Is gay bad word

We have come a really long way in this world. I often hear teachers pride themselves on stopping students in their classroom from saying, “That’s so gay!” as an insult. It was not all that many years ago when this was a commonly used phrase, when teachers themselves could often be heard using this phrase, and it would be hard to find any teachers who would even think to stand up and stop kids from using it.

And that is something to celebrate.

But I am writing this post to let those who read this know that I do not believe that it is enough.

I do not believe that it is enough anymore to tell kids not to use the word gay as an insult because what has started to happen is that kids have started to believe that it is not okay to use the word gay. Ever. Kids have started to believe that saying the word gay, in any context, is a reason for them to get into trouble at school. And the problem with that is, if you think of the other kinds of words that kids will get in to trouble for saying at school, they are all words associated with negative things. Bad words. Swear words. These are words that will get you into trouble. And now, many kids also believe that words like “gay” and “lesbian” and “transgender” are words that will get them into trouble.  We have unintentionally created a situation where kids think that the word gay is a swear word.  Kids have started to believe that gay is a word that does not belong in a classroom, that does not belong in schools, and that must mean that there is something wrong with the word and therefore something wrong with people who are gay as well.  We have, perhaps unintentionally or perhaps very intentionally, erased people who are LGBT from our classrooms, especially in the lower grades.

There is a moment from my own classroom that sticks out so vividly and that illustrate this current problem so perfectly. Several years ago, before I had come out to my students, I was reading to my students Patricia Polacco’s book In Our Mothers’ House. The book tells the beautiful story of a lesbian couple and their three adopted children. The family is pictured on the cover of the book and as we were looking at the book, before beginning to read it, I asked the kids to tell me what they noticed about the family on the cover. Now, in my classroom, as in most elementary school classrooms, when you ask a group of kids to share what they notice, hands shoot up before you can even finish asking the question.

But not on this day.

On this day, at this moment, hands were slow to go up. I can only guess that the kids noticed that there were two moms in this family right away, but they were unsure of how to put that observation into words. And then one boy raised his hand and I called on him.  His name was Andrew and he began to talk and he said, “Well, I notice that there are two women in the family. I think that they are. They are…” He seemed stuck and he looked around the room and then he looked right back at me and up into my face and he said, “I don’t know if I am allowed to say this at school.” And I looked at him, somewhat in disbelief, and asked him, “Are you wondering if you are allowed to say that you think these parents might be gay or lesbian?” And he nodded.  And I knew.  In that one moment, I finally realized that all the years of me telling my students not to say, “That’s so gay!” had left them feeling unsure if they were allowed to say the word “gay” in school at all.

Because here is the problem. While Andrew had heard many teachers tell students, many times, not to say the word gay as an insult, he had NEVER heard the word gay used in school in any other way. He had only ever heard his teachers tell him NOT to say gay.

He had never heard a teacher read a book that had a gay character in it and then use the word gay in a discussion about the book or about the character.  He had never heard a teacher talk about victims of the holocaust and also include the many gay and lesbian victims that Hitler murdered.  He had never heard a teacher talk about civil rights struggles and talk about the gay and lesbian leaders of the fight for gay civil rights.  He had never heard a teacher talk about the supreme court cases dealing with gay marriage. While studying government and talking about the rights of the states versus the federal government, he had never heard his teachers bring up the current debate over gay marriage to illustrate the point of what happens when different states have different laws on things like marriage. He had never heard these things because his teachers, INCLUDING MYSELF, were afraid to say the word gay in school.

And if we, as teachers, are not saying the word gay in a positive way in school, then we can’t expect our students to do the same.  If we, as teachers, are not using the word gay in the way it is okay to be used, then our students won’t ever know that the word “gay” itself is not bad or wrong or a cause for trouble.  If we, as teachers, are not talking about people who are gay in the same way that we are talking about who are divorced or hispanic or have blonde hair, then we are not helping our students to see that being gay is just one part of who a person is.  And we owe our students more than that.

Even now that I am out with all of my students, I don’t often use the word gay or lesbian to describe myself. I talk about my wife, Carla (though even saying, “my wife” is something that I have only recently felt okay saying in class).  I talk about how our daughter, Millie, has two moms.  But I still feel a little bit like I could get into trouble myself if I were to use the word gay or lesbian with my students. I recognize that this is irrational. I recognize that I am doing EXACTLY what I am saying that we shouldn’t be doing. I recognize that I should be the one to set the example of using the word gay or lesbian in a way that shows that is a positive part of who I am. But the fact is, I don’t. Because I, too, am afraid and uncertain. I, too, don’t want to be the only one. That is how strong these messages are. That is how pervasive the don’t say gay mentality is.  And that is why we must try harder to change it.

And one of the best ways that I can think of to change this current way of being and current way of thinking is to work to integrate LGBT issues into our school curricula.  I know that is easier said than done and that is why I believe we need to talk about it. We need to learn from each other and we need to lean on each other. We need to see how it is already being done and dream of how it could be done even better.  We need to come together to make it so that our students understand the difference between using gay as an insult and using gay to recognize who someone is.

So this week, on Thursday, February 19th at 8pm CST, #LGBTeach will be discussing how to effectively integrate LGBT issues and people into our school curricula at all levels. Please join us, please share this post and please help us to make our schools a more inclusive place for everyone.

Хотя это слово не всегда является оскорблением или оскорблением между друзьями, его использование обычно считается необразованным. Таким образом, его использование ограничено в основном друзьями и надежными знакомыми или среди молодежи.

Таким образом, Whats No Mames имеет в виду?

Что значит без мам? Нет, маме не используется грубый испанский сленг выразить недоверие (как положительные, так и отрицательные) или волнение. Этот восклицательный знак, особенно используемый среди мексиканцев, говорящих по-испански, соответствует «Ни за что!», «Ты шутишь!» Или «Хватит со мной шутить!».

Имея это в виду, что означает vato по-испански?

«Вато» — это испанский сленг, который примерно переводится с английского на «чувак. » (в испаноязычных регионах) используется для обращения к мужчине.

Кроме того, Is no Mames оскорбительна?

«No Mames» — ОЧЕНЬ грубая и отвратительная фраза, которую можно использовать перед женщиной или незнакомцами.. «Нет Манче» намного приличнее, но все же это не настоящий испанский. «Без манча» в широком смысле означает «не шути (не шутите и не играйте)» или «перестаньте валять дурака». «Te banas» буквально означает «искупайся».

Что значит Чингона?

имя существительное. 1. Испанский сленговый термин, означающий «женщина с плохой задницей

Во-вторых, что означает «Бендехо» по-испански?

Слово «бендехо» по-испански написано неправильно. Слово должно начинаться с буквы «р», а его значение близко к: тупой; такой дурак; невежественный.

Что значит Пунта?

Это в основном означает «кончик» или «острие» чего-то (кончик языка, кончик айсберга и т. д., но для более точного и других значений щелкните вкладку словаря и введите слово — вы получите подробную информацию.

Что такое женское вато?

И у vato есть женский аналог: вата, которое может использоваться для обозначения проституток или женщин, которые должны кому-то деньги. Бато — это просто дружеский термин, используемый среди друзей-мужчин.

Что такое Saludo de vato?

saludo de vato (sä-lLPdI dD bäPtI) Испанский: приветствие между мексикано-американскими друзьями. … Ese (DPsD) Испанский: сленговый термин, используемый при обращении к кому-либо, например, «Привет, чувак». 5.

Что означает пато?

Пато (утка) — сленговое слово, используемое в некоторых странах Латинской Америки. оскорблять геев. Как и в других терминах, для объяснения происхождения этого слова люди ошибочно ссылаются на утиную форму ходьбы или эсхатологические проблемы животного.

Что такое мексиканский сленг?

20 мексиканских сленговых слов

• Чидо. Чидо означает крутой, крутой. …
• Чаво / хава. Эти слова означают «мальчик и девочка», и их понимают в большинстве стран Латинской Америки благодаря популярному мексиканскому телешоу «Эль Чаво дель 8».
• Гуэй. Раньше güey было плохим словом, но теперь это не так. …
• Ла нета. …
• Чафа. …
• Гачо. …
• ¡Никаких манчей! …
• Плотский.

Что такое Чуло Папи?

Прямой перевод papi chulo с испанского — «Папа-сутенер, », Причем папи — уменьшительная форма от« отец »(и используется как« ребенок »), а chulo означает« сутенер », но также« привлекательный »,« дерзкий »или« крутой »в разговорной обстановке.

Что такое Джефа?

существительное, множественное число je · fes [he-fes; Английский хей-фейз]. Испанский. лидер; главный; босс.

Что значит остаться Чингона?

Чингона — это определение гордости, боли, мечты и силы. Однажды чингона станет президентом. Чингона — моя мама. Чингона будет моей дочерью. Чингона здесь, чтобы остаться.

Где Coger плохое слово?

Но остерегайтесь когерентности в Мексика, Аргентина, Чили, Уругвай, Парагвай, Боливия, Венесуэла, Сальвадор, Гватемала, Гондурас, Никарагуа, Коста-Рика и США.. Это синоним слова F в сексуальном смысле в этих странах, поэтому его лучше избегать в большинстве сценариев.

Эссе — плохое слово по-испански?

В некоторых местах, «ESE(Произносится как эс-сай) — это просто сленговый способ обозначения парня. Ничего особенного, чем чувак, братан или мужчина. Дети использовали бы это как термин для «чувак» или «эй, чувак», так что это не имеет отрицательного или оскорбительного значения.

Что означает Си Мон?

Si mon — это гангстерский сленговый способ сказать: да конечно или без сомнения.

Что означает Пунта на Филиппинах?

Английский перевод. кружево.

Что значит Хийоле?

Сам по себе Hijole означает что-то чертовски стрелять, вау, просто выражение, используемое для выражения удивления. Например: вы видите автомобильную аварию ,,, hijole.

Что означает толстый вато?

Согласно Urban Dictionary, это мексиканский сленг и может означать «чувак» или «хозяин». Вато.

Что означает ESE на английском языке?

Эсе, амиго, хомбре. Или, на английском сленге, чувак, братан, домашний. Ese — это мексикано-испанский сленговый термин для обращения к ближнему.

Что означает Пато в Пуэрто-Рико?

Термин, используемый в Мексике, Никарагуа, Панаме, Перу, Пуэрто-Рико, Венесуэле и Кубе для обозначения оскорбление геев.

Что значит гато?

Американский испанский, буквально кошка, от позднего латинского cattus.

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No matter how liberal an upbringing may be, even in this day and age, to young children ‘gay’ is a dirty word.

Not only this, but it is deemed the ultimate in insults, the very pinnacle of linguistic debasement. I remember my infant school teacher reprimanding certain culprits in our class for using the infamous ‘g-word’, and not, she also noted, in a way which referred to a state of happiness and wellbeing. It seems rather backwards to me now that the teacher scolded children for using the word, rather than for the negative implications and accusatory tone they had attached to it. In fact, the complete silence of teachers upon the subject, save to encourage children to evade the subject, undoubtably adds to the problem more than it helps.

With this in mind, it is hardly surprising that many children whose sexualities naturally deviate from the heterosexual ‘norm’ of society find it difficult to confront and be honest about such feelings. I have, in many aspects of my life, found that what appears rather black-and-white in childhood all becomes rather grey once puberty is hit. What I mean by this is that whilst young children might view sexuality as a toss up between straight and gay, a more open-minded teenager, whose ideas with regards to their surroundings have grown less rigid over time, might acknowledge sexuality as a hugely personal and complex interaction between a great many factors. Like our personalities, it is a unique aspect of the human being which makes us who we are.

On a more philosophical level, it may also be appreciated that one might never know ones true sexuality until one has met the entire population of the world. Perhaps there might be a woman out there for even the most strictly self-proclaimed heterosexual female? To me it has always seemed important not to limit my options by using a restrictive label on my sexuality. This does not, I might add, make me slutty or greedy; instead I feel no need to draw any such generalisation of my self based upon a limited sample size. It makes sense scientifically not to do so.

I suppose what I’m attempting to express here boils down to a number of key points. Firstly, that teachers and parents alike do little to prevent the development of prejudiced views in children. Heterosexuality might be the most commonly named sexuality according to records, but this does not mean it should considered the only ‘normal’ sexuality. When will Disney tell stories about the love between two princesses, or two princes? When will children’s programmes show families with same-sex parents? And, even more crucially, when will this lose its controversy?

To be fair to Pixar, they have done their bit to extend welcoming arms towards the LGBTQ+ community. Even in the popular movie ‘Frozen’, connotations of such were implied in the song ‘Let it go’, which is more than reminiscent of a coming-out ballad, as well as in throwaway comments such as ‘born with it or cursed?’ which echoes the debate with regards to the biological aspects of sexuality, and finally the supposed ly same-sex parented family in the log cabin sauna:

Nonetheless, these subtle hints were picked up on and heavily criticised by many anti gay rights movements, with on priest somewhat laughably suggesting that Frozen was ‘encouraging girls to be lesbians’. On top of this, it might also be added that the same deluded bloke also took it upon himself to proclaim that the film was encouraging bestiality, as if being friends with a talking reindeer somehow implies that Kristoff might be getting freaky with the aforementioned. Both accusations are, of course, ridiculous, but they serve to demonstrate that even where such powerful, international corporations as Disney are concerned, the amount of criticism likely to be received for any attempt to inform kids on the subject is considerable. Until the ludicrous idea that informing children on the subject might make them somehow more ‘vulnerable’ to developing into a homosexual is no longer held, and indeed the idea that this would be in any way a negative thing, we cannot expect to gain any progress on this front.

The second key point, however, is this. Why use labels? How can such a complex attribute of human nature possibly be neatly sliced up and pigeon-holed into manageable chunks? The truth is, of course, that it cannot. So quit searching for labels, my friends, and just go with the flow.

“Ma….is ‘gay‘ a bad word?”, my son asked me from the back seat as we made our way to a doctor’s appointment.

There was a ton of traffic and it was just the two of us.

He’s ten and I have always encouraged him to ask me anything and everything and that I would be as honest with him as I can.

I instinctively answered, no, but with a condition.  “It’s not a bad word as long as you’re not using it to try to describe something in a negative way. You wouldn’t say ‘That’s SO GAY” or a shirt is ‘so gay’ if you thought it was not a nice shirt.”

I then went on to say that the word ‘gay’ usually just means someone that is homosexual, or someone that is attracted to their own gender.  I referenced one of my closest friends.

He shushed me and hurried that part of my explanation along, not because he was embarrassed about anyone being gay, but because he already had heard this definition enough times and this was old news already (my friend has been a part of our lives since he was five) and he was trying to get to the heart of his question.

So, to answer his question, when used properly, to describe homosexuality, NO – gay is not a bad word.

He had to correct me.

“Gay means happy, Ma. It’s in ‘Jingle Bells’, Ma.”

I went on to explain that while he is technically correct, ‘Jingle Bells’ is like a million years old and no one walks around town saying that they feeling happy and gay on a typical day.  He relented.

Back to the heart of the question.

The only OTHER time ‘gay’ is used, it’s not nice.

When someone says ‘that’s so gay!’ or comments on the shirt as being ‘so gay’, it’s negative.  It’s hurtful and mean.  It implies that there’s something wrong with being gay.

My son sat quietly for a moment.

“Ma….why don’t we hear anyone saying ‘That’s so straight!’?”

Exactly.  Why don’t we.

For the same reason that men won’t ever look up at the glass ceiling and the same reason why whites don’t always realize their privilege.

For the same reason many Americans will never understand how much, arguably most, of the world is less fed, less housed and less transported and certainly less healthy than we.

Being born into privilege often comes with unrealized benefits. It’s not out of malice. It’s often out of an oblivion of the world around us and the silo of the world we have put ourselves in.

The rest, the outliers, that don’t fit within these confines, have to work a little – or a lot – harder.

They may be poorer.  Or not be white. They may not be American. Or male. They may be gay. Some groups have come farther along than others.  But the sooner we see that we are all each others brothers and sisters and in fact, one world, perhaps the less distant we will be from one another.

There is great privilege, or luck, perhaps in being born into a standard.

Not having to fight an uphill social norm. Sure, times are a-changing.  But my son said it best – why DON’T we say, “That’s SO STRAIGHT!”  Because, that’s the norm. The privileged standard.  And when you’re born that way, you’re lucky not to have to fight that battle.

But we need to NOT make it harder for our gay brothers and sisters.

They often already have to work harder to say, ‘I count, too.’

Why hurt anyone anymore?

Gay is NOT a bad word.  Using the word to hurt IS.

As Mother Teresa once said  “Find your own Calcutta.”    Everywhere, there is someone, some group, some people that need help and love.

I’m glad he’s thinking about these things.

And I’m especially glad he’s coming to me and asking these questions and that we are having these conversations.  I’m so grateful that I get to see the glimpse of the soul I get the honor of raising – someone who thinks the way he does – “why don’t we say ‘that’s so straight’”  – it’s funny and it’s not.  I love this kid.  I really, really do. Thank you God for trusting me enough with this guy.

He fills my life with so much love.

When I was growing up, I noticed something about the word “gay”. The more prevalent it became, the more negative its connotations. A word that originally meant happy and carefree became a neutral label to describe homosexuality, and ended up being a term used to pinpoint something people don’t like, find embarrassing, or want to distance themselves from.

But does this mean that young people are more homophobic than ever before?

Alex Newton is programmes manager at Stonewall, an LGBT campaigning organisation that encourages people to “get the meaning straight”. He says: “We find schools have high levels of casual homophobic language, and high rates of homophobic bullying. It’s incredibly damaging.”

However Durham sociologist Mark McCormack argues the way the word “gay” is being used does not carry homophobic intent.

“Young people today aren’t saying it in the same way,” he says. “But it’s very hard for people who heard ‘gay’ as being solely homophobic, like I did growing up, to see that it can mean something different to a different generation.

“The problem with saying ‘that’s so gay’ is that even though you and your friends might know you’re not being homophobic, if you’re using it in a public or semi-public space, other people might see you as homophobic,” he adds.

With just my student overdraft as my budget, I decided to make a documentary exploring how this piece of language had evolved, and speak to people both gay and straight to see how they felt aboutthe word taking on a negative meaning.

Some gay people I spoke to were content with the word evolving, while there were straight people who were outraged. Younger people, whom we might have expected to have more awareness of what it means to identify as gay because of media coverage, were often the demographic defending the negative use of this word.

Many older people I spoke to felt strongly that it should it not be allowed to be used negatively. The language we use, consciously or subconsciously, can reflect our feelings towards minorities.

Saying “eurgh, that’s gay” reveals a lack of collective understanding of what it means to identify as gay. Equal marriage legislation may suggest that society has advanced in its thinking, but there remains a gap in its grasp of gay identity, culture and sexuality.

In the week leading up to the premiere of my documentary, The Gay Word, its trailer was shown in a London cinema. Staff noticed how the audience’s body language often shifted and became awkward on just seeing the word gay projected on screen.

In Soho, I handed out stickers promoting the film and reactions were mixed. Despite being in a famously gay-friendly area, one person hastily said: “I’m not gay”. In making this film, I’ve learned just how much of a loaded term gay is.

So what is the solution? I believe LGBTQ-inclusive education in schools would be a great start.

This means not only practical information on safe sex, but also open, encouraging conversations on identity, relationships and mental health. Young people struggling to come to terms with their identity in a hetero-normative world need that opportunity and it’s a chance for everyone to understand one another better.

Making the documentary, I found school-level education was an issue that kept coming up – pupils, teachers, ex-pupils, academics and activists all said school is where this misunderstanding could begin to be resolved. One secondary school teacher told me staff often “turn a blind eye” to behaviour that may be making gay pupils feel uncomfortable at school.

The young people I met while making this film told me that school is tough and not a place they can flourish. One student said: “Once people know you’re LGBT, it’s harder to make friends. Some people get near you, just so they can pick on you.”

Until this changes, young people will continue to grow up feeling that the word “gay” means alien, embarrassing, stupid, or wrong.

• Watch The Gay Word documentary in full, below.

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