Love Is At The Core Of Kindness
Love is the invisible thread that ties kindness to its peers.
Love is the origin of the affectionate, empathetic, and supportive undertone that exists not only in kindness, but also in each and every kindness synonym.
This undeniable presence of love, however, comes as no great surprise because, as mentioned earlier, kindness is a form of love:
Kindness Is Love In Action.
Kindness is a way love is expressed, a reason love multiplies, and an example of what is possible when love is prioritized.
That’s why kindness is so hard to capture with just words.
Since kindness is love in action, it’s challenging to fully express the magnitude and magnificence of kindness through just synonyms and definitions.
Words on a page can begin to paint a picture, but they can never thoroughly represent all that’s special about kindness or all that kindness can accomplish once it’s put out into the world.
With its brilliant beauty and endless ability to elevate, kindness is so much more — more splendid, more substantial, more satisfying — than can ever be completely described in even the most carefully crafted sentences.
Kindness definitions and kindness synonyms are useful, but these two teaching tools simply scratch the surface of the true meaning of kindness:
It’s one thing to be taught kindness.
It’s another thing to be touched by it.
Kindness Definitions And Kindness Synonyms Are Only The Beginning
If we want to truly understand “what is kindness?”, then we need to do more than just read about it.
We need to branch out beyond the confines of what can be written and immerse ourselves in the beauty of what can be felt.
Fortunately, this leads us right to the very best way to discover the essence, impact, and importance of kindness.
Now, Let’s Uncover The Best Way To Understand The True Meaning Of Kindness
Okay, so if synonyms and definitions of kindness show just one, albeit necessary, piece of the pleasurable puzzle that is kindness — how else can we better understand kindness?
What do we have to do to really understand what kindness means to others, to ourselves, and to the world?
The simple truth is there’s no substitute for experience:
The Best Way To Understand Kindness Is To Practice Kindness.
If we want to know the real meaning of kindness, then we must take the time to intentionally spread kindness. More specifically, we must do the following:
- Be kind to others.
- Be kind to ourselves.
When we actively choose to be kind, we see the real power of kindness is best understood when realized, instead of just researched — when kindness is actually dispersed, instead of just discussed.
We see kindness is so meaningful, magnetic, and memorable, in part, because kindness can make us and those around us feel utterly incredible — incredibly useful, incredibly optimistic, and incredibly honored to be of genuine service to others.
Most of all, when it comes to kindness, we see the reason it’s far more fulfilling to initiate than to investigate is because kindness truly is love.
Kindness Really Is Love In Action
As love, kindness is an antidote to hate.
It is a wellspring of hope and a counterbalance to despair.
Kindness is a gift everyone can give — every day — not only to others, but also to ourselves.
In addition, the gift of kindness is a gift that keeps on giving.
Sincere kindness does so much more than just make us smile. It stays with us. It lingers.
As it disarms our shields of cynicism and reaffirms our faith in humanity, it marks us — kindness changes us.
Despite how low we feel or how far we’ve fallen, great acts of kindness pick us up, dust us off, and urge us to stand tall regardless of the weight of our burdens.
Therein lies the beauty of kindness.
Kindness provides both comfort and clarity. It ignites, even as it soothes.
Kindness shows us we’re all worth the effort and all our efforts have worth.
So Don’t Just Ponder Kindness — Practice Kindness
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Be Kind To Others
Make the effort to perform random acts of kindness for strangers, as well as the people you know the most. Do good deeds that make people smile for no other reason than simply because you can. Take a KIE Kindness Challenge and commit to it.
Let’s make the world our classroom and our actions our guides.
Only then will we know the true effects of kindness on ourselves and the world around us. Only then will we realize what kindness really means.
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Be Kind To Ourselves
In addition, even as we intentionally seek to be kind to others, we must never ever forget to also actively be kind to ourselves.
Loving ourselves as unconditionally and as kindly as we love those around us not only fuels our own desire to be our best selves, but also inspires others to want to be theirs.
The best way to understand kindness is to try to be an endless source of it:
Experience is an excellent educator.
Finally, Is There Anything Else We Need To Know About Kindness?
Well, in our attempt to address kindness, we’ve covered a lot of ground:
- We’ve discussed kindness definitions, kindness synonyms, and the benefits of practicing kindness in order to best understand it.
However, as you can see below, there are two more things we need to know:
- We need to know kindness can change the world.
- We need to know kindness can change us, too.
Kindness Can Change the World
We’ve already mentioned kindness is love in action.
However, because kindness is love in action, that means kindness is also the following:
- a bridge to peace and harmony;
- a creator of laughter and delight;
- a tool that can tighten and strengthen bonds;
- a bucket that can douse bitterness and blame;
- a key that can unlock self-imposed prisons such as selfishness and hostility;
- and so much more…
Since kindness brings out the very best in human nature and can spread quickly from person to person, kindness is a catalyst for change — but not just any change:
Kindness is a catalyst for the type of genuine, positive change that slowly, but surely lays the groundwork for a better, brighter, and more beautiful future so long as kindness continues to be released into the world.
After all, kindness compounds.
Kindness builds.
It taps into the inherent goodness that resides in each of us and grows steadily stronger with every act of kindness that’s performed.
Day by day and smile by smile, as more good people do good things, kindness gains mass and momentum:
- Like a snowball rolling down a steep hill, kindness increases and intensifies until it becomes such a formidable force for good it knocks down the evil barriers of anger and animosity that stand between us and the peaceful world we want.
Kindness is crucial, contagious, and completely capable of changing the world for the better if only we commit ourselves to spreading it.
Kindness Can Change Us, Too
Besides being good for the world, kindness is also one of the most rewarding ways each and every one of us can use our lives to make a difference.
So many of us want to be our best selves.
We constantly fill our heads with knowledge, our bodies with nutrients, and our days with goals — mainly in the hopes we’ll lead lives that make us proud.
We don’t know how much time we have here on Earth, but we do know we want to do things that matter. We dream about ways we can do something important or do something meaningful with our lives in a desire to make an impact.
One of the most important and meaningful things we can do with our lives, however, is to actively be kind.
That means we don’t have to wait for some unknown future date to do something great or important for the world. Through kindness, we can do something important every single day and not only end up changing the world for the better, but also ourselves as well:
- When we’re kind to others, we make people feel valued and encourage them to reach their greatest heights. We see beyond the scope of our own individual problems and work to use our lives to do the most good for the most amount of people so the world is a better place because of it.
- When we’re kind to ourselves, we refuse to let ourselves be devalued and courageously fight to reach our own greatest heights. We see beyond the scope of our multiple failures and work to unleash the immense power of our potential so we, too, are better people because of it.
Kindness is our ally.
Kindness is our friend.
Kindness pushes us to be our best by reminding us to love ourselves and the people with whom we share the world.
Kindness changes us by challenging us to not be satisfied with mediocrity, but to dare to do better — to strive to be better.
We often think of kindness as something that changes the lives of others.
However, when we actively choose to be kind, the lives we change the most are often our own.
As you can see above, kindness is so much more than just one thing.
Kindness is many things:
- Kindness is a form of love and a way love forms.
- Kindness is a way to change the world for the better and a way to better ourselves for the world.
- Kindness is a potential path to happiness and a happy way for us to potentially find our paths.
Kindness is not just simple — it’s satisfying.
It’s not just invigorating — it’s inspiring.
It’s not just touching — it’s transforming.
Kindness isn’t just this thing or that thing.
What Is Kindness?
Kindness Is Everything.
A Rhyme To Remember
Kindness is more than any words we can string.
Kindness is love — so kindness is everything.
Looking for great ideas for acts of kindness?
- A List of Random Acts of Kindness Ideas for Strangers
- A List of Acts of Kindness Ideas for Yourself
- All the Lists of Acts of Kindness Ideas
When you’re ready for a fun challenge:
- What Is A KIE Kindness Challenge?
- Why Take A KIE Kindness Challenge?
- A List of All Kindness Is Everything (KIE) Kindness Challenges
- The 24 Hour KIE Kindness Challenge
Published Aug 01, 2021
When you hear the word “kindness”, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Is it about being nice to other people? Or is it doing good things whenever possible?
Truth is, there is more to kindness than being nice and doing right by others. In fact, there may not be a single word that can describe the true meaning of kindness.
The dictionary defines kindness as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Other synonyms of kindness are goodwill, warmth, tenderness, selflessness, and benevolence.
Yet none of those terms can truly convey the significance and complexity of the word.
What is Kindness?
According to Mark Twain, kindness is the language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see. He is trying to tell us that kindness is universal. It can traverse boundaries, race, and even disabilities.
But does this define kindness? In a way, yes. But it’s just one facet of being kind.
Another inspirational figure who attempted to untangle the complex definition of kindness is the Dalai Lama. He said:
“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”
While American politician Frank A. Clark said that kindness makes a fellow feel good whether it’s being done to him or by him.
So what does this tell us?
This just demonstrates how wide and varied our interpretation of the word is. The meaning of kindness is relative to each individual and there is no one right definition of the word.
It comes in many forms and may not always be as simple as doing good things. What comes as “good” and “right” for someone may not necessarily be viewed as such by another.
In theory, what counts as right and good is clear-cut. We are taught that doing good things constitutes kindness. But in reality, what’s “good” isn’t always obvious. There are instances when the boundaries between good and bad are muddled. And making a choice to be kind isn’t always easy.
But as Orly Wahba said:
“When you’re faced with a choice, choose to inspire, choose to empower, choose to stand for those who have lost the will to stand for themselves.”
Different people tend to look at kindness in different ways. But empathy, understanding, and compassion are universal. Accepting and helping everyone no matter who they are or where they came from is kindness in and of itself.
Kindness in the Bible
There are a lot of verses in the bible that define kindness.
In Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, he has this to say about kindness:
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)
While in another letter to the Colossians, he wrote:
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience (Colossians 3:12)
This means that being kind to others is your own way of following in God’s footsteps. It’s the ultimate expression of your love for God. It’s how we tell Him that we are choosing Him in as much as He chose us.
Proverbs 11:17 also tells us that a man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself. Indeed, kindness not only makes others happy. It uplifts your spirit too.
Just think of the last time you’ve done a random act of kindness. What did you feel? I’m sure you felt satisfied and elated. Not the self-serving kind of satisfaction, but a genuine feeling of happiness that only comes from helping others.
What Does It Mean To Be Kind?
Kindness Involves Making a Choice
What makes someone truly kind is because they keep choosing to be kind. Even if it means having to sacrifice. Or saying no to others.
This is what distinguishes someone who wants to be “kind” from a person who wants to be “nice”. The former would choose the path that their conscience dictates. No matter how unpopular it is or that they might be scorned by the people they love. While the latter choose that which will make them look good in front of others.
Like when someone asks you for money but you have doubts as to what they’ll spend it for. Being nice means you’ll just give them what they want so as to avoid their ire. But if you really want to be kind, you will want what’s best for them. And that means not giving them the money they want. They might get angry at you and call you unkind words. But at the end of the day, you helped them which is far more important than having a sparkling reputation.
You Deserve Kindness Too
Being kind shouldn’t be reserved only for others. You need to be kind to yourself too because you, like everyone else, deserve kindness too.
Treat yourself as you would anyone else. Avoid criticizing or putting yourself down. Instead, offer yourself kind words every day. Steer clear of people who are stressing you out and stick with those that inspire you. After all, you can’t give what you don’t have. The same is true with kindness. You can’t be truly kind to others if you can’t even be kind to yourself.
Being Kind Can Change the World
They say that “respect begets respect”. The same is also true with kindness. A simple, random act of kindness can inspire others to pay it forward. It triggers a chain reaction of people being kind to others. It creates ripples which in time can grow to become waves. Before you know it, you’ve started a kindness movement. It starts in your community, then your country, then the world. This is one of the most profound effects of kindness. A single, random act that you didn’t think much about can potentially change the world.
Kindness 101: What Is Kindness and How Do You Teach It?
We can easily look up the definition of kindness, but the meaning of kindness goes far beyond just that.
According to the dictionary …
Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
But kindness means so much more …
Kindness can mean different things to different people. The meaning is in how YOU choose to show it. Be it through empathy, acceptance, kind gestures, thoughtfulness, the possibilities are entirely up to you. Kindness might look like being helpful or showing empathy. It may mean doing nice things without expecting nice things in return
Kindness is more than being nice.
Kindness goes beyond merely being nice. Think about it — would you prefer people to describe you to be «kind» or «nice?« There can be a lack of sincerity in just being nice; there is often a perception of doing the minimum. Whereas, being kind is doing intentional, voluntary acts of kindness. Not only when it’s easy to be kind, but when it’s hard to be.
Kindness is a movement.
Has someone ever done something kind to you and all you wanted to do after was pay it forward? That’s because kindness is a chain reaction. It’s a wave that keeps rolling, and all it needs is one person to start it. One small kind act can cause a ripple effect that impacts an entire community. If we are all focused on being kind, we are creating a movement of change. You know that famous «be the change you wish the see in the world» quote? That quote isn’t just about change, and it isn’t only about one person being able to change their world. It’s bigger; it about a movement that can be started from one person acting with intention.
Kind is love; love is kind.
Think about what love entails and what it means to love someone. Got it? Well, that’s kindness. It’s being selfless, caring, compassionate, and unconditionally kind. Like love, it takes practice to understand and feel it. We share love with others through kind acts such as a smile, a nice word, an unexpected deed, or a planned surprise. When we offer these acts to others, we make people feel good; we pass along hope; we promote peace; we show the power of kindness.
Kindness is grace.
We are humans, and therefore, we make mistakes. We can be kind in our response to ourselves and others when those mistakes occur. This means thinking before speaking, forgiving before seeking revenge, and thinking about long-term relationships instead of short-term pride. If we could all remember that none of us are perfect, we would be a lot kinder to each other. Offer grace, be kind.
Tips for Teaching Kindness
Now that we know what kindness is, how can we encourage more of it? Here are a few ideas to remember kindness in your life and inspire others as well.
Be kind to yourself.
It’s in our nature to learn by watching others, which is why it is so important to be kind to yourself and show kindness to those around you. People, and kids especially, can learn kindness just by seeing what you do!
Practice, practice, practice.
One of the best ways to teach kindness to others is by being intentional about it! Volunteer, give compliments, donate to charity, hold the door for someone; there are so many ways to be an example of kindness. What better way to teach kindness than to show it?
Say thank you.
People are continually learning right and wrong through associative learning. When you see someone being kind or notice it from a family member or friend, make sure to tell them you appreciate what they did. Positive reinforcement helps people want to do more good deeds and reminds people to act with intention.
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What are some kindness synonyms?
What are some other words for kindness? For reference, when you hear or see the following words, think of kindness. They are just synonyms for this powerful word:
- Benevolence
- Care
- Compassion
- Concern
- Courtesy
- Friendliness
- Gentleness
- Goodness
- Goodwill
- Grace
- Gracious
- Heart
- Helpfulness
- Hospitality
- Loving
- Neighborly
- Patience
- Philanthropic
- Sweetness
- Sympathy
- Tenderness
- Thoughtfulness
- Tolerance
- Understanding
- Unselfishness
Questions to Reflect on Kindness
- When you think of what kindness means to you, what words or actions come to mind?
- What was the last act of kindness that you saw? How did it make you feel?
- What was the last act of kindness that you received? How did it make you feel?
- Now, can you think of the last act of kindness you completed? How were you kind to someone else? How did it make you feel?
- What would happen if you committed to performing at least one act of kindness every day?
Now, be kind and change the world!
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The ROI of Kindness
Ever wonder if there’s an ROI of Kindness? We say…yes! Learn helpful nuggets like the one below, plus how to create a Kindness Value Proposition (KVP) at your organization in this simple book by Inspire Kindness founder Mac Anderson and Brian Biro, The ROI of Kindness.
Fact: Turnover reduction/employee retention…The average annual turnover in the Quick Service Food Industry is 170%. The two companies that constantly focus on kindness as the “magic” ingredient more than any other in their cultures average 14% and 24% annual turnover. In other words, these two companies retain their employees 8 to 10 times more than their competitors.
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Kindness is a type of behavior marked by acts of generosity, consideration, or concern for others, without expecting praise or reward. Kindness was one of the main topics in the Bible.
What is your definition of kindness?
1 : the quality or state of being kind treating people with kindness and respect. 2 : a kind deed : favor They did me a great kindness. 3 archaic : affection. Synonyms More Example Sentences Learn More About kindness.
What does kindness mean to you examples?
Being aware of the people in your life, responding, reacting or reaching out with empathy and respect when appropriate. Being deliberately empathetic in dialogue. Giving someone support and license to feel through an experience without judgment. Being willing to help others even when there is no benefit for you.
What is kindness an example of?
The definition of kindness is the act of being caring or warm in spirit. An example of kindness is asking a lost person if they need directions. A kind act or kindly treatment. An instance of kind behavior.
What do kindness symbolize?
Kindness is the act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behavior, pleasant disposition, and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognized as a value in many cultures and religions.
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Why is kindness so powerful?
Why is kindness important? When we practice kindness either to other people or towards ourselves we can experience positive mental and physical changes through lowering stress levels and increasing the body’s production of feel-good hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin.
How does the Bible define kindness?
Kindness is selfless, compassionate, and merciful; its greatest power revealed in practice to our enemies and amongst the least of these. Love your neighbor; show kindness to EVERYONE. For a perfect emblem of Biblical kindness, we need look no further than Jesus.
How do we show kindness?
Sometimes acts of kindness for strangers are the most powerful kind.
- Take a rose to someone in the home for the elderly. …
- Say please and thank you.
- Let someone go first through a door.
- Buy a box of cookies and offer them around.
- Carry someone’s bags.
- Pick up some trash.
- Be extra polite.
What is the opposite kindness?
Opposite of the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. malice. animosity. callousness. cruelty.
Why is kindness attractive?
Like physical attractiveness, people are wired to choose kindness when selecting a romantic partner, especially for long-term relationships [8] [9]. The impact of being nice is strongest in how heterosexual women view men. … Kindness also makes people look more physically attractive [11].
What is kindness and why is it important?
Being kind can strengthen your relationships and sense of satisfaction in life. Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. … Kindness has been found by researchers to be the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage.
What are 10 acts of kindness?
Here are our 10 acts of kindness, but you can also brainstorm your own acts as a family!
- Stop to lend a hand. …
- Spread some beauty. …
- Double dinner. …
- Send kind greetings to the troops. …
- Let a stranger go in front of you in line. …
- Send a kind note to someone. …
- Clean up. …
- Pay it forward.
What are some kindness words?
- altruism,
- benevolence,
- benignancy,
- benignity,
- generosity,
- goodwill,
- humaneness,
- humanism,
What is genuine kindness?
Answer: Genuine kindness strengthens those who practice it. It goes way beyond good manners or formalities. When kindness is authentic, it demonstrates true consideration and respect for others. It’s also evidence of good character and a key that opens most doors.
Is kindness a virtue?
The dictionary defines kindness as ‘the virtue of showing love’ and the qualities of having a sympathetic, affectionate, warmhearted and considerate nature. Any virtue can be considered as the power to accomplish good, often in the face of obstacles and at the cost of sacrifice.
What is the purpose of kindness?
Kindness is caring about others and doing things to help make their lives better. It allows us to connect with other people and build meaningful relationships. When someone does us a kindness, we feel connected and more willing to cooperate with them.
What are two synonyms for kindness?
kindness
- forbearance.
- gentleness.
- goodness.
- humanity.
- solicitude.
- sympathy.
- tenderness.
- tolerance.
How do you describe a kind person?
Popular Posts. Caring people are polite, considerate, generous, affectionate, patient, understanding, loving, and forgiving. They go out of their way to make others feel special, to make them happy or feel more confident in themselves. They care what others have to say.
What did Jesus say about kindness?
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
What are the five acts of kindness?
Five Random Acts of Kindness
- Do your neighbor a favor! Maybe they could use a hand shoveling snow, or maybe you could offer to babysit their kids for a night for free. …
- Buy a stranger coffee. …
- Sign up to volunteer. …
- Clean out your house and make a donation to a local charity. …
- Make a donation to your local United Way.
What happens when show kindness?
Acts of kindness have the potential to make the world a happier place. An act of kindness can boost feelings of confidence, being in control, happiness and optimism. They may also encourage others to repeat the good deeds they’ve experienced themselves – contributing to a more positive community.
What is kindness of God?
The prophet Isaiah spoke much about the kindness of God. Scriptures such as Isaiah 54:8 and 63:7, tell us of God’s everlasting kindness and compassion upon us, as well as God’s good deeds toward his people. … To be kind toward one another is to show sympathy and compassion, to help as we are able.
Why do we value kindness?
Each act of kindness is changing the way we see ourselves and others, as well as how others see us. As our kindness positively affects others, we feel more compassionate, confident, useful, and in control. We also find ourselves feeling more appreciative and optimistic. … Kindness and being generous can change the world.
What is a good quote about kindness?
Motivational Quotes
- “Love and kindness are never wasted. …
- “What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?” – …
- “You can accomplish by kindness what you cannot by force.” – …
- “Kindness can become its own motive. …
- “Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people.
Only at one mention of the word «kindness» on the soul is warming. As if the sun looked out from behind a cloud and flashed in the spring. The meaning of the word «kindness» is deep and multifaceted. Good to be easy — it seems at first glance. «Do good for the joy of people» — so it is sung in a popular song, and which is easier: smile, share, give in, help — here you are and kind. However, the wisdom of kindness is not in actions themselves, but in how and why they are committed.
The lexical meaning of the word «kindness» refers to a person’s personal qualities in the context of moral values, approved by the society. Responsiveness and affection for others, as well as the need for the desire to do good, briefly characterize the importance of kindness as a general concept.
Love yourself
The first and main kindness is kindness to yourself. Attention and responsiveness to yourself can clearly hear others. Is it possible to consider someone who looks at the world from the standpoint of a martyr as good? The message of the victim «everything for others, but I do not need anything» is not a creation, but a destructive charge. A man who does not love himself is unhappy, which means that his kindness is false, exhausted. What will it give to others if it’s empty inside? Perhaps, such a person wants to be kind, tries and even gives the impression of a good-natured fellow to others, but «to love his neighbor as himself» is not able, since he does not accept himself.
Faces of kindness
Error, if kindness is considered a weakness of character, or in another way — mental laziness. All suits, no one interferes, and in general, «my hut with the edge …». Soft-hearted and indulgent parents are easier to cede, do not interfere, do not pay attention, than to think about the results of their «upbringing.» Do they provide a good service for their children? Kindness ends where indifference begins.
They misunderstand the meaning of the word «kindness» and those who are accustomed to impose their views on «right» life around them. One teaches his fellow Christians to follow the Christian canons, the second is simply a «born psychologist» with a bag of advice on his shoulders, the third hastens to do a disservice whenever he is not asked about it.
Another option is demonstrative kindness. Such kindness has a positive face, and it’s not accidental. She is called to decorate her master and always counts on universal recognition and delight. What is the use of doing good deeds if no one knows about it? Very superficially and bizarrely interpreted the meaning of the word «kindness» in the minds of people with a demonstrative type of character.
A little child knows exactly what kindness is. Not philosophizing, at the level of sensations. He feels good and bad. Always distinguish a really good person from someone who walks under the mask. Over time, this changes. The contradictory messages of adults, the mismatch of words and actions lead a little person to doubt. Growing up, he tries to remember or rediscover the meaning of the word «kindness.»
The power of kindness
Everything is complicated and at the same time simple. Listen, if the friend is bad, sympathize, stay close — good. To reach out if he needs help is also good. But is it always necessary? In order to understand and understand, mental work and sensitivity of the heart will be required. Unnecessary help can bring harm. To teach a child to dress and tie his shoelaces is an ordinary parental care. Continue to dress the grown up child, do for him what he has long been able to do himself — this is a corrupting «kindness» that deprives a small person of the chance to grow up.
Kindness is a creative force, the power of creativity and love. She stretches out her hand, she lights the road, she inspires a life, she calms and heals. Kindness makes people happy and gives inspiration. It spreads like a virus, from one to the other, and it is a virus of unselfishness, compassion and hope. And how do you understand the meaning of the word «kindness»?
Last Updated on September 20, 2022
Are you satisfied with what you know about kindness? Or are you struggling with this question:
“What is the true meaning of kindness?”
Either way, let’s discuss kindness — its true meaning. This way, you can identify genuine acts of kindness and embrace them.
Kindness is when a person shows care, love, and affection for another person. The recipient then gets a warm and fuzzy feeling — enough to brighten their day or even life.
Places where you can practice true kindness:
- Home – Show respect to your family members. Listen to their opinions and be gentle when speaking up your mind.
- Work – A corporate culture of kindness can improve your workplace. So always be nice to your colleague and maybe offer a helping hand when necessary.
- Public venues – To name a few public venues, there are shopping malls, parks, and amusement centers. Offer random people compliments, buy a stranger a cup of coffee, or just greet the security guard.
What can kindness be?
To get an answer to your question on what is the true meaning of kindness, know that kindness goes beyond “showing” a positive image of yourself.
It’s less about making other people see you. It’s more about “behaving” in a good light.
What true kindness is:
- Acts of generosity – Providing financial aid and opening your home to the less fortunate are common examples. A kind-hearted person shares what he has with others.
- Consideration and concern – Kind people show empathy and think about what’s good for the wellbeing of other people. They don’t make impulsive decisions and would first weigh any factor that would make an impact in the lives of others.
- Helpfulness without reward – People with kind hearts will make the world a better place. And they couldn’t care less if society rewards them for their good deeds.
Genuine kindness vs. fake kindness
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Sadly, many people can misinterpret what is the true meaning of kindness. That’s because genuine kindness comes with qualities that can overlap with the qualities exhibited by fake kindness.
Here are pointers that can help you see the difference between genuine kindness and fake kindness:
- Genuine kindness is humble – It’s confidence that doesn’t make other people feel inferior. Meanwhile, fake kindness is often an excuse to display arrogance.
- Genuine kindness is being true to yourself – It’s about respecting other people, but speaking your mind. Meanwhile, fake kindness is about getting praised for saying something agreeable — albeit false.
- Genuine kindness is an act of selfless love – You pursue something for someone with no self interest. Meanwhile, fake kindness is about pursuing something for selfish reasons.
What is the true meaning of kindness according to others? 15 quotes about true kindness
How you show what is the true meaning of kindness is up to you. You may be kind in easy ways. Or you may resort to grand gestures.
Either way, you can learn from the words of other people.
Here are 15 of them:
Kindness in leadership
- “It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not. We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even – or rather, especially – when we’d prefer not to be.” — Josh Radnor
- “As much as we need a prosperous economy, we also need a prosperity of kindness and decency.” — Caroline Kennedy
- “Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.” — Franklin D. Roosevelt
Kindness in treating illnesses
- “Every day, some act of kindness comes my way, even if it’s just someone opening the door. It happens every day if you keep an eye out for it. Keeping an eye out, that’s the key.” — Aaron Neville
- “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” — Mark Twain
- “Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.” — Bob Kerrey
Understanding the role of kindness
- “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” — Lao Tzu
- “Kindness can become its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.” — Eric Hoffer
- “Just imagine how different the world could be if we all spoke to everyone with respect and kindness.” — Holly Branson
Kindness and a positive attitude
- “Together we can change the world, just one random act of kindness at a time.” — Ron Hall
- “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” — Barbara De Angelis
- “Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.” — Theodore Isaac Rubin
Believing in the power of kindness
- “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward. Be safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” — Princess Diana
- “Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. It softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lifetimes.” — Joseph B. Wirthlin
- “I simply do not think that yelling, swearing, threatening or belittling will get you to the place you want to be faster than kindness, understanding, patience and a little willingness to compromise.” — Rachel Nichols
So, what is the true meaning of kindness for you?
There are a plethora of reasons we need to be kind to others. What’s yours?
What is the true meaning of kindness for you?
To have an answer to these questions, examine the situations in your life. Then try to find something related to the discussions in this blog post.
For example, your roommate offered to pay 6 months’ worth of rent for you. And your roommate proposed this selfless offer after realizing you’re getting back on your feet.
It’s an example of true kindness. It’s a testament of your roommate’s support for you.
If that vibes with how you define true kindness, then be free to embrace it.
She freelances as a web content writer from home. And she lives with the prettiest dog in the world.
Last Updated: April 20, 2022 | Author: howto-Trust
Contents
- 1 What is the true meaning of kindness?
- 2 What is the importance of kindness?
- 3 What is a sentence for kindness?
- 4 What is the meaning of kindness in the Bible?
- 5 Who is a kind person?
- 6 What does kind of like mean?
- 7 How do I describe a kind person?
- 8 What is a kind hearted person?
- 9 How do you describe kind?
- 10 What is the meaning of kind and gentle?
- 11 What is another word for act of kindness?
Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. … Whereas, being kind is doing intentional, voluntary acts of kindness. Not only when it’s easy to be kind, but when it’s hard to be.
What is the importance of kindness?
Why is kindness important? When we practice kindness either to other people or towards ourselves we can experience positive mental and physical changes through lowering stress levels and increasing the body’s production of feel-good hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin and serotonin.
What is a sentence for kindness?
Kindness sentence example. He didn’t do so out of the kindness of his heart. I’ve shown you what kindness I possess. Some show their kindness to the poor by employing them in their kitchens.
What is the meaning of kindness in the Bible?
Kindness is selfless, compassionate, and merciful; its greatest power revealed in practice to our enemies and amongst the least of these. Love your neighbor; show kindness to EVERYONE. For a perfect emblem of Biblical kindness, we need look no further than Jesus.
Who is a kind person?
A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart. … Kind people have good self-esteem and because they love themselves as much as they care about others, they expect to be treated with respect. Nice people are desperate for approval, so they’re often mistreated or taken advantage of.
What does kind of like mean?
‘Kind of like’ is when you are saying something is a little bit like something else. Example: This tastes kind of like chicken./ This kind of tastes like chicken. This means the food tastes a little bit like chicken, but not 100% like chicken. By the way, in spoken English we often say ‘Kinda’ instead of ‘Kind of’.
How do I describe a kind person?
of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person: a kind and loving person. having, showing, or proceeding from benevolence: kind words. indulgent, considerate, or helpful; humane (often followed by to): to be kind to animals.
What is a kind hearted person?
If you describe someone as kind-hearted, you mean that they are kind, caring, and generous. He was a warm, generous and kind-hearted man. Synonyms: sympathetic, kind, generous, helpful More Synonyms of kind-hearted.
How do you describe kind?
You can describe someone who is kind and always thinks about other people’s feelings as thoughtful or considerate. Thank you for phoning when I was ill – it was very thoughtful of you. He’s always very polite and considerate.
What is the meaning of kind and gentle?
adjective. Someone who is gentle is kind, mild, and calm.
What is another word for act of kindness?
What is another word for act of kindness?
| good deed | service |
|---|---|
| kindly act | kindness |
| special favor | grace |
| indulgence | mercy |
| charity | boon |