How to be a woman of your word

I underestimated the word of God. Over the last several years, studying the Bible with other women, I realized I was not alone. Many have had the same experience I have.

We valued it, we talked about it, we contemplated it, we applied it, and we meant to read it more than we did. The more time I spend in the word, however, and the more time I spend with other women who are in the word, the more God has shown me how lame my estimation of his word really was. I read the Bible like someone standing at an overlook over the Grand Canyon, trying to estimate how much water it could hold: “Up to 23 or 24 cups, I imagine! It’s just so huge and amazing!”

What changed my perspective? I started reading more of the Bible, at a faster pace, with many other women. A group of us began reading the word at a fast (but not furious) pace — about six chapters a day, and thousands of women have joined the challenge. Reading more, faster, and with others has shifted our perspective in some significant ways. We want to become women of the word, not women who dabble in God’s word occasionally.

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First of all, reading larger portions of Scripture at a faster pace shifts our gaze. If we select passages that only appeal to us in the moment, our Bible reading will be (necessarily) self-focused. Our application of the Bible will be self-centered, because we’re so fixated on our hearts, our desires, our feelings. It’s easy to treat the word like a vending machine for particular kinds of encouragement rather than letting the word shape and change us.

When we commit to reading the whole Bible, many of our days will be unexpectedly shaped by Old Testament battles, prophetic visions, architectural details, and stories of tender mercy. Our gaze is now settled on our God, on his story, on his plans. The word takes our eyes off of our emotions and our days, and lifts them up to high hills and the things of God.

If we read more of the Bible alongside other women, it also inspires more conversation about God and his word. When something jumps out in the text, and we mention it to someone who has been reading the same text, we experience a lovely (and unusual) blessing. I remember a flurry of conversations from last fall over the beauty of David asking God to spare the people from punishment for his sin and to let it fall instead on him and his household.

“We want to become women of the word, not women who dabble in God’s word occasionally.”

David has sinned grievously by taking a census (2 Samuel 24:1–2), and deserved the judgment of God. It was the only time I could remember someone in Scripture asking for the wrath of God to be poured out on him (2 Samuel 24:17). And the angel stopped the plague (2 Samuel 24:16). Despite what he had done, David was a man after God’s own heart. And not only was God’s wrath over this sin averted, but his wrath over all sin was eventually poured out on David’s household. Christ himself was born into David’s family to die for God’s people — the Son of God, the Son of David.

I don’t think anyone would have looked at a group of busy women — carpooling, shopping for groceries, working, running out to lunch, overwhelmed with various responsibilities — and thought, You know what will really bless these women today? The plague God brought on Israel because of David’s census. Let’s get them all to see Jesus in 2 Samuel 24, and find encouragement for their busy afternoon there. And yet that is what God did.

Living and Active in Experience

When our gaze shifts this way, we begin seeing our life through the lens of the glorious story God is telling. Often, we read something that does not seem to connect with us at that moment, so we simply read it and move on. Later, sometimes weeks later, it comes burning to the front of our minds with relevance. Now we know why God had us read about complaining in the wilderness last week. Now we know why he wanted us shaped by laments in the Psalms. Now we realize he was strengthening us with some real hope that we barely even noticed while we read.

The more the word connects directly to our lives, the more we see how living and active it is. The more we see our friends strengthened in the Lord for their everyday responsibilities and burdens, the more we see the wonder in what God has given us in his word — not because we affirm a confession that says the word is invaluable, but because we know its preciousness from personal experience.

We have felt it piercing to joint and marrow, encouraging, convicting, and strengthening our souls (Hebrews 4:12). We have seen the tender hand of our God in what we have read, and how that word has equipped us for every good work (2 Timothy 3:17). We know firsthand that this word from God revives the soul, makes wise the simple, rejoices the heart, enlightens the eyes, and rewards the faithful hearer (Psalm 19:7–11).

God’s Great Portrait of God

Reading more Bible also has the effect of strengthening our spiritual immune systems. When someone offers us an untruth, we know! Many women I have been reading with, for instance, have come face to face with a Jesus they do not feel like they know.

“The Bible is a sketch of God made by the hand of God.”

Our discussions have sounded eerily similar to the mob that followed Jesus around in the Gospels. “Did he really just say that?” “That was rude!” “How could he talk like this?” “Why can’t I understand his parables?” How could a Christian not recognize Christ? It happens when we have not been listening to how he reveals himself to us, depending instead on others to tell us who our God is, what he cares about, what he is like, and what all of that means for us.

The Bible you have on your shelf is not some kind of police sketch made by some observer off in the distance. The Bible is how God himself has chosen to reveal himself to us. It is a sketch of God made by the hand of God. This well is beyond any of our capacities to drink in fully. God must grow our ability to see him while we read, and continually make us new with what we read. He must, by his word, renew our minds, enlarge our hearts, strengthen our faith, and equip his saints.

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When we faithfully read the word, not dabbling about but really reading it all, it will change us. We’ll be changed in the laws, and in the prophets. We’ll be changed in the mercies, and in the judgments. We’ll be changed by the passages that don’t sit right with us at first, and by those that immediately make our hearts glad.

If God has given us this incredible gift, and we stand every day on the edge of its vastness, why do we so often try to talk each other into smaller and smaller portions? Why do we stick to the passages that look good on a mountainy background? Does the size of this canyon make you sick? some ask. Try the verse of the day! That is enough! Meditate on one word, maybe ‘forgiveness,’ or ‘compassion!’ Listen to a praise song! We settle for less because we are afraid of what this canyon’s vastness says about us. It shows us our littleness in making God bigger, our brokenness in making us whole, and our weakness in making us strong.

When the size of the canyon makes you feel like you aren’t enough, the answer is not to run away, but to throw yourself into it with a prayer:

Lord, make me more like you. Let me understand more of you. Show me my weakness that I might hold on to your strength. Lord, make me into a woman of your word, and in doing so make me part of your glorious kingdom work here on earth. Equip me to see more of you every day until I am in your presence.

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There is a big difference between a woman of the Word and a woman of the world. Which one are you?

To help us determine which kind of woman we are, we’re going to look at two lists.  One is a list of women the world deems outstanding, and the other list is the characteristics of a godly woman from various scriptures, i.e. a woman of the Word.

Instead of trying to come up with a list of characteristics of the world’s best woman, I just looked up the top ten women, chosen by the world’s standards. There were so many different categories of bests – athletes, most beautiful, most powerful, etc. I chose to use the first five of the top ten most outstanding women of 2015 by askmen.com, and put a little bit about why they chose these particular women.

What is a woman of the world?

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Top 5 Most Outstanding Women of 2015:

  1. Emma Watson- Actress. “Her alignment with the United Nations’ “He for She” campaign has made her the face of feminism right now, and she’s helping change the way men think about women. Now that’s power.”
  2. Ronda Rousey- UFC fighter. “A pioneer in the women’s division.”
  3. Kim Kardashian- Celebrity. “A force to be reckoned with.”
  4. Taylor Swift- Singer – “Megastar.”
  5. Lindsey Vonn-The greatest female skier of all time. “A warrior.”

They are all famous, the best in their field, strong, rich, stylish, successful, physically fit, and beautiful by the world’s standards. They are all inspirational and influential women.

Worldly women have to work fastidiously to get to where they are and maintain it. Life is all about the image they portray.  They are in the spotlight constantly, being watched by the world. If they want to keep that position, they have to work their tails off to be the best at what they do. I bet it’s exhausting to live that life!

A woman of the world doesn’t have to be famous. Any woman who chooses to chase after fame, money, and possessions is worldly. And those carnal Christians, that live like lost sinners do, they are not women of the word, but of the world.

What is a woman of the word?

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  1. The aged women in the church- Behavior that becomes holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things. Titus 2:3
  2. The younger women in the church Sober, love their husbands, love their children, discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good and obedient to their own husbands. Titus 2:4
  3. Deacon and bishop’s wives Grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. 1Timothy 3:11
  4.  Wives in general Submissive to their husbands, reverent to their husbands, in subjection to their husbands, possess a meek and quiet spirit. Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:22-24 & 33, 1Peter 3:1-6.

Based on the Bible’s definition, a woman of the word is holy, temperate, and loving. She is a discreet woman who is faithful.

A woman of the word is a virtuous woman-Proverbs 31:10-31. She fears the Lord and walks in wisdom.

The Bible says that men look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart (1Samuel 16:7). A woman of the word focuses on having a clean heart, a sober mind, a submissive spirit, and a surrendered will.

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  1.  EvaluateHonestly and prayerfully evaluate where you’re at. Psalm 139:23-24- Search me, O God, and know my hear: try me, and know my thoughts: and see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
  2. EliminateGet rid of wrong thinking, false doctrine, sin, and excuses. Confess it, forsake it, and don’t return to it. 2Corinthians 7:1Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.
  3. Establish The Bible needs to be the authority in your life. Root yourself in truth. Psalm 119:38- Stablish thy word unto thy servant, who is devoted to thy fear.
  4. ExecuteObey the word. Change isn’t easy, but the reward of obedience is well worth the effort. James 1:22-But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.

Study the scriptures, saturate your mind with truth, surrender your will to God’s, stay Spirit-filled, and you will be a woman of the word!

Read, study, and apply the Bible to become a woman of the word

The more time we spend with Jesus, who is the Word made flesh, the more the Bible soaks down into our souls. When it’s in us, God’s word will naturally pour out of us. That is how we are transformed from women of the world to women of the word. We learn the word of God and live it out!

Here are some articles I’ve written to help you learn how to study the Bible and become a woman of the word.

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Bible Study for Busy Women~ 20 Minute Word Study

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3 Study Tips to Sweeten Bitter Scriptures: Dealing with difficult bible verses

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1 John 2:15 KJV ~ Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

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3 Compelling Reasons to Become a Woman of the Word

I was doing the dishes in my kitchen while listening to a podcast when I heard something that caused me to stop in my tracks. The speaker on the other end of my earbuds was a woman named Jen Wilkin.

She was teaching a session on why it’s vitally important for Christian women to know the Bible.

The phrase that caused me to halt my dish washing went something like this:

“We, as American women may not be illiterate in the normal sense, but we are becoming more and more Bible illiterate with each passing day.”

I was instantly struck by that term — “Bible illiterate.”

Jen went on to share how many Christian woman today who grew up attending church on a regular basis, know very little about their own Bibles.

Their knowledge of the Old Testament and New Testament is so minimal, that even locating certain books of the Bible is a challenge.

Jen wasn’t trying to belittle or demean anyone, but was simple sharing the reality of what is happening in many churches today. She was ultimately calling modern Christian women (you and me) to become women of the Word.

After I finished listening to the podcast, I sat down and thought about my own Bible reading habits. Am I a woman who knows the Word? Do I love God’s Word and prioritize my time to study it? Am I competent in understanding the context, history, and cultural background of Scripture? Do I love my Savior more as a result of spending time in His word?

As these questions swirled around in my mind, I felt a mixture of emotions rise up.

I felt convicted for not prioritizing God’s word more in my life on a daily basis. But at the same time I felt a rush of excitement inside of me at the thought of becoming a passionate woman for God’s Word.

And so, with that — I decided to focus on one primary prayer in my heart, “Lord, please make me a woman of your Word this year.”

That specific prayer has been on repeat in my heart and mind this entire year. And as result, I have been so much more intentional to dig into God’s Word on a daily basis. It has been amazing!

As modern Christian women, I am realizing more and more how vitally important it is that we are not Bible illiterate.

If we’re Bible illiterate, we will not know much about God, His plan for redemption, His character, His ways, His truths, His commands, His justice, His Grace, or His love.

Bible illiterate women quickly become lukewarm women…which makes us very ineffective for God’s kingdom (Revelation 3:15-16).

As I’ve been studying God’s Word more intentionally, and striving to become a woman of the word, I’ve see 3 compelling reasons for why this is essential for us, as Christian women, to do.

1. A Woman of the Word Knows God.

The only way we can know God on a personal level, is through studying His Word. The Bible is ultimately a story about God from the beginning to the end. The more we study the Bible, the more we will learn about our incredible God and Savior.

The more we learn about our God, the more in awe we will become of who He is. That sense of awe and wonder will drive us to worship and love Him in deeper and more profound ways.

We will be compelled to praise His name like the Psalmist in Psalm 145:3, “Great is the Lord, and greatly to be praised, and his greatness is unsearchable.”

2. A Woman of the Word Loves God’s Ways.

The more we study God’s Word, the more we will learn about God’s ways. God isn’t neutral on most issues. He has specific ways that He desires for His children to walk in. “Blessed is everyone who fears the LORD, and walks in His ways” (Psalm 128:1). 

By becoming women of the Word, we will gain true wisdom and learn to discern from what is good and holy, and what is evil and unholy. We begin to see through the lies of our culture because we will be grounded in God’s truth.

I love the way these verses in Psalm 19 describe God’s ways: “The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul; the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple; the precepts of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes; the fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever; the rules of the Lord are true, and righteous altogether.”

3. A Woman of the Word is Uncompromising.

In a culture that is rapidly disintegrating down a moral and spiritual landslide, we must stand firm on the solid foundation of God’s Word. We must know what God’s Word says, and then stand firm by His truth.

A faithful woman of the Word becomes a strong woman who is uncompromising on God’s truth (Romans 12:2). Just because something’s popular, doesn’t make it right or true . Regardless of how popular and accepted sin may become in our modern day, a woman of the Word will be uncompromising.

I want to challenge you to do what I did that day.

Ask yourself the question, “Am I Bible illiterate?” Then ask yourself, “How can I become a woman of the Word starting today?”

“When women grow increasingly lax in their pursuit of Bible literacy, everyone in their circle of influence is affected. Rather than acting as salt and light, we become bland contributions to the environment we inhabit and shape, indistinguishable from those who have never been changed by the gospel. Home, church, community, and country desperately need the influence of women who know why they believe what they believe, grounded in the Word of God. They desperately need the influence of women who love deeply and actively the God proclaimed in the Bible.” — Jen Wilkin

I highly encourage you to grab a copy of Jen Wilkin’s book, Women of the Word and begin learning more about how to become that kind of woman.

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A woman who can be expected to keep or follow through with her promises or intentions; a truthful, trustworthy, or reliable person. (Masculine: «man of his word.») Bob, I’m a woman of my word. If I tell you I’ll be at your house tomorrow morning at 10, then that’s when I’ll be there. I’ve found Mary to be a woman of her word so far, so I’m confident she’ll get us the best deal possible. If Tammy said that she’ll help you move, then she’ll definitely be here—she’s a woman of her word.

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Displaying personal dependability: a woman of her word.

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  • a woman of few words
  • woman of many parts
  • business girl
  • badge bunny
  • marked woman
  • of easy virtue
  • a woman for all seasons
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Being a man of your word may sound like a traditional ideal, but even in the modern age personal ideals like trust, integrity and honesty have significant importance in social and professional interactions. Establishing a reputation as a man of your word can benefit you in your personal life as well as at work, and you may find that you experience a higher level of satisfaction when interacting with others when you fulfil your commitments. Being a man of your word is ultimately about being honest with yourself and others, which may require a significant amount of self-control.

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    Treat small promises with the same level of importance as big ones. Being a man of your word means more than simply following through with the commitments you think people will remember; it means following through no matter what.[1]

    • Place the same value on keeping small promises as you do on keeping the big ones.
    • Remember that being a man of your word is about integrity, and integrity matters even when no one is watching.[2]
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    Write your commitments down. Writing your commitments down can help you change how you think about them, as well as being a great tool to help you remember them. Use index cards to write important commitments or promises out and keep them someplace safe that is preferably visible to you on a daily basis.[3]

    • Writing your commitments down may make you feel more accountable for actions.
    • The act of writing your commitments down can help you to remember them.[4]

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    Bridge the gap between abstract long term commitments and short term experiences. It can sometimes be easy to make commitments that would be unpleasant to keep because we tend not to think of things in the medium to distant future in a real way. If someone asks you to help them move next month, for instance, you are more likely to say yes than if they were to ask about this Sunday. That’s because discomfort in the distant future doesn’t seem real in the present.[5]

    • Viewing future events in an abstract sense is called the “planning fallacy” and it can lead you to make commitments for the future that you may not otherwise have made.
    • Try to think of the things you are agreeing to do as though you were about to go do them right now. Don’t agree to do things you wouldn’t normally accept doing.
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    View your commitments as a privilege. While it’s easy to see the commitments you have to others as burdens, try to reframe the way you see them to reflect the trust others must have in you. You have earned the respect of people in your life, and as a part of that respect, commitments have arisen.[6]

    • Following through on your word is a great way to show the people in your life that you care about them.
    • People rely on you based on trust and respect. Having commitments to others is borne out of the respect and trust people have for you.
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    Don’t agree to do things you don’t want to do. Sometimes it may be tempting to agree to do something in conversation that you don’t really want to do. Social or peer pressure can leave you agreeing to do something in the moment, despite not actually wanting to keep the commitment.[7]

    • Don’t succumb to peer pressure when asked to do something that you truly don’t want to do. This will make it easier not to go back on your word later.
    • Treat your commitments as a valuable asset that you don’t give away lightly.
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    Don’t use excuses. If you find that you will not be able to fulfil a commitment that you’ve made, take responsibility for it. Making excuses can seem disingenuous, and it removes your responsibility to follow through. Instead, be honest and apologetic when you need to cancel plans.[8]

    • If you are uncomfortable explaining why you can’t fulfil a promise, apologize sincerely and explain that you will try not to let it happen again.
    • Disallowing yourself from using excuses will help motivate you to keep your promises and fulfill commitments.
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    Don’t be vague about what you are committing to do. Do not say that you may be able to do something if you don’t believe that you will for the sake of casual conversation. Instead, make solid commitments to do things when you intend to, and clearly explain that you cannot when you don’t.[9]

    • Don’t use vague wording like, “I’m not sure but I’ll try,” when you don’t want to do something.
    • Be honest and clear about what you can and can’t do. It’s better to say you won’t be able to do something now then to make excuses later.
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    Do what you said you’d do, even if you don’t want to do it. Force yourself to keep your word, even if you don’t want to at times. Sometimes you may commit yourself to something at a moment when it seems like something you wouldn’t mind doing, only to find yourself lacking the motivation or energy when the time comes to fulfill your commitment. Don’t allow yourself to fall through because of a change of heart.[10]

    • Always keep your promises and fulfil your commitments to the utmost of your ability.
    • Keeping your word even when you don’t want to will help to teach you not to commit to things you will not want to do.
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    Get a commitment partner. Find someone that you trust and ask them to be your commitment partner. A commitment partner is someone you share your personal, professional or social commitments with so they can hold you accountable for your actions. If you struggle to keep your commitments, a commitment partner could be a great tool for you.[11]

    • Use your best friend or significant other as your commitment partner so they can ask you if you fulfilled the commitments you discuss with them.
    • Having someone to answer to can help motivate you to keep your commitments.
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    Schedule reminders for yourself on your phone or in your calendar. If you find yourself unable to follow through with commitments because you forget about them, try scheduling reminders for yourself on your phone or e-mail calendar.

    • Most iPhones and Androids have applications that allow you to set reminders to go off at specific times and dates.
    • E-mail applications like Outlook can also provide you with reminders of things you have committed to do.
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    Keep commitments you make to yourself. Following through is a habit, and as such you need to treat all commitments with equal importance. That means you must keep the promises you make to yourself as well as those you make to others.[12]

    • When you decide to do something, do it, regardless of who you committed to.
    • Following through on your word no matter what will help make it second nature and eventually will require less and less mental effort.
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    Make a habit of keeping your promises. When you make keeping your word a habit, it will become second nature to you. Instead of using tools to help you keep your word, you can train yourself to do so without having to convince yourself.

    • Make keeping your promises a habit so it requires less and less self-convincing to follow through.
    • Maintaining such a habit will lead others to see you as a man that keeps his word.
    • When you have a reputation for being honest, people will see you as being reliable, trustworthy, honorable, and consistent.[13]
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