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“If your love is only a will to possess, its not love”

― Thích Nhất Hạnh

Since I wrote this in my bucket list, I will make my first attempt today 🙂 I just hope I will make an entry decent enough to be posted LOL.

Many have been written about Love.  Some are based from actual experiences while others came from people’s ideals.  Well, today I will incorporate both and see where it will lead me 😉

So, what is love for me?

Well, it is a four letter word that is too complicated to grasps yet it certainly changes you as a person.  It is an emotion that oftentimes catches you by surprise – when it comes and leaves you.  Also, it is the only emotion that has plenty of adjectives which changes it’s meaning depending on the adjective attached e.g. puppy love, first love, epic love, true love, etc. etc. etc.

I am not an expert in love but I do have my fair share of experiences.

From these experiences, I’ve learned that the best kind of loving relationship should starts from friendship and gradually develops into something deeper and intimate.  I have been afforded with this kind of love and it was one of the best.  In spite the fact that it didn’t last beyond (almost) five years, but the friendship did stand the test of times and eventually became something more than what we hoped for – true friendship, unwavering trust and a reassuring and constant kind of love (but clearly platonic :-p).

It was because of him that I learned what selfless love is.

When he met me, I was so imperfect to a point where I was a very difficult person to love.  Yet, he stayed and helped me become whole again.  Trust me, it was never easy but he never did complain.  His sacrifices showed me that loving doesn’t necessarily assure you that the other person will love you with the same intensity, yet, it shouldn’t be a reason for you to stop loving him/her with all you’ve got.  Why?  Because love is neither fair nor equal.  Besides, when you love – truly love, you shouldn’t expect anything in return at all.  If the person loves you back then well and good but if they don’t, at least you know how it feels to care deeply for another being other than yourself.  Loving is not about possessing but rather to just simply love the person in spite and despite of everything.

There will be pain and sometimes it will be unbearable but that will only be temporary as it will never compare to the joy that you’ll feel whenever you see the person you love happy.  However, if it hurts you more than it makes you smile then let it go.  Remember, loving and martyrdom will never be synonymous with each other.

The funny thing though is that when you tell people you love them, they most often than not expect that you want a relationship with them.  Well, normally that is expected but there are deviant people – me included, who simply wants to tell these people what they mean to me without any attachments needed.  Probably when I was younger, I associated saying I love you to relationship but as I grew older, I realized that saying those words doesn’t instantly connote romantic relationships as you can also say it to friends (like real friends).  If you do want to tell it to someone special and the feeling isn’t mutual, say it anyway.  It may fall on deaf ear but that’s not the point, the important thing is that you had the courage to express your true emotion and mind you, it will never become “the thing I didn’t do that I regret most” 🙂 .

Sometimes though, there are love that’s just not meant to be.  You loved him.  He hurt you.  You loved him again.  He took you for granted… again.

I simply can’t fathom how easily people throw away something as precious, more so, if it is their second chance (I already wrote about this, didn’t anyone learn anything?). Honestly, the heart can only endure so much.  My heart can only take so much – so I let go.  Amazingly, once you learned to let go that’s when they ask you to hold on.  How pathetic is that?  Efforts exerted are too little, too late … really.  Apparently, they need to see it crumble first before they will do something to save it.

The thing is, once the feeling is gone, once someone decided to let go, you can never really get it back no matter how hard you try.  You may cry a river, beg with all you got or even promise the moon but a love lost is and forever will be just that – lost love.

When you think about it, love is just a simple four letter word but it could either bring you to heaven or drop you to hell which greatly depends on how you treat it.  It comes and goes when you least expect it. And you could never hold on to it too tightly or too loosely as both will surely guarantee you its departure.  A simple four letter word yet so fragile, so precious.

 The primary meaning of the word «love» in Scripture is a «purposeful commitment to sacrificial action for another.» In the Bible it is a fact that loving God is equated with obeying His Word.

The English word «love» can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure («I loved that meal») to interpersonal attraction («I love my partner»). It can refer to an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.


For me, LOVE is not all about loving your partner, and having a boyfriend. LOVE can also be about loving your family, friends, and God. LOVE is appreciating what we had and where we are now.