Fear of hearing the word no

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Ohiphobia is the fear of the word ‘no’.

Common Causes and Triggers of Ohiphobia

There are a large variety of reasons that cause or trigger the fear of the word ‘no’. But the most prominent ones are are:

• Upbringing – People who are raised by people that either are afraid, or have transmitted a sense of uncertainty or danger related to the word ‘no’, might experience Ohiphobia most commonly.
• Past Experience – It might be also induced, or suggested from people that might have had bad past experiences with/in the word ‘no’.
• Genetics – A persons ancestors that have been fearful of the word ‘no’ were probably more likely to survive and pass down these fearful genes to their children and so on.

Treatment of Ohiphobia

For many individual who are suffering from the word ‘no’ – Ohiphobia. Don’t always feel the need of treatment because they can just avoid the object of their fear. This gives people suffering from Ohiphobia a feeling of control on the problem. But sometimes avoiding the word ‘no’ might not be possible or enough.

It is important for someone to always seek professional help when possible. This way you don’t lose time and do a better job and understanding what is happening. With understanding you can next move on to overcoming your fear of the word ‘no’.

While most phobias are curable, there is no single treatment available for all of them, or guaranteed to work. It strongly depends on the person suffering and severity in which that person is experiencing Ohiphobia. There are cases that a combination of treatments might be more effective.

Please be advised that you should not take treatment on your own! Always consult with a doctor before hand. The treatments mentioned below are for informational purposes and not specific to Ohiphobia. The treatments below are used on most phobia cases.

Talking Treatments for Ohiphobia

Talking treatments or talking therapies, which include counselling, might be very effective at treating fear of the word ‘no’ or Ohiphobia. Talking therapies are very laid back treatments and physically non intrusive which involve talking to a highly trained and proficient professional about your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. There are many different types of talking therapy, but they all aim to:

• help you recognise unhelpful patterns in the way you think or act, and find ways to change them (if you want to).
• help you resolve complicated feelings, or find ways to live with them
• help you make sense of things and understand yourself better
• give you a safe time and place to talk to someone who won’t judge you

Talking therapies are in most cases the same as counselling, therapy, psychotherapy, psychological therapy, talking treatment. There is usually a very little difference between what’s meant when talking about any of these.

(CBT) Cognitive behavioural therapy

CBT treatments stand on the concept that what we thing and perceive are constantly influencing our behaviour. Experiencing anxiety and distress are in some cases distorting and bending ones perception over reality. Cognitive behavioural therapy aims to identify if they are an accurate depiction of reality, and, if they are not, employ strategies to challenge and overcome them.

For example when someone is experiencing Ohiphobia. Through the help of Cognitive behavioural therapy you could identify if the fear and anxiety experienced from the word ‘no’ is an accurate depiction of reality. And if not working on ways to change that.

Medication

Medication should be never taken without asking a doctor first. In general medication is not recommended for overcoming phobias. Therapies have resulted to be a definitive way to overcome fears. However some types of medication are prescribe as short term solutions to the side effects of phobias. Which include anxiety or depression. There are three general types of medication recommended for treating anxieties.

1. antidepressants
2. tranquillisers
3. beta-blockers

Symptoms of Ohiphobia

Phobias should never be taken very lightly. Because, all phobias can to some degree limit a persons daily activities and are in some cases the root cause that make someone experience anxiety and leading up all the way to depression.

The People that are suffering from phobias, are most of the times purposely avoid coming into contact with what it is that triggers them to experience fear or anxiety. For example people that suffer from Ohiphobia, which is a words phobia, try to avoid not only the exact objects or situations that trigger it but sometimes in severe cases the thought of those thing all together.

There have been a lot of cases in which an individual has develop a phobia from the word ‘no’ where they become fearful of experiencing anxiety itself because it would make them feel very uncomfortable.

A person doesn’t necessarily need to be in a situation exposed to the word ‘no’ to experience Ohiphobia. The brain doesn’t have to be in that situation to experience the symptoms of panic. A persons brain is capable of creating a reaction to fearsome situations even when the subject is not actually in that situation.

People are different and so are all the types of phobias someone might suffer from. So the symptoms also vary strongly on the severity in which an individual is experiencing these fears. But generally speaking, words phobias and fears such as Ohiphobia fall under the category of anxiety disorders. Meaning that a person can experience any if not all of the below mentioned physical and/or psychological symptoms.

Ohiphobia Physical Symptoms

People with fear of the word ‘no’ often experience panic attacks. These panic attacks can be extremely frightening and distressing for the person suffering from those. These symptoms most of the time happen suddenly and without any prior signs or warnings. No matter how overwhelming feelings of anxiety, a panic attack can cause real physical symptoms, such as but not limited to the ones below:

• sweating
• trembling
• hot flushes or chills
• shortness of breath or difficulty breathing
• a choking sensation
• rapid heartbeat (tachycardia)
• pain or tightness in the chest
• a sensation of butterflies in the stomach
• nausea
• headaches and dizziness
• feeling faint
• numbness or pins and needles
• dry mouth
• a need to go to the toilet
• ringing in your ears
• confusion or disorientation
• hyperventilation
• tightness in the chest/chest pain and difficulty breathing
• rise in blood pressure

Ohiphobia Psychological Symptoms

In some very severe cases, a person suffering a panic attack triggered from Ohiphobia. Usually when exposed to its triggers such as the word ‘no’. Can have one/or all of the following symptoms.

• fear of losing control
• fear of fainting
• feelings of dread
• fear of dying
• fear of harm or illness
• guilt, shame, self-blame
• Withdrawing from others
• Feeling sad or hopeless
• Feeling disconnected
• Confusion, difficulty concentrating
• Anger, irritability, mood swings
• anxiety and fear

On some very special cases, there may be people experiencing intertwined phobias. Or what may be called complex phobias. These can often have a detrimental effect on a person’s everyday life and mental wellbeing. Because they may limit someones life so much that they become uncap-able of leading a normal personal and social life. Hence triggering a chain reaction of the above mentioned symptoms and lastly depression.

Self-help with Ohiphobia

One of the best ways to overcome any difficulty or be prepare if any might arise in life, is to take good care of oneself. Being able to know how to help yourself is vital not to just be able to control your fear of the word ‘no’, but also other phobias and anxieties before they get more severe.

How many opportunities have you missed because you wanted to avoid hearing the word «No»?

Hearing the word «No» is a common fear all of us have. Nobody likes to be rejected.

Can you remember how it felt when you were a little kid and your parents told you «No»?

I bet it hurt, and now that you are older it hurts even more.

The word «No» is associated to the feeling of Pain. We all have an innate desire to avoid pain.

You can reduce your chances of hearing «No» if you know where the other person stands before you ask them a question.

How can you find out where the other person stands? You first need to send a small signal. Any signal asking for a small request and your request should be easy enough to say Yes to.

By asking for a small request you eliminate your chances of being rejected. It’s just like dating, you would never go up to someone you just met and ask them to marry you. If you did, your chance of hearing «No» would be near 100 percent and if they say yes, you better run.

If you want to motivate yourself, you need to start hearing the word Yes. Yes, and I mean any little Yes.

If you wanted to sell your product to a retail buyer, your approach has to be nonthreatening.

You should ask them if it’s OK for you to send them a sample of your product. This is a great way to get them in the habit of saying yes. Do you really expect them to say no to such a small request?

Your ultimate initial goal is to get them to say yes to anything. If you were drowning, would you want me to throw you a life jacket? I hope you would say Yes.

Statistics show that the average sale requires five closing attempts before a prospect is ready to make an emotional commitment. Most people don’t make it to the fifth attempt because they cringe at the sound of «No». So they give up and stop pursuing the prospect.

When you were a kid and asked your parents for something, you would not stop asking till you got it. For some reason we knew at an early age that persistence paid off and we did not have a fear of hearing «No».

We need to have this same determination not to give up so we can get what we want.

You know the feeling. You’re about to reach out to a prospect to make “the ask.”

Your stomach is a little queasy. A drop of sweat trickles down your forehead.

The fear of the dreaded NO is something that consumes far too much of your mental space.

But does it have to be that way?

I don’t think so.

This is how you can both increase the probability of getting a Yes while simultaneously releasing your fear of a No.

Full Transcript

Hey, it’s Adrian. And I want to talk to you about probably all of our least favorite word in the human language. The word, no. I am a parent. I have three young kids and I definitely am very aware of the fact that they do not like hearing the word “No”. They are experts at persistence and overcoming the word “No”. And as adults, I think we get much more afraid and much more conditioned to try to avoid that word and in, so doing, what do we do? We make up stories about why somebody is going to say no. And we say no on their behalf, before we ever even pick up the phone and ask them something or ask them for something. And we talk ourselves out of the conversation because we are trying to keep ourselves safe from that word “No”. And so if that resonates for you, put the word safe in the comments.

Cause I have a feeling that I am not alone on that sort of feeling and that sort of basis. Hey Steve bathroom. Good to see you brother. And “no” is just one of these things that is, it’s hard to hear it and it can be discouraging. And it’s so easy at times to have this sense of I’m going to put myself out there, I’m going to go for it. And then I hear the word. No, and I just I’m deflated. And it takes me a while to get back on the horse. And maybe I take a little bit longer or I take the day off, or I do whatever I do busy work, or I go and I hang out on a training or I do something that makes me busy, but maybe not productive and not moving my business forward because I am afraid.

So Kofi, thanks for dropping that in there. I I’m glad that that resonates for you. And so I want to give you a little framework for how I think about no and how this might help you. So I am, there’s a book out there called “Go For No”. I’m oversimplifying that book. That book is not about trying to get as many people as possible to say no to you. It’s about how to overcome your fear of the no, which I agree with, but I hate the word “No.” I want to have the highest batting average possible. I want to increase my likelihood of getting a yes to as high of a level as humanly possible. So on one hand, I want to get to where I am highly confident in the likelihood of receiving a yes, when I’m making an ask. But on the other hand, I need to get rid of the fear of hearing a “No”.

And so how do I do that? How can I get better at that? And I’ll be the first to say, I’m not perfect at this, right? This is a process for all of us. We are in a process of getting better and trying to learn how to implement these things and how to be more effective. But here’s something that has helped me. So number one is I want to minimize the likelihood that the other person’s going to say no to me. So how do I do that? Number one is I need to understand who that person is. I need to understand what it is that that person is trying to achieve. I need to understand what it is that is meaningful to that person. And I don’t, it’s not going to take me forever to get to the answer to those things, but I’m going to spend some time having a conversation with them.

I’m maybe going to spend some time on their social media, looking a little bit at what they’re up to and what they seem to care about. I want to have a sense of that. And so that’s number one, and it’s super, super important. I would say it’s a highly under valued skill to build. And it’s something that most people pass over because frankly, either they’re too scared or they’re too busy, some combination of those two things. And so if you would like some help in how to really understand what it is that somebody is trying to achieve so that you can ask the right kind of questions and minimize the likelihood of no. What I want you to do is put the word guide in the comments and I will send you a free copy of a guide that we put together on how to have better conversations.

That’s a number one bestseller on Amazon. So we sell it on Amazon. I’d be happy to send you a PDF copy of it for free, and you can check that out. So put guide in the comments, if you would like to receive that for free, but we can help you to ask better questions so that you understand what the other person is trying to achieve. So that’s number one, you got to have a really clear understanding of what that other person is trying to achieve. Number two is when it comes time to make an ask, your job is to figure out how can I clearly intersect? How can I clearly connect what it is that I’m asking this person to do to what they care about and how they win. So I want to put those two things together as clearly as possible. So that when I make that ask that I really believe that I have, I I’m serving you by making that ask, because I know what you’re after.

And what I’m essentially doing is selling you what you have already told me you want to buy, I’m connecting, whatever it is that I’m offering to what it is that you’re looking for. When those two things intersect together, when they overlap together, why would the person say no? Because now you are actually giving them exactly what they have told you they want to receive. And so Ronno awesome. I will, I’ll get that to you right after we wrap this up the free guide. And so again, I need to understand what it is that you want to achieve. I need to learn how to identify that in conversation. Maybe I’m going to do a little background research prior to the conversation. And then I need to think about what it is that I have to offer and how can I connect those two things together so that you can receive what I’m offering and asking you as a win for you.

So that’s number two. Number three is once I have done that now I don’t have to be afraid of the no anymore, because here’s what happens when I’m in that place. I have incredibly high conviction that I genuinely am serving them by making this request or asking you to take a look at this thing. I know that I know what you need. I know what I have in the value of it. I see the intersection of those two things. And I’m offering it in a way that is low pressure. That is not something that feels like a scam or a pitch or a trap or whatever, right? It’s like, Hey, I think this is, I think this would be great for you based on this specific thing that you said or that I’ve seen about you. I think you’d love it. Would you be open?

Would you take a look? Would you like to try it out? Whatever that is. So it’s as simple as doing that. And so now once that’s happened, that doesn’t mean that you’re never going to get a no, right? So I might offer you the most valuable thing in the world. I might offer you something amazing that I know is going to serve you. And what I can’t know is maybe you have a huge scarcity mindset. Maybe you are going, you have so many opportunities. You have such an abundance of opportunity coming to you right now that no matter how good something is, you just don’t have time to take on one more thing. Maybe like there’s, there’s a whole host of things that could be going on for you that I couldn’t know about that are, the timing is not right, whatever it is. And that’s okay.

And my job is to not get attached and to not make it mean something about me. And to be confident that in offering that to you, that I really did desire to serve you and to create a win-win. And if it’s not for you right now, that’s totally cool. And I’m still want to be your friend. I still like you, that I’m not going to get weird. I’m not going to let you get weird. We’re just going to move on in our relationship. And I’m still going to stay in touch. I’m still gonna love on you every couple of months when my Contact Mapping app reminds me to do that. And that’s all it is. So here’s, here’s the recipe. I’ve got to know what you want. I’ve got to know how what I have connects to what you want. And then I’ve got a disengage in disattach from the outcome, because if those two first things are true, then the outcome at the end is it’s just as so much less important.

Thank you so much, Pamela. Good to see you. So it’s as simple as that. And so here’s the last thing I’ll say, like I said, you’re going to, you’re going to become a master of this. You’re gonna learn, turn what people are up to and what they’re after you’re going to use that guide. I mentioned earlier. Yeah, you’re going to start learning all this stuff. And sometimes you’re going to learn that the timing isn’t right record. And remember what you learned about that person anyway, because it’s going to come in handy later when something shifts and now all of a sudden, and the conversation is the timing’s right. The offer’s right, whatever that looks like. And so how are you going to do that? The way you’re going to that is you need a tool. That’s going to help you to remember all these conversations, right?

Because otherwise, how am I going to keep track of what Pamela told me in a text message the other day, versus what Bocar is telling me versus what Steve bathroom up in Seattle, Washington. Who’s an amazing school teacher and this awesome entrepreneur is telling me, how am I going to keep all that stuff straight? When I’m talking to hundreds of people, it’s just not going to work anymore. And I’m not going to have it there in the moment. I need a tool to help me do that. And so if you would like to learn about how you can have a tool where you never forget anybody, where you remember these important things, and it reminds you to remember them and to come back to them and to love on them and to play back to them, their greatness so that when their timing changes, they think of you first and they’re ready to engage.

They want to call you. I have something that will blow your mind. And so if that’s you, and you could use a tool to help you put the word tool in the comment, please don’t write “you’re a tool” or I’ll feel very bad, but put the word tool in the comment. And I would love to share with you something that you can get started on completely for free. It will knock your socks off. I genuinely know that to be true. And so here’s the final breakdown, right? Know exactly what that other person is trying to achieve so that you can speak into that connect what you have to offer to what they are trying to achieve. So that is a win-win and they can hear it as such and then three don’t get attached to the outcome because if those first two things are true, then number three will take care of itself in the long run. And you’re still going to have a great relationship either way. So you haven’t lost anything. So hope that’s helpful. If it was tag somebody or share this hope to be able to serve you and to grow together, have an awesome weekend. I’ll talk to you soon. Bye-Bye.

Today is all about that two letter word that we all hate in our business; the word no. Specifically ,how to get over the fear you might have surrounding the word no.

So many times, we become paralyzed by the word no when we hear it. It stops you from inviting somebody to take the next step with you. Whether that means joining your free Facebook group, joining your email list, booking a call with you, or signing on to work with you.

This fear of hearing no can really slow down your progress in your business, which is why we need to address this head on in the beginning of the year, before it paralyzes our business.

In this week’s episode, we are talking about why the fear of no happens, how to deal with it, and address it in the future.

On this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why understanding why we are the way we are, starts to open up our capacity for change
• How gamifying the word no helps to counteract the social norm around the meaning of it
• Why never be pinning your hopes and dreams on one particular person saying yes or no

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