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The literal translation of the English phrase «I love you» in Mandarin Chinese is «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你). However, this phrase is an extremely serious declaration of emotional attachment in Chinese and is rarely heard among native speakers. There are other ways to say «I love you» that are more commonly used. You can also use related phrases to express how much you care for someone without using those 3 serious words. More often, though, the Chinese express their love and affection for others nonverbally, through their actions and their behavior towards someone.[1]
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Say «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) to literally say «I love you» to someone. The phrase «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) is the most literal way to say «I love you» in Chinese. This is considered an expression of extremely strong emotion and is never used casually.[2]
- Use this phrase to express a lifelong love for someone in a more formal situation or serious occasion. For example, you might say this to your new spouse at your wedding, or on an anniversary.
- The phrase «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) is not just romantic. It can also be used to express love between family members. However, as with romantic partners, it wouldn’t be used off-handedly in a casual setting.
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Go with «wǒ xǐ huān nǐ» (我喜欢你) to express romantic feelings. A Chinese person would probably look at you strangely if you said «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) to them — especially someone you just started dating or have a crush on. A literal translation of the phrase «wǒ xǐ huān nǐ» (我喜欢你) would be «I like you,» but it is actually the most common way to say «I love you» in Mandarin Chinese.[3]
- This phrase is also used in more casual situations where «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) would be considered out of place. For example, you might say it to your romantic partner before the two of you go your separate ways.
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Use numbers to say «I love you» in a text message. Texting is very popular in China and a text short-hand has emerged to express your feelings for someone using numbers rather than the words themselves (either in Chinese or in English). The numbers are used in place of Chinese characters because the word for the number in Chinese is pronounced roughly the same as the character itself. Some romantic Chinese text message abbreviations include:[4]
- 520 (wǔ èr líng) stands for «wǒ ài nǐ» (I love you)
- 770 (qī qī líng) stands for «qīn qīn nǐ» (kiss you)
- 880 (bā bā líng) stands for «bào bào nǐ» (hug you)
- 530 (wǔ sān líng) stands for «wǒ xiǎng nǐ» (miss you). This phrase can also be interpreted to mean that you’re thinking about the person.
Culture Tip: Since Chinese people more commonly express their love nonverbally, through gestures and physical affection, «qīn qīn nǐ» (亲亲你) and «bào bào nǐ» (抱抱你) are often used to say «I love you.»
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Try simply saying «I love you» in English. While it’s not Chinese, many Chinese speakers will switch to English when they want to tell someone they love them. Primarily, they do this because the phrase «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) is considered far too strong or too serious.[5]
- If you’re just saying «I love you» in a casual moment, such as when getting off the phone, it would probably be more appropriate to say it in English than to say it in Chinese.
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Say «wǒ xiǎng nǐ» to let a romantic interest know you’re thinking about them. The phrase «wǒ xiǎng nǐ» (我想你) can mean either «I miss you» or «I’m thinking of you.» Either is considered an expression of affection. The person’s understanding of the phrase really depends on the context in which you say it.[6]
- For example, if you texted the phrase to someone you hadn’t seen in a while, it might more commonly be interpreted to mean that you missed them, although either understanding would be appropriate.
- If you’ve only met the person recently, it would typically be interpreted to mean that you were thinking about them.
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Try phrases that reflect your exclusive relationship. If you are in an exclusive relationship with your romantic interest, there are several Mandarin phrases you can use to let them know that they are your «one and only.» These phrases let your romantic interest know that they are special and loved. Some phrases to try include:[7]
- Nǐ shì wǒ de wéiyī (你是我的唯): You are my only one
- Wǒ de xīnlǐ zhǐ yǒu nǐ (我的心里只有你): In my heart there is only you
- Wǒ huì yīzhí péizhe nǐ (我会一直陪着你): I will always stay with you
Tip: Avoid using these phrases if you’re not already in an exclusive, committed relationship with someone. If you use them with a crush or someone you just started dating, they may have the opposite of your intended effect and scare the person away.
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Give your romantic interest a compliment in Chinese. If you want to show someone that you’re interested in them romantically or find them attractive, complimenting them is a good start. At the least, you’ve indicated that you think of them positively. Some phrases to use include:[8]
- Nǐ zhēn piàoliang (你真漂亮): You’re so beautiful
- Nǐ hǎo shuài (你好帅): You’re so handsome
- Chuān yī fú zhēn pèi nǐ (穿衣服真配你): You look great in those clothes[9]
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Indicate your romantic interest in someone by saying «wǒ duì nǐ gǎn xìng qu.» The phrase «wǒ duì nǐ gǎn xìng qu» (我对你感兴趣) means «I’m interested in you.» If you’ve met someone and want to go out on a date or pursue a romantic relationship with them, this phrase will let them know how you feel.[10]
- You might also try «wǒ xǐhuān nǐ» (我喜欢你), which means «I’ve got a crush on you,» or «wǒ rènwéi nǐ bù jǐnjǐn zhǐ shì yí gè péngyǒu» (我认为你不仅仅只是一个朋友), which means «I think of you as more than a friend.»[11]
- You might also try «wǒ xǐhuān nǐ» (我喜欢你), which means «I’ve got a crush on you,» or «wǒ rènwéi nǐ bù jǐnjǐn zhǐ shì yí gè péngyǒu» (我认为你不仅仅只是一个朋友), which means «I think of you as more than a friend.»[11]
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Express your gratitude to the person for being in your life. If you say «nǐ duì wǒ éryán rúcǐ zhòngyào» (你对我而言如此重要) to someone, you’re saying «you mean so much to me.» While this phrase is typically used in a romantic context, you could also use it with a friend or family member who has gone out of their way to help you out.[12]
- When you say this to someone, they will see that you recognize and appreciate their efforts and care deeply for them.
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Do something nice for the person you love. Many Chinese people believe that your actions truly speak louder than your words. It’s likely that your loved one will gauge how much they mean to you by what you do for them rather than how often you say romantic things to them.[13]
- For example, you might do a chore for them that you know they particularly dislike or have a difficult time doing.
- You might also cook them their favorite meal, record their favorite TV show for them, or get them tickets to a concert you know they’ll enjoy.
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Make something special for the person you love. You don’t have to be particularly crafty or artistic to make something creative that the person you love will cherish. Just the fact that you made it with them in mind will warm their heart.[14]
- For example, you might print photos of the two of you together and make a scrapbook of your relationship and all the adventures you’ve been on.
- You might also make a sign or poster related to the person or something they enjoy.
- If you’re musically inclined, you might consider writing a song that tells the person how much they mean to you.
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Demonstrate affection through gestures and touch. Chinese people express their love more often nonverbally. If you love someone, let them know by holding their hand frequently and putting your arm around them. Leaning next to them or cuddling while the two of you are engaged in something else lets them know that you’re attached to them.[15]
- For example, you might put your arms around your significant other’s waist as they’re cooking, or massage their shoulders as they’re reading or working.
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Write a love letter to your romantic interest. Ornate, handwritten letters are cherished in Chinese culture, so if you write a love letter to your romantic interest in Chinese you’ll be certain to capture their attention (and their heart). In this kind of letter, you can afford to be more serious without having to worry that you’ll offend them.[16]
- For example, «wǒ ài nǐ» (我爱你) would be much more appropriate in a formal love letter than if you simply said it.
- If you’re just starting to learn Chinese, you might want to have a native speaker look over your letter before you give it to your beloved.
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In Mandarin, common ways to say, ‘I love you,’ are 我爱你 (wǒ ài nǐ) and 我喜欢你 (wǒ xǐ huān nǐ). A more subtle way of telling someone your feelings is to say, 我爱你 (wǒ ài nǐ).
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How do I say «called your love» in Chinese?
Say «Ni hao wo de ai». Pronounced «Ni how wuo d i». Practice saying that over and over until you become familiar with it.
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To say «I love you» in standard Chinese, say «wǒ ài nǐ,» which is pronounced like «wo-eye-knee.» If you want to say «I love you» in Cantonese, say «ngóh oi néih,» pronounced like «ngo ngoi nay.» To learn how to say other expressions of love in Chinese, scroll down!
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Do you often feel lonely and sad? Do you long for romance and are willing to do whatever it takes to meet that special person? Speaking another language could revolutionize your love life! So, why wait? Learning how to say ‘love’ in Chinese could be just what you need to find it.
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Table of Contents
- Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
- The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
- Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
- Chinese Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
- Chinese Quotes about Love
- Marriage Proposal Lines
- 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
- Will Falling in Love Help You Learn Chinese Faster?
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1. Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
So, you have met your Chinese love interest. Congratulations! Who knows where this could take you…?! However, the two of you have just met and you’re not ready to say the Chinese word for love just yet. Great, it is better to get to know him/her first. Wow your prospective love by using these Chinese date phrases to set up a spectacular first date.
Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
- 你愿意和我一起出去吃晚饭吗?
- Nǐ yuànyì hé wǒ yīqǐ chūqù chī wǎnfàn ma?
The important question! In most cultures, this phrase indicates: ‘I’m romantically interested in you’. Flirting in Chinese is no different, so don’t take your date to Mcdonald’s!
Are you free this weekend?
- 这个周末你有空吗?
- Zhège zhōumò nǐ yǒu kòng ma?
This is a preamble to asking your love interest on a date. If you get an immediate ‘Yes’, that’s good news!
Would you like to hang out with me?
- 你愿意和我一起出去吗?
- Nǐ yuànyì hé wǒ yīqǐ chūqù ma?
You like her/him, but you’re not sure if there’s chemistry. Ask them to hang out first to see if a dinner date is next.
What time shall we meet tomorrow?
- 我们明天什么时候见面?
- Wǒmen míngtiān shénme shíhou jiànmiàn?
Set a time, and be sure to arrive early! Nothing spoils a potential relationship more than a tardy date.
Where shall we meet?
- 我们在哪见面?
- Wǒmen zài nǎ jiànmiàn?
You can ask this, but also suggest a place.
You look great.
- 你看上去很棒。
- Nǐ kàn shàngqù hěn bàng.
A wonderful ice breaker! This phrase will help them relax a bit – they probably took great care to look their best just for you.
You are so cute.
- 你真可爱。
- Nǐ zhēn kě’ài.
If the two of you are getting on really well, this is a fun, flirtatious phrase to use.
What do you think of this place?
- 你觉得这个地方怎么样?
- Nǐ juéde zhège dìfāng zěnme yàng?
This another good conversation starter. Show off your Chinese language skills!
Can I see you again?
- 我可以再见到你吗?
- Wǒ kěyǐ zài jiàndào nǐ ma?
So the date went really well – don’t waste time! Make sure you will see each other again.
Shall we go somewhere else?
- 我们去别的地方好吗?
- Wǒmen qù biédì dìfāng hǎoma?
If the place you meet at is not great, you can suggest going elsewhere. It is also a good question to follow the previous one. Variety is the spice of life!
I know a good place.
- 我知道一个好地方。
- Wǒ zhīdào yīgè hǎo dìfāng.
Use this with the previous question. However, don’t say if you don’t know a good place!
I will drive you home.
- 我会开车送你回家。
- Wǒ huì kāichē sòng nǐ huí jiā.
If your date doesn’t have transport, this is a polite, considerate offer. However, don’t be offended if she/he turns you down on the first date. Especially a woman might not feel comfortable letting you drive her home when the two of you are still basically strangers.
That was a great evening.
- 那是一个很棒的夜晚。
- Nà shì yīgè hěn bàng de yèwǎn.
This is a good phrase to end the evening with.
When can I see you again?
- 我什么时候能再见到你?
- Wǒ shénme shíhou néng zàijiàn dào nǐ?
If he/she replied ‘Yes’ to ‘Can I see you again?’, this is the next important question.
I’ll call you.
- 我会给你打电话。
- Wǒ huì gěi nǐ dǎ diànhuà.
Say this only if you really mean to do it. In many cultures, this could imply that you’re keeping the proverbial backdoor open.
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2. The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
You learned all the Chinese phrases to make a date – congratulations! Now you have to decide where to meet, which can be tricky. Discuss these options with your lover to gauge whether you like the same things. Check out romantic date ideas in Chinese below!
museum
- 博物馆
- bówù guǎn
If you’re looking for unique date ideas that are fun but won’t break the bank, museums are the perfect spot! You won’t be running out of things to say in the conversations.
candlelit dinner
- 烛光晚餐
- zhúguāng wǎncān
A candlelit dinner is perhaps best to reserve for when the relationship is getting serious. It’s very intimate, and says: “Romance!” It’s a fantastic choice if you’re sure you and your date are in love with each other!
go to the zoo
- 去动物园
- qù dòngwùyuán
This is a good choice for shy lovers who want to get the conversation going. Just make sure your date likes zoos, as some people dislike them. Maybe not for the first date, but this is also a great choice if your lover has children – you’ll win his/her adoration for inviting them along!
go for a long walk
- 长时间散步
- chángshíjiān sànbù
Need to talk about serious stuff, or just want to relax with your date? Walking together is soothing, and a habit you can keep up together always! Just make sure it’s a beautiful walk that’s not too strenuous.
go to the opera
- 去看歌剧
- qù kàn gējù
This type of date should only be attempted if both of you love the opera. It can be a special treat, followed by a candlelit dinner!
go to the aquarium
- 去水族馆
- qù shuǐzúguǎn
Going to the aquarium is another good idea if you need topics for conversation, or if you need to impress your lover’s kids! Make sure your date doesn’t have a problem with aquariums.
walk on the beach
- 在海滩上散步
- zài hǎitān shàng sànbù
This can be a very romantic stroll, especially at night! The sea is often associated with romance and beauty.
have a picnic
- 野餐
- yě cān
If you and your date need to get more comfortable together, this can be a fantastic date. Spending time in nature is soothing and calms the nerves.
cook a meal together
- 一起做饭
- yīqǐ zuòfàn
If you want to get an idea of your date’s true character in one go, this is an excellent date! You will quickly see if the two of you can work together in a confined space. If it works, it will be fantastic for the relationship and create a sense of intimacy. If not, you will probably part ways!
have dinner and see a movie
- 吃晚饭,看电影
- chī wǎnfàn, kàn diànyǐng
This is traditional date choice works perfectly well. Just make sure you and your date like the same kind of movies!
3. Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
Expressing your feelings honestly is very important in any relationship all year round. Yet, on Valentine’s Day you really want to shine. Impress your lover this Valentine’s with your excellent vocabulary, and make his/her day! We teach you, in fun, effective ways, the meanings of the words and how to pronounce them. You can also copy the characters and learn how to write ‘I love you’ in Chinese – think how impressed your date will be!
4. Chinese Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
So, you now have the basic Valentine’s Day vocabulary under your belt. Well done! But, do you know how to say ‘I love you’ in Chinese yet? Or perhaps you are still only friends. So, do you know how to say ‘I like you’ or ‘I have a crush on you’ in Chinese? No? Don’t worry, here are all the love phrases you need to bowl over your Chinese love on this special day!
I love you.
- 我爱你。
- Wǒ ài nǐ.
Saying ‘I love you’ in Chinese carries the same weight as in all languages. Use this only if you’re sure and sincere about your feelings for your partner/friend.
You’re so beautiful.
- 你真漂亮。
- Nǐ zhēn piàoliang.
If you don’t know how to say ‘You’re pretty’ in Chinese, this is a good substitute, gentlemen!
You’re so handsome.
- 你好帅。
- Nǐ hǎo shuài .
Ladies, this phrase lets your Chinese love know how much you appreciate his looks! Don’t be shy to use it; men like compliments too.
I’ve got a crush on you.
- 我喜欢你。
- Wǒ xǐhuān nǐ .
If you like someone, but you’re unsure about starting a relationship, it would be prudent to say this. It simply means that you like someone very, very much and think they’re amazing.
You make me want to be a better man.
- 你让我想变得更好。
- Nǐ ràng wǒ xiǎng biàn de gènghǎo .
Gentlemen, don’t claim this phrase as your own! It hails from the movie ‘As Good as it Gets’, but it is sure to make your Chinese girlfriend feel very special. Let her know that she inspires you!
Let all that you do be done in love.
- 让所有你做的事都充满爱。
- Ràng suǒyǒu nǐ zuò de shì dōu chōngmǎn ài .
We hope.
You are my sunshine, my love.
- 你是我的阳光,我的爱。
- Nǐ shì wǒ de yángguāng, wǒ de ài.
A compliment that lets your lover know they bring a special quality to your life. Really nice!
Words can’t describe my love for you.
- 无法用言语来形容我对你的爱。
- Wúfǎ yòng yányǔ lái xíngróng wǒ duì nǐ de ài.
Better say this when you’re feeling serious about the relationship! It means that your feelings are very intense.
We were meant to be together.
- 我们是命中注定要在一起。
- Wǒmen shì mìngzhōng zhùdìng yào zài yìqǐ .
This is a loving affirmation that shows you see a future together, and that you feel a special bond with your partner.
If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you’re definitely in love.
- 如果你读这篇文章时想着某个人,你一定是恋爱了。
- Rúguǒ nǐ dú zhè piān wénzhāng shí xiǎngzhe mǒu gèrén , nǐ yídìng shì liànài le .
Here’s something fun to tease your lover with. And hope he/she was thinking of you!
Will you be my Valentine?
- 你愿意与我共度情人节吗?
- Nǐ yuànyì yǔ wǒ gòngdù Qíngrénjié ma ?
With these words, you are taking your relationship to the next level! Or, if you have been a couple for a while, it shows that you still feel the romance. So, go for it!
Love is just love. It can never be explained.
- 爱情就是爱情,常理无法解释。
- Àiqíng jiù shì àiqíng , chánglǐ wúfǎ jiěshì .
If you fell in love unexpectedly or inexplicably, this one’s for you.
You mean so much to me.
- 你对我而言如此重要。
- Nǐ duì wǒ éryán rúcǐ zhòngyào .
This is a beautiful expression of gratitude that will enhance any relationship! It makes the receiver feel appreciated and their efforts recognized.
I think of you as more than a friend.
- 我认为你不仅仅只是一个朋友。
- Wǒ rènwéi nǐ bù jǐnjǐn zhǐ shì yí gè péngyǒu.
Say this if you are not yet sure that your romantic feelings are reciprocated. It is also a safe go-to if you’re unsure about the Chinese dating culture.
A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you.
- 一百颗心也不足以承载我对你的爱。
- Yìbǎi kē xīn yě bù zúyǐ chéngzài wǒ duì nǐ de ài .
You romantic you…! When your heart overflows with love, this would be the best phrase to use.
5. Chinese Quotes about Love
You’re a love champ! You and your Chinese lover are getting along fantastically, your dates are awesome, your Valentine’s Day together was spectacular, and you’re very much in love. Good for you! Here are some beautiful phrases of endearment in Chinese that will remind him/her who is in your thoughts all the time.
6. Marriage Proposal Lines
Wow. Your Chinese lover is indeed the love of your life – congratulations! And may only happiness follow the two of you! In most traditions, the man asks the woman to marry; this is also the Chinese custom. Here are a few sincere and romantic lines that will help you to ask your lady-love for her hand in marriage.
7. 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
Instead of moving towards marriage or a long-term relationship, you find that the spark is not there for you. That is a pity! But even though breaking up is never easy, continuing a bad or unfulfilling relationship would be even harder. Remember to be kind to the person you are going to say goodbye to; respect and sensitivity cost nothing. Here are some phrases to help you break up gently.
- 我想和你谈一谈。
- Wǒ xiǎng hé nǐ tán yī tán.
This is not really a break-up line, but it is a good conversation opener with a serious tone.
It’s not you. It’s me.
- 不是你,是我。
- bù shì nǐ , shì Wǒ .
As long as you mean it, this can be a kind thing to say. It means that there’s nothing wrong with your Chinese lover as a person, but that you need something different from a relationship.
I’m just not ready for this kind of relationship.
- 我只是没有准备好变成这种关系。
- Wǒ zhǐ shì méiyǒu zhǔnbèi hǎo biànchéng zhèzhǒng guānxi .
Things moved a bit fast and got too intense, too soon? Painful as it is, honesty is often the best way to break up with somebody.
Let’s just be friends.
- 我们只做朋友吧。
- Wǒmen zhǐ zuò péngyǒu ba.
If the relationship was very intense, and you have sent many ‘i love u’ texts in Chinese, this would not be a good breakup line. Feelings need to calm down before you can be friends, if ever. If the relationship has not really developed yet, a friendship would be possible.
I think we need a break.
- 我认为我们需要冷静。
- Wǒ rènwéi wǒmen xūyào lěngjìng .
This is again honest, and to the point. No need to play with someone’s emotions by not letting them know how you feel. However, this could imply that you may fall in love with him/her again after a period of time, so use with discretion.
You deserve better.
- 你应该得到更好的。
- Nǐ yīnggāi dédào gèng hǎo de.
Yes, he/she probably deserves a better relationship if your own feelings have cooled down.
We should start seeing other people.
- 我们应该开始注意其他人。
- wǒmen yīnggāi kāishǐ zhùyì qítārén .
This is probably the least gentle break-up phrase, so reserve it for a lover that doesn’t get the message!
I need my space.
- 我需要自己的空间。
- Wǒ xūyào zìjǐ de kōngjiān .
When a person is too clingy or demanding, this would be an suitable break-up phrase. It is another good go-to for that lover who doesn’t get the message!
I think we’re moving too fast.
- 我认为我们进展得太快了。
- Wǒ rènwéi wǒmen jìnzhǎn děi tài kuài le .
Say this if you want to keep the relationship, but need to slow down its progress a bit. It is also good if you feel things are getting too intense for your liking. However, it is not really a break-up line, so be careful not to mislead.
I need to focus on my career.
- 我需要专注于我的工作。
- Wǒ xūyào zhuān zhù yú Wǒ de gōngzuò .
If you feel that you will not be able to give 100% in a relationship due to career demands, this is the phrase to use. It’s also good if you are unwilling to give up your career for a relationship.
I’m not good enough for you.
- 我配不上你。
- Wǒ pèi bù shàng nǐ .
Say this only if you really believe it, or you’ll end up sounding false. Break-ups are usually hard for the receiving party, so don’t insult him/her with an insincere comment.
I just don’t love you anymore.
- 我只是不再爱你了。
- Wǒ zhǐ shì bù zài ài nǐ le .
This harsh line is sometimes the best one to use if you are struggling to get through to a stubborn, clingy lover who won’t accept your break up. Use it as a last resort. Then switch your phone off and block their emails!
We’re just not right for each other.
- 我们只是不适合对方。
- wǒmen zhǐ shì bù shìhé duìfāng .
If this is how you truly feel, you need to say it. Be kind, gentle and polite.
It’s for the best.
- 这样对我们来说都好。
- zhèyàng duì wǒmen láishuō dōuhǎo .
This phrase is called for if circumstances are difficult and the relationship is not progressing well. Love should enhance one’s life, not burden it!
We’ve grown apart.
- 我们已经分道扬镳。
- Wǒmen yǐjīng fēndàoyángbiāo.
Cross-cultural relationships are often long-distance ones, and it is easy to grow apart over time.
8. Will Falling in Love help you Learn Chinese faster?
Most people will agree that the above statement is a no-brainer – of course it will! Your body will be flooded with feel-good hormones, which are superb motivators for anything. ChineseClass101 is one of the best portals to help help make this a reality, so don’t hesitate to enroll now! Let’s quickly look at the reasons why falling in love will speed up your learning of the Chinese language.
Three Reasons Why Having a Lover will Help you Learn Chinese Faster!
1- Being in a love relationship with your Chinese speaking partner will immerse you in the culture
ChineseClass101 uses immersive methods and tools to teach you Chinese, but having a relationship with a native speaker will be a very valuable addition to your learning experience! You will gain exposure to their world, realtime and vividly, which will make the language come alive even more for you. The experience is likely to expand your world-view, which should motivate you to learn Chinese even faster.
2- Having your Chinese romantic partner will mean more opportunity to practice speaking
Nothing beats continuous practice when learning a new language. Your partner will probably be very willing to assist you in this, as your enhanced Chinese language skills will enhance the relationship. Communication is, after all, one of the most important pillars of a good partnership. Also, you will get to impress your lover with the knowledge gained through your studies – a win/win situation!
3- A supportive Chinese lover is likely to make a gentle, patient teacher and study aid!
With his/her heart filled with love and goodwill for you, your Chinese partner is likely to patiently and gently correct your mistakes when you speak. This goes not only for grammar, but also for accent and meaning. With his/her help, you could sound like a native in no time!
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With 1.4 billion people, China is the most populous country.
With such a big population, they might know a thing or two about falling in love!
Did you know that China has 3 Valentine’s Days?
– February 14th which is known as “Western” valentines Day
– Double Seventh Festival – I will explain more in a minute!
– April 20 (4/20) is known as “I love you day” because 420 in Chinese sounds similar to 我爱你 (Wǒ ài nǐ) “I love you”
But they also have two days which are dedicated to singles and helping them to find a partner or celebrate their singleness!
– The 11th of November 11.11 which is known as singles day – the famous shopping day made famous by Alibaba.
– 19th of April is known unofficially as “One Night Stand” day. Because 419 in Chinese sounds similar to “For One Night”.
I love you!
I love you 我爱你 (Wǒ ài nǐ) – is probably the most important combination of three words in the English language.
Saying the phrase is so common in English-speaking countries that it has become a normal part of people’s language.
In this article, we’ll make sure that you learn the appropriate way to say I love you in China.
Like the rest of the world, China celebrates Valentine’s Day but it’s called:
Double Seventh Festival
七夕节
Qīxījié
The Double Seventh Festival is based on an ancient legend romance between an ox herder and a basket weaver.
The most appropriate way to say “I love you” in Chinese is:
I like you / I fancy you
我喜欢你
Wǒ xǐhuan nǐ
There are many ways to tell your loved ones how much you love 喜欢 them. Here are a few unique ways that are popular in China:
I want to be with you
我想跟你在一起
wǒ xiǎng gēn nǐ zài yīqǐ
I miss you / I’m thinking of you
我想你
wǒ xiǎng nǐ
I will always stay with you
我会一直陪着你
wǒ huì yīzhí péizhe nǐ)
In my eyes, you are the most beautiful
在我眼里你是最美的
zài wǒ yǎn lǐ nǐ shì zuì měi de
520 (wǔ èr líng)
我爱你 (sounds a little like wǒ ài nǐ)
I love you
530 (wǔ sān líng)
我想你 (sounds a little like wǒ xiǎng nǐ) “I miss you”
880 (bā bā líng)
抱抱你 (sounds a little like bào bào nǐ) “Hug you”
I love you more than 99 iPhones.
我爱你胜过99个爱疯
Wǒ ài nǐ shèngguò 99 gè àifēng
This is symbolic of the man who went viral for proposing to his girlfriend with 99 iPhones.
My love for you is beyond index.
我对你的爱无以言表
Wǒ duì nǐ de ài wúyǐyánbiǎo
This means beyond the normal range.
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Do you know how to say «I love you» in Chinese?
Plug it into Google Translate, and the answer that comes up is “我爱你” (wǒ ài nǐ.) Easy peasy.
Except that Chinese people don’t actually say this to each other.
Growing up in a full Chinese household, my parents never said “我爱你” to me. They would always switch to English and then say “I love you,” and even then they did so sparingly. Chalking it up to my immigrant parents trying to learn English, I gradually got used to lack of the word “爱” in our Chinese conversations. It wasn’t until I spent a great deal of time in my friends’ American families that I realized how infrequent our usage was in comparison.
And from reading some articles online, it was clear that I wasn’t alone.
When asked why phrases with the word “爱” were rarely said, (outside of pop lyrics, that is) most Chinese people respond with “it’s too strong.” The Business Insider reports that an online video of children telling their parents “我爱你” went viral in 2014, and one parent even responds bluntly, “Are you drunk?”
So, why do Chinese people have such an aversion to saying these words? For a country that is known for being direct, it seems strange that they would shy away from this sort of expression. Some people believe it’s a cultural thing. “They are used to educating children with negative language” says Xia Xueluan, a Sociologist from Peking University. Similarly, a psychology study on 18 college students in Beijing found that Chinese people may exercise more restraint when dealing with romantic feelings. An fMRI study revealed that Chinese people may have a conditioned response to romance based on years of tradition.
Usually to express romantic feelings, Chinese people would say “我喜欢你” instead. Here are some phrases that are used to confess to someone.
我喜欢你 (wǒ xǐ huān nǐ) = “I like you.”
我希望和你交往 (wǒ xī wàng hé nǐ jiāo wǎng) = “I would for us to date.”
Saying “I love you” in English might be an even more common way to express your feelings for someone in China. A young Chinese financier said, “For us, ‘’I love you,’ is beautiful in its brevity, universality, and vagueness in another language.”
Many Chinese people prefer doing something nice through their actions to show someone they care. Having never told her father «I love you» face to face, a 31-year old woman collected photos of her and her father that span three decades and presented them in an album. (China Daily)
What is popular in China right now is to use numbers in text messages. These numbers sound like specific Chinese words and are a form of chat speak among younger generations. This is a more subtle way to tell someone your feelings, and are basically the Xs and Os in Chinese.
520 (wǔ èr líng) = 我爱你 (wǒ ài nǐ) “I love you.”
530 (wǔ sān líng) = 我想你 (wǒ xiǎng nǐ) “I miss you.”
770 (qī qī líng) = 亲亲你 (qīn qīn nǐ) “Kiss you.”
880 (bā bā líng) = 抱抱你 (bào bào nǐ) “Hug you.”
1314 (yī sān yī sì) = 一生一世 (yī shēng yī shì) “Always / forever.” Often combined with 520 so that it becomes 5201314, or “I’ll love you forever.”
In fact, these numbers are so popular that some shops will use them to price their items, or even pay extra to have these digits in their phone numbers. Which makes sense, as these numbers are easy to remember.
A flower shop called «520»
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So this Valentine’s Day, try texting your Valentine 5201314.
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Your heart skips a beat whenever the lead actor says “我爱你” (wǒ ài nǐ), which means I love you in Chinese, in one of the many romantic Chinese and Taiwanese drama series. That’s because, in your mind, you’re the protagonist who receives so much attention from him. We can’t fault you for it. Because the more you appreciate a plot, the more comfortable you’ll be with a Chinese soundtrack. However, you don’t have to wait for this phrase because Chinese people are so creative when expressing how much they love someone.
If you have a Chinese girlfriend or boyfriend, you’ll be able to do more to impress them. So, in today’s article, we’ll cover some more Chinese love expressions. But first, let’s take a look at some cultural insights that are unique to Chinese people.
How Chinese People Express Romantic Feelings
In any relationship, expressing affection is essential. Intimate human relationships develop and bloom when love is there. One person’s manner of expressing their love may be dissimilar from another. Verbal, nonverbal, and gestures can all be used to transfer a message. But what if I told you there’re Chinese couples who find it difficult to express their feelings? So how do Chinese partner express their love then? Here, we’ll let you know how.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
We can say that actions speak louder than words in Chinese society regarding relationships. Couples in China tend to be more conservative. They wouldn’t be together if they weren’t planning to be married someday. As a result, it’s all about showing their love rather than expressing it verbally. Gifts and financial support are regularly used to do this. Even though it seems materialistic to others from different cultures, economic success is considered a sign of stability.
Also, it’s common for a man to carry a woman’s bag, something you might not expect to see in Chinese culture because they rarely use romantic terms. This is another example of an action that speaks louder than words, even if it doesn’t express the love, but rather a big opening that they’re bound for each other.
Chinese Family Members Don’t Say I Love You
Have you ever seen Tiktok content creators comparing Western parents with Asian parents? Chinese background families are represented in the majority of videos. When they claim that their parents can’t seem to say “I love you” like Western parents, that’s when things become very interesting. Do the parents of Chinese families not care about their children? Instead, Chinese parents show their care for their children by not using the word “love” at all. So let us illustrate what they say.
你吃了吗?(Nǐ Chīle Ma) – Have You Eaten Yet?
They’re concerned about your well-being and ensure that you eat on time. And they’ll begin worrying about your health if they realize you’ve lost weight. As a result, they’ll start bringing you good food. They’ll keep piling food on your plate even if you’re about to burst.
Keep Your Focus Only On Your Studies
Chinese parents tell you to focus on your studies and not to worry about your financial situation. They will do anything to support you in achieving your educational goals.
We’ve learned quite a lot about Chinese culture. So now is the time to sharpen up your Chinese vocabulary. Come on, let’s get some practice in!
Basic Chinese Word About Love
Chinese Word | Pronunciation | English Definition |
爱 | ài | Love |
喜欢 | xǐhuān | Like |
Common Phrases For I Love You In Chinese
Chinese Phrase | Pronunciation | English Definition |
我爱你 | wǒ ài nǐ | I love you. |
我也爱你 | wǒ yě aì nǐ | I love you too. |
我 喜欢 你 | wǒ xǐhuān nǐ | I like you. |
你让我疯狂 | nǐ ràng wǒ fēngkuáng | I’m crazy about you. |
我对你感兴趣 | wǒ duì nǐ gǎn xìng qù | I’m interested in you. |
我想你 | wǒ xiǎng nǐ | I miss you. |
我想念你 | wǒ xiǎngniàn nǐ | I miss you. |
我好想你 | wǒ hǎo xiǎng nǐ | I miss you so much. |
我暗恋你 | wǒ àn liàn nǐ | I have a crush on you. |
我爱上你了 | wǒ ài shàng nǐ le | I’m in love with you. |
你是我喜欢的类型 | nǐ shì wǒ xǐ huān de lèi xíng | You’re just my type. |
我喜欢和你在一起 | wǒ xǐhuān hé nǐ zài yīqǐ | I like being with you. |
Texting I Love You On Chinese Social Media
Many Chinese people use numerical slang to express themselves verbally or emotionally. In Chinese, a number sounds a lot like romantic Chinese words. Let’s have a look at some instances.
Arabic Numerals | Chinese Numerals | Pronunciation | Chinese Romantic Phrase | English Definition |
520 | 五二零 | wǔ èr líng | 我爱你 (wǒ ài nǐ) | I love you. |
530 | 五三零 | wǔ sān líng | 我想你 (wǒ xiǎng nǐ) | I miss you. |
770 | 七七零 | qī qī líng | 亲亲你 (qīn qīn nǐ) | Kiss you |
880 | 八八零 | bā bā líng | 抱抱你 (bào bào nǐ) | Hug you |
1314 | 一三一四 | yī sān yī sì | 一生一世 (yī shēng yī shì) | Forever |
5201314 | 五二零一三一四 | wǔ èr líng yī sān yī sì | 我爱你一生一世 (wǒ ài nǐ yī shēng yī shì) | I’ll love you forever. |
How Chinese People Call Their Partner
Chinese Word | Pronunciation | English Definition |
老公 | Lǎogōng | Hubby |
老婆 | Lǎopó | Wifey |
我的宝贝 | wǒ de bǎobèi | My baby |
亲 | qīn | Bae |
心肝 | xīngān | My heart and soul |
Summary
A beautiful way to communicate one’s feelings is love. The phrase “I love you” is a must-learn whether a beginner or a seasoned Chinese language learner. To sum up, this article has covered the most often used words and phrases in Chinese society, which can be applied in everyday conversation, and the comprehension of Chinese or Taiwanese romance TV dramas. We hope you’ve learned much and can implement new knowledge in real life. More so, if you’re dating a Chinese person, you can most likely devise a few more creative ways to show affection for the special person.
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Culturally, Chinese people are not known to express love as often using words as in Western cultures. Even so, there are a number of ways to communicate how you feel in Chinese and they can be totally appropriate to use – especially if you are speaking to a boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse. Instead of just teaching you how to say I love you, we have a whole list of phrases that can all be “love” phrases for you to try out.
How to say I love you in Chinese and essential Chinese love phrases:
I love you – 我爱你 wǒ ài nǐ
This is the most direct translation and an easy one to remember! How do you respond to this? You can say 我也爱你 (Wǒ yě ài nǐ) which means I love you, too.
I like you – 我喜欢你 wǒ xǐ huan nǐ
This is a good one for you to try out that is not as serious. You could use this phrase in a flirtatious way or just as a little more subtle way of expressing your feelings.
I miss you – 我想你 wǒ xiǎng nǐ
Want to emphasize it even more? Try 我很想念你 (wǒ hěn xiǎng niàn nǐ). It means “I miss you a lot.”
Will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend? – 你愿意做我的女/男朋友吗?nǐ yuàn yì zuò wǒ de nǚ / nán péng you ma?
This is pretty straightforward! Be careful when you’re practicing this phrase – you might just get yourself into a relationship.
Will you marry me? – 你愿意嫁给我吗?nǐ yuàn yì jià gěi wǒ ma?
With this phrase you’ve brought your relationship full circle and you’re making the biggest step! If you get the response 我愿意 (wǒ yuàn yì) then..congratulations!
Those are the essential phrases love phrases that you need to know to fall in love in Chinese! We hope that you have fallen in love with the Chinese language and we know that you can learn it faster than ever if you download the Du Chinese app. Besides that though, we have some bonus Chinese love phrases that you can check out here:
Additional Chinese love phrases
你是我的唯一 nǐ shì wǒ de wéi yī
You are my one and only. You’ll hear this phrase used in a lot of songs.
你是我的白马王子 nǐ shì wǒ de bái mǎ wáng zǐ
You are my knight in shining armor.
我永远爱你 wǒ yǒng yuǎn ài nǐ
I love you forever.
我爱你一生一世 wǒ ài nǐ yì shēng yí shì
Another way to say “I love you forever” or “I love you all my life”
亲亲你 – qīn qīn nǐ
Kiss you
抱抱你 – bào bào nǐ
Hug you
Now that you’re armed with all these phrases you’re ready for Chinese love holidays, of which there are plenty! Qixi, Single’s Day, 520 and even February 14th! Some of the best ways to express love are with your time and gifts, but taking the time to learn a few phrases could mean a lot to your special someone if they are a Chinese speaker.
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February 22, 2023
There are so many more ways to say “I love you” in Mandarin Chinese than 我爱你 (wǒ ài nǐ).
In China, you’d mostly use other, less straightfoward expressions to show your love and affection.
Let’s dive in deeper and look at some different ways to share romantic feelings in Mandarin!
Contents
- 1. I love you: 我爱你
- 2. I like you: 我喜欢你
- 3. I miss you so much: 我好想你
- 4. I am crazy about you: 我为你疯狂
- 5. I have a crush on you: 我暗恋你
- 6. I’d like for us to go on a date: 我希望和你交往
- 7. I want to be with you: 我想跟你在一起
- 8. I want to kiss you: 我想吻你
- 9. I only belong to you: 我只属于你
- 10. I love you for life: 我爱你一生一世
- 11. I love you: 爱老虎油
- 12. Forever: 一三一四 / 1314
- 13. I love you: 五二零 / 520
- 14. I love you: 五二一 / 521
- 15. I’ll love you forever: 五二零一三一四 / 5201314
- 16. Kiss you: 七七零 / 770
- 17. Hug you: 八八零 / 880
- More Ways to Say I Love You in Chinese
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- More with the gifts, less with the words
- Celebrate all the Chinese romantic holidays
- Share the love with food
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1. I love you: 我爱你
Pinyin: wǒ ài nǐ
This is the most literal way to say “I love you” in Mandarin, but be careful with this one! The phrase isn’t commonly used in traditional Chinese culture.
While you may be accustomed to telling your friends, partners and family members that you love them, Chinese families are not very vocal or direct when it comes to their affection for their loved ones.
Naturally, saying 我爱你 to someone from China might come across as strange, and that person might react in a way that’s less than ideal.
Romance isn’t really embedded into Chinese culture the way it is in many other cultures. While English-speaking cultures often make a big deal out of who says “I love you” first, Chinese couples generally don’t really care.
2. I like you: 我喜欢你
Pinyin: wǒ xǐ huān nǐ
This phrase is typically meant romantically—you wouldn’t really say it to friends!
In fact, it’s often used when you’re confessing your feelings for someone. You can also say it casually to someone you’re already dating if 我爱你 would come off as too strong.
3. I miss you so much: 我好想你
Pinyin: wǒ hǎo xiǎng nǐ
This works with close friends, loved ones and significant others. The milder version of it would be 我想你 (wǒ xiǎng nǐ), which simply means “I miss you.”
4. I am crazy about you: 我为你疯狂
Pinyin: wǒ wèi nǐ fēng kuáng
If you’re extremely infatuated with someone, this might be one phrase you’ll want to practice!
5. I have a crush on you: 我暗恋你
Pinyin: wǒ àn liàn nǐ
暗恋 means liking someone romantically, but in a secret way—the other person doesn’t know.
6. I’d like for us to go on a date: 我希望和你交往
Pinyin: wǒ xī wàng hé nǐ jiāo wǎng
This is a straightforward way to ask someone out! Aside from 交往, you can also say 约会 (yuē huì).
7. I want to be with you: 我想跟你在一起
Pinyin: wǒ xiǎng gēn nǐ zài yì qǐ
在一起 literally means “to be together” in Mandarin, so use this phrase when you’re ready to get serious with someone or you’re already committed to each other.
8. I want to kiss you: 我想吻你
Pinyin: wǒ xiǎng wěn nǐ
Be careful with the tones for this! 吻 means “kiss”—but make sure to say it with the third tone. The other person might mistake what you’re saying for 问 (wèn) and assume you’re just going to ask them a question.
9. I only belong to you: 我只属于你
Pinyin: wǒ zhǐ shǔ yú nǐ
You’ll usually hear this in Chinese love songs and dramas. Of course, you can also flip it around: 你只属于我 (nǐ zhǐ shǔ yú wǒ) — “You only belong to me.”
10. I love you for life: 我爱你一生一世
Pinyin: wǒ ài nǐ yī shēng yī shì
This is a very romantic phrase, to the point that it even has its own holiday!
In 2013, January 4 was declared as “Love You Forever” day. That day was such a big deal because the date 2013/1/4 in Mandarin was 二零一三一四 (èr líng yī sān yī sì), which sounds similar to this phrase.
That holiday was literally a once-in-a-lifetime event, and thousands of couples rushed to get hitched on the historic date.
11. I love you: 爱老虎油
Pinyin: ài lǎo hǔ yóu
This slang expression is a transliteration of the English “I love you,” and it’s a lighthearted way of sharing your feelings. You’ll often read it online or in a chat.
12. Forever: 一三一四 / 1314
Pinyin: yī sān yī sì
Number slang is also common via text or online. As you can see from the last two phrases, the Chinese are very big on creating slang by using similar sounds between numbers and other words.
一三一四 / 1314 is a homophone of the above-mentioned 一生一世, meaning “forever” in English.
13. I love you: 五二零 / 520
Pinyin: wǔ èr líng
五二零 / 520 is a homophone of 我爱你. When texting someone, you can actually just send them a message with 520 in it, and they’ll understand that you’re saying you love them.
This led to Chinese Internet Valentine’s Day, created by netizens a few years back on the dates of 5/20 and 5/21. Women often expect gifts or red packets on May 20th, so be prepared!
14. I love you: 五二一 / 521
Pinyin: wǔ èr yī
520 is much more popular, but 五二一 / 521 has romantic associations because it also sounds very similar to 我爱你.
15. I’ll love you forever: 五二零一三一四 / 5201314
Pinyin: wǔ èr líng yī sān yī sì
If 520 isn’t enough, you can go above and beyond with 五二零一三一四 / 5201314! It’s based on an expression we’ve mentioned already: 我爱你一生一世.
You can also shorten this to 2013 to sound like 爱你一生 (ài nǐ yì shēng), which has roughly the same meaning as the full phrase.
16. Kiss you: 七七零 / 770
Pinyin: qī qī líng
This number slang, 770, is a reference to 亲亲你 (qīn qīn nǐ), where 亲 means “kiss.”
17. Hug you: 八八零 / 880
Pinyin: bā bā líng
This phrase, literally 880, comes from 抱抱你 (bào bào nǐ). 抱 means to hug someone!
More Ways to Say I Love You in Chinese
You’ll hear many of the phrases above and even the “L-word” in Chinese pop songs and dramas. For example, 我喜欢你 shows up in a popular song from the drama “A Love So Beautiful”:
The screenshot above is from FluentU, where you can watch music videos, drama clips, commercials and other authentic Chinese videos. In addition to hearing different expressions of love by native Chinese speakers, you’ll also have the support of accurate dual-language subtitles.
On the iOS and Android apps, you even get a chance to speak these words out loud—so you can practice professing your love to your phone before you test it out on a real person.
But if you really want to do as the Chinese do, here are some gestures to express your love for your Chinese significant other:
More with the gifts, less with the words
The Chinese are all about showing your love as opposed to confessing your love. And showing your love is often done with gifts and financial provisions.
This may seem superficial to those from Western cultures, who often believe that personal sacrifices like time, energy and effort are strong indications of love.
In China, wealth is seen as stability for the future, which aligns with Chinese ideals about love. China’s history of extreme poverty shaped the social norms of correlating affection with money.
Celebrate all the Chinese romantic holidays
If you thought Valentine’s Day was excessive, wait until you hear about all the romantic holidays in China!
The Chinese might not say “I love you” outright, but they sure have lots of calendar days celebrating their love for one another.
Days to shower your Chinese partner with flowers, chocolates and other gifts include:
- International Valentine’s Day, on February 14.
- Double Seventh Festival, or 七夕节 (qī xī jié), a traditional festival celebrating a legend of forbidden love on the seventh day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar.
- Chinese Internet Valentine’s Day, as mentioned above, on May 20 and 21.
Share the love with food
In Chinese culture, love isn’t always said out loud—and you can see this even with Chinese parents.
By now, you’ve probably already seen the Pixar short “Bao.”
Chinese and other Asian people rejoiced because they felt the animated feature perfectly reflected the kind of relationships they had with their own parents.
As Chinese-Canadian director Domee Shi explained with Xinhua, “Traditionally, Chinese parents don’t say, ‘I love you’ to their kids. They say it with food or by fussing over them.”
Food is so important to Chinese culture that a traditional greeting is 你吃饭了吗? (nǐ chī fàn le ma?), which means “How are you?” but is literally “Have you eaten?”
Because of this, you can definitely use food as a gesture of affection—you might cook dinner for your significant other, bring them their favorite food or invite them to a family meal. It might seem more subtle, but they’ll likely get the message and feel appreciated!
Love is a tricky business, isn’t it?
If you’re adamant about saying “I love you” in Mandarin in the literal way, by all means, go for it.
Just be prepared for the possibility of strange looks, a bit of laughter and maybe some comments about you being crazy or drunk.
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I Love You In Chinese 💕 37 Phrases to Learn about Love
How do you say I Love You in Chinese?
我爱你 – Wǒ ài nǐ
- 我 – I, Me
- 爱 – to love
- 你 – You
It’s a question asked A LOT – roughly 50,000 times a month according to Google search!
Rather than just giving you the translation, we are going one step further and to create a guide with some excellent alternatives, giving you the perfect back catalogue to not just express your love in Chinese, but much more!
How do you say I Love You in Chinese
How do you say I Like You in Chinese
How do you say Beautiful Girl in Chinese
How do you say Handsome Man in Chinese
Other ways of expressing Love in Chinese
What does 520 in Chinese mean?
How to break up in Chinese
How do you say Will You Marry Me in Chinese
The Friendzone in Chinese
Before we start, here’s a brilliant insight into how NOT to chat someone up in Chinese, and the top tip for winning that special someone. Thanks to our wonderful friend Keren at Unconventional Chinese for the video…
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How do you say I Love You in Chinese?
We already know this, but just to make sure…!
我爱你 – Wǒ ài nǐ
Simple and no frills, the direct translation exactly matches the English, something which is not always common when translating from Chinese to English and vice versa.
It is worth noting that although the word love is banded around in English a lot, in China this might not be the case.
In English we have a habit of telling our parents we love them, our friends we love them, our dog we love them, even our pizza we love it!
Not in Chinese – love is a strong word to use so only say it if you really mean it. You tell a Chinese person you love them, there’s no going back!
How do you say I Like You in Chinese?
我喜欢你 – Wǒ xǐhuān nǐ
Again, the translation is the literal from English with 喜欢 representing to like something/someone.
- 我喜欢他 – I like him
- 我喜欢她 – I like her
- Note that the pinyin for both him and her is the same – Wǒ xǐhuān tā. Easy to remember and no embarrassing moments like non-native English speakers sometimes have with him and her!
- 我喜欢她的眼睛 – I like her eyes
- 我喜欢她的性格 – I like her personality
Plenty of uses for the word. Remember, as love is not so widely used in Chinese, it might be best to start out with using like instead of love.
Don’t believe us…
Check out our guide to dating in China.
How do you say Beautiful Girl in Chinese?
美女 – Měi nǚ
This is one you’ll hear quite a lot. Situations like browsing the markets looking for a bargain are a prime example.
Sorry to dumb it down, of course it’s a compliment, but perhaps it’s watered down a bit.
In English let’s say the equivalent might be calling someone darling/love/honey etc. You hear them, you respond to them, but it’s just what we are used to.
It’s always nice to be called a Beautiful Girl, because that’s what the translation is… but it is generic and said to many people!
How do you say Handsome Man in Chinese?
帅哥 – Shuài gē
Similarly to the above this is widely used, but also still a compliment.
The literal meaning is Handsome Brother (哥哥 meaning older brother).
It is used to state Handsome Man or Cute Boy.
So, remember, as nice as it is to receive these compliments, there’s probably a lot of other people who have heard the same!
Other ways of Expressing Liking and Love in Chinese
Of course sometimes you need to go beyond the Love and Like and vary it up a bit, so why not learn these to add a bit of variation to your armour.
How do you say I’m Interested In You in Chinese?
- 我对你感兴趣。
- Wǒ duìnǐ gǎnxìngqu。
- I’m fond of you / I’m interested in you
We use the 对 here to confirm the relationship between two things, in this case 我 and 你 (me and you).
After this the 感兴趣 simply translates to interested in and can be used for other things like:
- 我对足球感兴趣
- I’m interested in football
- 我儿子对学外语很感兴趣
- My son is really interested in learning foreign languages
How do you say I Really Like You in Chinese?
- 我非常喜欢你。
- Wǒ fēicháng xǐhuān nǐ。
- I like you very much.
If you are somewhere in between liking someone a bit, and dropping the L bomb, you might want to say you really like someone. It’s nice and simple.
We take what we learnt earlier and just add 非常 which means very/extremely/really. 非常好 meaning very good, 非常有意思 meaning very interesting.
How do you say You Mean So Much to Me in Chinese?
No one will ever tire of hearing a sentence like this after all!
- 你对我而言如此重要
- Nǐ duì wǒ ér yán rúcǐ zhòngyào
- You mean so much to me
Notice we’ve used the 对 grammar structure again to state the relationship between two things (you and your partner once again).
重要 is a useful word to learn and means important.
How do you say I Love You Too in Chinese?
- 我也爱你。
- Wǒ yě ài nǐ。
- I love you, too.
Very simple one here with just one addition from what we’ve already learnt.
也 means also so the translation is quite simple – I also love you.
Similarly 我也喜欢你 means I also like you/I like you too.
How do you say I’m Happy With You in Chinese?
Cranking it up a notch here but still pretty simple to learn when you break it down and practice speaking.
- 跟你在一起的时候好开心。
- Gēn nǐ zài yīqǐ de shíhou hǎo kāixīn
- When I’m with you I feel very happy
The sentence starts “with you” – 跟你
在一起 meaning “together“
的时候 meaning “when“
好开心 meaning “so happy“
The main grammatical thing to note is that when in Chinese (when used as a statement, and not a question), does not appear at the start of the sentence.
In a question, when appears at the start of the sentence as 什么时候, but in a statement, as above, 的时候 appears later in the sentence. Sounds confusing, but after a few examples you get used to it.
This is particularly awkward for English native speakers as the concept of using when later in a sentence is unheard of.
How do you say You’ve Stolen My Heart in Chinese?
- 你偷走了我的心。
- Nǐ tōuzǒule wǒ de xīn
- You have stolen my heart
Getting into super smooth talking territory now!
The translation is very simple because it matches the English!
- 你 – You
- 偷走了 – Stole
- 我的心 – My Heart
What does 520 in Chinese mean?
Confused? Let us explain
Chinese culture is incredibly interesting in many ways. The obsession with smart phones, although a worldwide thing, is particularly strong in China.
…and just to prove to you this obsession exists, here are some examples of “number slang”, because typing “I Love You” is too much effort anyway.
In fact, the diagnosis for this obsession is so strong, that the Chinese themselves have a name for this group of smart phone addicts which is a good one to teach you:
低头族 – Dītóu zú
Now you plug that into Google Translate and this is what you’ll get.
Doesn’t really shed much light does it. Let’s try one character at a time:
- 低 – Low/Hang down
- 头 – Head
- 族 – Clan/Race
Ok, makes a bit more sense now! It literally means the head bowing gang and is a new term used to coin Smartphone addicts – a large % of the Chinese population!
Why are we telling you this?
We tell you this because these terms below are all used via message in place of words (via WeChat/Text/Whatsapp/Online etc).
They have been coined by Chinese and taken off, very much like when LOL, LMAO and ROFL came to prominence years ago (feeling old yet)!
Let’s discover some examples
- 520 because wǔ èr líng sounds like wǒ ài nǐ
- Meaning – I love you 我爱你
- 530 because wǔ sān líng sounds like wǒ xiǎng nǐ
- Meaning – I miss you 我想你
- 1314 because yī sān yī sì sounds like yī shēng yī shì
- Meaning – Forever 一生一世
- EXTRA TIP – Combine with I Love You to make 5201314… I love you forever. Smart bunch aren’t they!
- 770 because qī qī líng sounds like qīn qīn nǐ
- Meaning – Kiss You 亲亲你
- 880 because bā bā líng sounds like bào bào nǐ
- Meaning – Hug you 抱抱你
So remember, when feeling that typing I love you forever is too much effort, you can express it via numbers!
Discover the luckiest numbers in China here.
How to Break Up with Someone in Chinese?
Love isn’t all a bed of roses after all.
There may well be a day where you have to roll out the break up lines in Chinese – let’s hope for your sake you don’t need to use these!
First and foremost the key vocab to get in your head if you are ready to pull the plug is:
分手 Fēnshǒu – To break up/part ways
So putting that into a sentence, we’d say:
- 我想和你分手
- Wǒ xiǎng hé nǐ fēnshǒu (I want to break up with you)
But what if you want to go into a bit more detail about why you are breaking up?
Here’s our guide…
How do you say We Need To Talk in Chinese?
- 我想和你谈一谈。/ 我们需要谈谈。
- Wǒ xiǎng hé nǐ tán yī tán / Wǒmen xūyào tán tán
- We need to talk.
Ah the writing is on the wall when you hear this one.
Four words no one wants to ever hear!
The grammar is pretty simple and either of the above suffices. The second example is probably the more simplistic of the two because the direct translation is:
We – Need – Talk
The first example holds the same meaning and if you drop either of these out, your partner’s heart will sink no slower!
Approach with caution!
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How do you say It’s Not You It’s Me in Chinese?
It always feels a bit of a cop-out this one doesn’t it. As if there’s nothing more you could’ve done. It just wasn’t meant to be.
- 不是你,是我。
- Bù shì nǐ, shì Wǒ .
- It’s not you. It’s me.
Again, it’s a simple translation this one, with no complicated grammar structures or things to note.
是我 simply means it’s me. Adding the 不 in front of this makes it a negative. Job done.
How do you say Let’s Just Be Friends in Chinese?
A kick in the proverbials, they want you to hang around, but not for reasons you’d hoped. Never easy and almost certainly it never ends well.
- 我们只做朋友吧。
- Wǒmen zhǐ zuò péngyǒu ba.
- Let’s just be friends.
One little bit of grammar to pick up here is the 吧 which you might see and hear quite often.
吧 means OK, but not as a question, as a statement. So in effect you are saying, let’s just be friends, OK. No rhetorical question, just a simple, “that’s the situation, deal with it”.
Harsh!
How do you say I think we need a break in Chinese
Similar to that famous line that Ross drops on Friends. WE WERE ON A BREAK!
- 我认为我们需要冷静。
- Wǒ rènwéi wǒmen xūyào lěngjìng.
- I think we need a break.
Again the translation is literal from English so it’s nice and easy to remember when you have the vocab nailed!
- 认为 – Believe/Think
- 我们 – We
- 需要 – Need
- 冷静 – Calm/Cool
How do you say I need my space in Chinese
A bit too full on? Need your partner to back off a bit, this is the perfect line for that awkward situation.
- 我需要自己的空间。
- Wǒ xūyào zìjǐ de kōngjiān
- I need my space
Key words to pick up here are:
- 空间 – Space
- 自己 – Yourself
How do you say Will You Marry Me in Chinese?
Not breaking up? Then the chances are you’ll be tying the knot one day in the future!
How do you propose in Chinese though?
- 你愿意嫁给我吗
- Nǐ yuànyì jià gěi wǒ ma
- Will you marry me
愿意 meaning wish/want/like and 嫁 meaning to marry (a woman). This statement assumes it’s the male proposing!
If the female decides to make the bold move then she would say:
你愿意娶我吗 – Nǐ yuànyì qǔ wǒ ma
The 娶 means to take a wife.
Of course these aren’t the only ways to drop the bomb, you would also suffice using:
- 和我结婚,好吗?
- Hé wǒ jiéhūn, hǎo ma
- Literally “Marry me, OK?”
A more presumptuous way would be to use:
- 我们结婚吧
- Wǒmen jiéhūn ba
- Let’s get married
This might be used if perhaps you both know it’s coming, with zero element of surprise and you know the chance of rejection is very slim to nothing!
How do you talk about the Friendzone in Chinese?
When you like the person who is laying bare his heart (表白 Biǎobái) to you it’s wonderful, but what to do when this happens and you’re just not feeling it?
The answer is in the awkward purgatory of the FRIENDZONE.
Explaining to the other person you don’t see him/her in a romantic context, ideally without hurting their feelings any more than necessary is not easy.
It’s already a real challenge when speaking your mother tongue, so how to friendzone someone in Chinese?
The literal translation for the term “Friendzone” in Chinese is:
- 朋友区(朋友 Péngyǒu = friend 区 qū = area).
Therefore, if you want to say “I’ve been friendzoned ” you’d say:
- 我被放到了朋友区里面 (wǒ bèi fàng dàole péngyǒu qū lǐmiàn)
Or “I’m stuck in the Friend zone” you’d say:
- 我卡在朋友区 (wǒ kǎ zài péngyǒu qū).
Then, you might also need to say you want to get out of the friend-zone:
- 我要逃脱朋友区 (wǒ yào táotuō péngyǒu qū)
Or you want to escape the friend-zone:
- 我要走出朋友区 (wǒ yào zǒuchū péngyǒu qū).
Although the term “friendzone” is (朋友区) is becoming more and more popular amongst the young generation in China, there is another expression which describes this kind of situation:
- 发好人卡 (Fā hǎorén kǎ). Literally – to give someone the “nice-person card”
As you can easily imagine it came from the typical scenario of someone turning down an admirer by saying:
- 你是个好人,我们还是当朋友吧!Nǐ shìgè hǎorén, wǒmen háishì dāng péngyǒu ba! “You are a nice guy, but …we’d better remain friends”.
I Love You In Chinese – Conclusion
So there you have it – I Love You in Chinese and so much more! Let’s round them up below:
… and just to finally round it all off, another guide on what NOT to do when chatting up.
Lesson here, don’t trust your friends!
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And last but certainly not least, why not take your language skills to a whole new level and find out how to express your love and affection in Vietnamese and also Japanese as well!
Love in China – FAQ’s
How do you say “Love at first sight” in Chinese?
Is dating in China different to the west?
There will be cultural differences that you should be aware of when dating a Chinese national in China. It’s important to respect these cultural differences as certain behaviours can be very different to that of the western world.
For example, saying I Love You can happen far quicker in China than in the west. Wearing matching clothes is a common occurrence with couples in China also. There are many differences that it’s useful to familiarize yourself with.
Can I get married in China?
From April 1st 2019, two foreigners are not allowed to register their marriage at the Civil Affairs offices in China.
However, a marriage between a foreigner and a Chinese national are allowed.
How do you say “did it hurt when you fell out of heaven” in Chinese?
你从天而降的时候, 有没有受伤?
Nǐ cóngtiān’érjiàng de shíhou, yǒu méiyǒu shòushāng?
Are wedding ceremonies in China like the west?
Chinese weddings are generally very different to western weddings.
An example of this is photographs. In the west, the photographs take place just before or after the ceremony, on the same day. In China usually the couple will have a wedding album prepared before their wedding. This will include pictures of the couple around some famous hotspots or places that mean something to them. This album is then on show for guests at the wedding.
What are the common colours at a Chinese wedding?
Gold is one of the most commonly used colours because it represents wealth and fortune. However the most common colour at a Chinese wedding is Red.
Red plays a crucial role in Chinese weddings. Red is associated with success, honour and loyalty to name but a few.
White is to be avoided. White is actually associated with funerals. Dark colours like black, gray, and dark blue, are also not included.
Do you often see Chinese/Foreign couples in China?
In the bigger cities especially these couples are becoming more and more common.
Gone are the days when you are stared at for dating someone of a different race. The smaller cities of China, you may well attract more attention but with Shanghai and Shenzhen especially (Beijing/Guangzhou etc also) the number of foreigners is growing and therefore, so is the number of Chinese/Foreigner couples.
Can a foreigner become a Chinese citizen?
Yes they can. To apply a foreigner must satisfy some/all of the following criteria:
1 – Have close relatives who are Chinese nationals.
2 – Have settled in China
3 – Have other genuine reasons for applying for citizenship.
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